Guy is coming after my girl...What to do?

[Climax]

Don Juan De Joffe wrote that post, and for some reason he has my username and password from the last time that i looged onto this site from his computer, plz ifnore this thread.

thanx.

 

[la-migra-is-after-me]

u could......

Although the longest relationship ive ever had is 6 months (i can smell the flames coming already lol) the best thing to do i just laugh at him, b/c if she likes u then she wont do s*hit with him..so f*uck the other loser and just do ur thing.....

 

[xblitz44x]

Haha. Jesus. I'm sorry to laugh man but you rated your TWO MONTH relationship with her a perfect 10 out of 10 yet she is going on dates with another guy? And I promise you that you *don't* "know for a fact" that she won't touch him tomorrow. You just don't know. I have been out with a lot of girls with boyfriends waiting at home and I'm sure the guy "knew for a fact" that she wasn't going to give me oral then kiss him on the mouth when she got home.

But you did the right thing by not getting all jealous and insecure. The bottom line, as sad as it is, is that she is either going to be with you or she isn't. She'll either hook up with this guy, or she won't. And there is next to NOTHING you can do about that. The more you throw a hissy fit about it, the more it'll push her away from you and into his arms. So you have to keep your cool.

Are you guys exclusive...not dating anybody else? If so, when did you guys establish that? Personally, I would back off. It doesn't look good, regardless if you call it a "friendly date" until you're blue in the face. Back off casually and give her some space. Do your own thing. It doesn't sound like she's ready for a relationship.

Even if she doesn't like this guy, if she's in a relationship with you, she SHOULD like YOU enough to respect you and to be scared that if she dared to go out with another guy, that you'd be gone. Apparently this is no issue for her. Back off. I'm tellin' you.

 

[Giovanni Casanova]

ABANDON SHIP. I repeat, ABANDON SHIP.

You are being played but good. There is no question about it. In fact, the only question really is why in the hell are you putting up with this?

You're with a girl for two months, some guy asks her out, she says yes. She goes out with him. He asks her out to a romantic dinner and a movie. She says yes again.

You indicate that this is unacceptable and she gives you the Bold-Face Lying Cheater™ "Don't You Trust Me?" speech (patent pending). Would she trust YOU if the situation was reversed? Not if she was smart, she wouldn't.

I've been where you are right now, man. I was 150% sure I could trust the girl. She told me it was totally innocent and he was just a "friend". When I was skeptical, I got yelled at for not trusting her. She convinced me and I ignored it. After I broke up with her for cheating on me with another guy she informed me that my suspicions about this "friend" were also correct.

Bury your head in the sand at your own risk.

 

[Squid]

Dude, this won't end here, it will happen again and again. I think if it has reached the point where she goes on a date with another guy, it's pretty much over. The only question here is how long it will take you to realize it.

Your too young to worry about one girl anyway, go find a date of your own and forget about this chick. If she does want to stay with you she'll come running when she finds out about your date.

 

[Desdinova]

I agree with xblitz and Gio. She's doing stuff with some "friend" guy that she should be doing with you. I normally live by the "she'll make her choice" train of thought when she's talking to some other guy. She's already made her choice by her actions. Ditch the b1tch. No man needs another man dating his woman.

 

[WORKEROUTER]

Though it's difficult, you must go on doing YOUR own things and try to block this bullsh*t out of your mind. The truth is that she wil do what she wants to do, regardless of what you say. It seems like you're slightly infatuated with her, which is leading to a case of oneitis.

So here's what you do: Block her out of your mind. Do other things. Keep yourself busy. Go out with some other girls as well, and mention to her that you are. When you're with her, get out of the oneitis fairytale mindset you seem to have. You should give her a lot of attention when you are with her, have a really good time, but ALWAYS appear totally able to simply move on at anytime.

If you follow this mindset, it will work out in the end, and I bet she'll be coming back to you. But if you don't, and keep acting like a whiny AFC, infatuated loser, she'll end up dumping you.

 

[squirrels]

Tell her, "Do what you want."

And if she goes, don't ever speak to her again. No calls, no meetings, don't answer your phone, nothing.

If you HAD her interest locked down, she wouldn't even CONSIDER going out with this guy...she'd be so worried about what you'd think that she wouldn't even ASK you.

