Guy asks if BF is around

[guitaronfire411]

Been dating this girl I met last summer officially for barely a month. She is very pretty but sometimes acts strange.

She has been raped by an ex before, or so she claims. She was going through her phone in front of me tonight when I randomly happened to be at her place when this guy asks if her BF (me) is around. He then writes something to her in French which I did not understand. I asked her who that was and she kept saying What? What? And said she thinks he has a gf. His profile says he is single.

She has told me about other guys hitting on her before and used to ask me what she should do. Clearly she should have no problems sharing any of this with me.

Should I be concerned? She said that she is with me but this has really bothered me and I should be sleeping.

She also asked me whato I thought of her going to a dinner party when I told her she should invite me along as her BF.

 

[Spaz]

Nothing wrong in a guy asking a girl anything actually.

What's wrong is when a girl is already taken but entertains other man texts. That's her being disrespectful to the relationship.

A woman in love will respect her man and knows her boundaries.

This relationship is lopsided in her favor.

 

[GuitarOnFire]

I agree it is wrong. She seems quite immature in some ways and then mature in others. I did some detective work and discovered "the guy" who had invited her out to a dinner-party (if it is indeed that) is her horny Indian ex from 2016 she said dry-humped the **** out of her in his basement. (no sex afaik) When she asked if it was OK and said she should be inviting me along (that's what my friends have done), she backed down and said she wouldn't go or something (she was quiet).

She messaged me first asking how the ride back home was and wished me a good day. She seemed (extra-)super attentive and struck me as feeling guilty and being weird. Then she says she is excited to hit up the gym lately even though usually she doesn't seem to care.. Suspicious? Strikes me that she is avoiding me and getting ready to leave and/or getting in better shape for the new guy but I can be paranoid.

She is 22, I am weeks from being 35. Her parents know this. She is a converted Mormon so a fringe person. Said last night she is careful who she hangs out with now because "people are weird" (I think) randomly after demanding I let her meet more friends of mine and that I am "hers". (she's super possessive it seems so that makes me doubt cheating..) The sketchy thing is we haven't had sex yet but I've touched her bare ass and rubbed her tits with clothes on. She seemed to be getting super aroused when I kinoed her shoulders last night so it might be forthcoming on V-Day..

 

[Focal core]

Im sorry man, but this girl has a crystal clear red flags everywhere, first telling you about her past bf, the phone scene and the dinner is intent to get you jelous and to get a better control out of you.Telling her past ex bf that he rape her doesnt sound quite right either

pay attention closely how she describe about her past bf, it will be quite the same of how she will remark on you once shes over with you. Shes trying putting you on edge as much as her could. This is clear indication that her intent to you is quite malicious.

Be careful this could get worse in time ahead, keep an arm length about getting too involved emotionally, prepare an exit would be wise.

 

[Serenity]

She doesn't seem to be entirely transparent judging from that response, not a good sign. Certainly not healthy for a relationship.

 

[sazc]

Oh boyeee

She's snowing you dude. She's trying to turn you into a sugar daddy while she still plays with her real friends.

 

[GuitarOnFire]

Interesting update. She has removed him from Facebook now. I confronted her in-person and she said I could see her phone if I wanted to. I said I did not, since I felt like if she wanted to be with him, she would have dumped me. She was making weird comments as I told her parents she had been invited to move in with me a while ago. After a weekend of romantic events, she was sitting on my crotch after church, letting me finger her hard with clothes on and, being the helpful guy that I am, I put her hand on my ****. She was so aroused from it all that she was yanking it until I made a mess in the pants she let me borrow.

She was asking what a ring meant so it should be interesting to see how this turns out. She was wearing it everywhere and showing it to her parents -- even wearing it to bed.

 

[Focal core]

Interesting update. She has removed him from Facebook now. I confronted her in-person and she said I could see her phone if I wanted to. I said I did not, since I felt like if she wanted to be with him, she would have dumped me. She was making weird comments as I told her parents she had been invited to move in with me a while ago. After a weekend of romantic events, she was sitting on my crotch after church, letting me finger her hard with clothes on and, being the helpful guy that I am, I put her hand on my ****. She was so aroused from it all that she was yanking it until I made a mess in the pants she let me borrow.

She was asking what a ring meant so it should be interesting to see how this turns out. She was wearing it everywhere and showing it to her parents -- even wearing it to bed.

Play along just get the goodies but dont get into the emotional entrapment, i sense a very toxic relationship here.if you falls for it, game over.

 

[guitaronfire411]

Well, she finally put out last weekend. She is quite a wild lady in the sack so it was worth it.