Or f**k...if you think you can handle it, keep her around but go see other girls on the side. Work her for as long as you're getting some and then when she's done, just move on to one of the others. She deserves no better.

 

[WORKEROUTER]

Originally posted by squirrels
Tell her, "Do what you want."

And if she goes, don't ever speak to her again. No calls, no meetings, don't answer your phone, nothing.

If you HAD her interest locked down, she wouldn't even CONSIDER going out with this guy...she'd be so worried about what you'd think that she wouldn't even ASK you.

Totally dumping her isn't the best idea

 

[biker_gixxer]

I have been out with a lot of girls with boyfriends waiting at home and I'm sure the guy "knew for a fact" that she wasn't going to give me oral then kiss him on the mouth when she got home.

Amen brotha...

 

[biker_gixxer]

Listen to what Giovanni Casanova is saying.

 

[JohnJones]

Originally posted by biker_gixxer
I have been out with a lot of girls with boyfriends waiting at home and I'm sure the guy "knew for a fact" that she wasn't going to give me oral then kiss him on the mouth when she got home.

Amen brotha...

Sometimes the b/f at home has even made her PROMISE she won't do anything naughty ...

Are you two exclusive in any meaningful way? Did she raise it?

I think your reaction was fine, I just think that you might have calmly explained (assuming that you are exclusive with her) that it's not appropriate for her to be going out with the guy.

She basically told you "who cares what you think."

 

[NewMan]

This is what you need to do:

let her do whatever she wants. Because, what she is able to do you are able to do. Let me tell you this - you have FAR MORE opportunity than she does to go out with other chicks. Tomorrow you can go out and meet 100 girls and ask them all for their number. What I'm saying is, that you need to reverse this phsycology of yours - from worrying about her - to her worrying about YOU.

It's important though to maintain your reaction and interaction with her. SHE CAN NOT THINK LET HER THINK THAT THIS BOTHERS YOU FOR A SECOND.

So she goes out with this guy - you say cool - go for it. Sounds good.

Now - you need to go looking for other women. If you don't have someone on the side pretend and get one FAST.

Back the hell off from her. Cancel some plans that you guys have had. Go out with your boys - go out with girls even if they are your friend. Point is, put this chick on the back burner - but, and this is important - continue to fvck her.

But you've got to stop being such a nice guy and get a life outside of her. Emotionally detach from her.

She will ask you about it - and you tell her straight up - That your just hanging with your Friends. That yes, they maybe girls - they like you - but that she needs to trust you.

Fvck with her mind.

 

[TillTheEndOfTime]

Wake up man! Why is she going out on a date with another man!!? Her interest level in you must be dirt low!

Consider this running through her head:

"If this date doesn't work out then I always have aequitas waiting at home for me to keep me company."

You're a backup. A fallback guy. As someone else already mentioned, GET OUT! Staying in this crap would only make you a sucker. This relationship is doomed. Save yourself.

peace

 

[huge_guy_pimpin]

Originally posted by squirrels
Tell her, "Do what you want."

And if she goes, don't ever speak to her again. No calls, no meetings, don't answer your phone, nothing.

If you HAD her interest locked down, she wouldn't even CONSIDER going out with this guy...she'd be so worried about what you'd think that she wouldn't even ASK you.

Or f**k...if you think you can handle it, keep her around but go see other girls on the side. Work her for as long as you're getting some and then when she's done, just move on to one of the others. She deserves no better.

this is actually the best advice thus far.

 

[huge_guy_pimpin]

Originally posted by WORKEROUTER
Totally dumping her isn't the best idea

HOW ISNT IT?
why the hell would u take bull**** from a women
this is one instance where u must think before u do, because obviously u jus said sum dumb **** !

 

[huge_guy_pimpin]

Originally posted by TillTheEndOfTime
Wake up man! Why is she going out on a date with another man!!? Her interest level in you must be dirt low!

Consider this running through her head:

"If this date doesn't work out then I always have aequitas waiting at home for me to keep me company."

You're a backup. A fallback guy. As someone else already mentioned, GET OUT! Staying in this crap would only make you a sucker. This relationship is doomed. Save yourself.

peace

another great post.

 

[Climax]

this thread was started by some1 other than me... plz ignore it and do not continue to reply to it. thanx. and the original post was a laod of sh!t!