Problem is, I noticed she started doing weird things, like making it impossible for me to message her two friends. I tried making some moves on her on tuesday night and leading to sex and she got upset and pulled her pants back up! She gave me the silent treatment for most of yesterday and then when I tried to figure out what was bothering her, she claims she wedneaday evening that she thought our relationship was forced (Never heard a girl tell me this) and that she has been feeling this for a while. All of our kisses upt o this point seemed very nature and good.. Then fast-forward to last night.. holy crap.. she refused to kiss me on the bus or even lean on my shoulder.. she had changed her profile photo from a picture of us to a photo I took of her smiling.. she was being so negative the other day and was upset yesterday that I had pointed out to her.. then after all of these friend zone like behaviours.. i just assumed she had cheated on me since a girl can't get so angry like that, right? she kept on saying there was nothing to say...she just wanted to hangoit and be friends out of nowhere affter letting me touch her tits and tongue her like mad tuesday night!!!

so she said she wants space.. she is very busy.. has too many things on her plate right now (her mom wants her to move out now in June she claims instead of April and she also has done nothing towards getting her licence..) .. just bottled all of these complaints to me yet claims she mentioned them... what? nowhere did you say that me being annoyed by your fighting parents upset you?!

so it sucks. it looks like she has been on her pof account because it now asks for someonewith a career, a licence, etc. weird styff to put on your profile unless you want to be seen as a gold digger... which she told me her ex called her..now i believe it.. plus the fact she once told me she ruins relationships..amd cheats.. and i feel she has done that already to me..

 

[ohrein]

she once told me she ruins relationships..amd cheats..

I mean she told you.... You need to stop seeing this girl now, she's batshyt fvcking insane.

 

[MrWood]

fingering? dry humping? wtf!
Either you are 15yo, or live in an (east) Indian culture.

 

[Machine10033]

Dude move on.... you should have moved on when she said she was raped. I was hooking up with a girl that claimed she was sexually assaulted twice. It ended with her getting psychotic in a hotel room and me literally bolting out the door and running for freedom!!! Usually girls who have legit been assaulted will develop bpd and the girls that make it up are already bpd...run and change you freaking number

 

[Focal core]

game over.. RUN! fast! she has already started her drama on you.. u dont even know it what will hit u next.

 

[Billtx49]

game over.. RUN! fast! she has already started her drama on you.. u dont even know it what will hit u next.

Yep, he’s already in a triangulation and that Never gets better with time…

 

[Focal core]

hope ure smart enough to avoid her turning your brain into mashed potatoes.

 

[guitaronfire411]

She has been acting funny lately. Lots of break up lines which i ignored. i threatened to disappear when she LJBFed me and she got super critical. I stood my ground and stayed cool and collected. Be Bond-like. I know she was upset that I was unemployed and I have assured her I have been applying everywhere for weeks and weeks.

Last night I got scheduled for an interview and they did not even bother with the usual phone interview, so it looks really promising. We were kissing and so it escalated to touchin everywhere. She even grabbed my junk and started tugging. I pulled her pants off and gave her the best oral I have ever done.. THe sheets were soaked everywhere.. so she grabbed my junk and, to my surprise, inched it towards her crotch and pushed it in. She was super wet and I thrusted a bit but made sure I didn't ***. She asked and I assured her nothing happened. Then we did it with a condom and it was our best ever together. Really satisfying.

Guess everything is rainbows and sunshine again.

 

[sosousage]

She was going through her phone in front of me tonight when I randomly happened to be at her place when this guy asks if her BF (me) is around. He then writes something to her in French which I did not understand. I asked her who that was and she kept saying What? What? And said she thinks he has a gf. His profile says he is single.

She has told me about other guys hitting on her before and used to ask me what she should do.

yeah she let u see to manipulate you. why otherwise she would let you see? you think chicks are that dumb that they let you see their chat to get CAUGHT? no, to make you jealous

his profile says single >> girl saying "i think he has gf" while giggling to the phone
you ask her who is he and she says "what what " then continues speaking with him in french so you dont understand.

i think you respect your girl too much, date someone else

 

[VladPatton]

lmfao, man. Why the fvck would you take a 22 yr old nutjob this seriously??? You bang her, take her to a nice place a very few weeks, then try more porno positions with her so you get better at fvcking chicks with more worth in the future. Lions aren't concerned with the well being of sheep, man. Move on, enjoy a simpler life.

 

[guitaronfire411]

Thanks for the info. Everything was going smoothly and I was getting tons of ILU's... like ten on Saturday (?) alone! We have also been intimate more than ever before last weekend and it seemed like she was going to move in with me with no doubt whatsoever.

Her parents have not intervened and are not happy that I wanted to take things to the next level. Apparently I am now banned from hanging out with her at her parent's house and she is avoiding to answer the question as to whether she is still moving in. After a brief discussion, she agreed that we should try living together because she was freaking out over our future and was claiming our relationship was stressing her out (when it seems like it is the meddling of her parents that is doing this, in my opinion).

She only has another 2 weeks or so left on a contract and then says she wants to work less and focus on her future. She was talking about being my wifey and me being her hubby and we had a great weekend of multiple instances of hardcore intimacy. She still wants to hangout and go to the gym with me but isn't responding about coming over and spending te night at my place this weekend. However, she IS going to a wedding show with me alone so go figure??

How can I convince her parents that I am a good guy for her? Or to convince her that saving thousands of dollars living with me would be the wisest move?? We really seem to get along well and if there was less meddling from other people, things would be perfect between us...

 

[QuadDeuces]

Sob stories from plates go in one ear and out the other and then I change the subject.
Don't be a puppet for women's drama.

And yes hot girls will always have thirsty orbiters blowing up their phones. You must laught about it and spin plates and have options.
Nothing keeps a woman more in check than knowing that if she shows disrespect you have a phone full of other girls you can call or the social skills to pick up a new woman whenever you want.