De La Soul
Master Don Juan
The Guide to DON JUAN
1. Eliminate your desperation by focussing on your dreams and passions in life . Know that women are not what makes life good, what makes life good is recognising, following and working towards your dreams and passions. Achieving dreams is the ultimate source of happiness.
2. Embrace your sexuality . There is no other way. Embracing your sexuality means using kino, eye contact , and not being afraid to talk about sexual things. "A woman would rather be with a male, no matter how tyrannical, over an androgynous, no matter how nice". Make sure she knows you are a male, with male desires.
3. Be a challenge . Because you and your dreams are your number one priority in life you are dependent on nothing and nobody apart from yourself. So why would you put her on a pedestal like a queen? If you think of a female as a queen or some sort of supreme being, you will act like she is. If you act like she is, then she will know that you think of her that way. Once she realises that she has been able to put you under her spell she will think, “Hey, if this guy can become so obsessed with me, imagine what other guys I could get.” She will quickly run away to a more confident jerk.
4. Confidence and Charisma are more attractive than looks . Display your confidence. Think of yourself as the Great Catch, the one that all girls want to be with, the one that attracts girls like magnets. If you think of yourself this way, so will others. Don’t forget to smile.
5. Do not stop to think, never hesitate. Does a confident man stop to think about what could happen? No. A confident man (the good guy) strikes decisively without hesitating and should never regret it. An unconfident man (the nice guy) does this, and consequently the unconfident man is left to think about what could have happened if he had taken action.
Does a confident man stop to think about whether or not he should make a move, if a girl likes him, how he could get her to like him? No. A confident man doesn’t stop to think about the girl’s interests until they are dating. The confident man looks at all the girls and takes what he wants.
6. The confident man goes through life with the path of an arrow . He does not bend himself to fit into other peoples’ lives, he does not twist himself to appease the whims of others. He lives his life for himself. This does not mean that he is an uncaring jerk. He does take others needs into consideration but if others needs disrupt his purpose too acutely he will walk away and continue on his path.
7. The confident man sees failure as only a temporary set back to inevitable success . He knows that he is statistically more likely to be rejected than accepted. He also knows that if he increases his rate of attempts (without diminishing quality) the success will come, and he will barely notice the rejections. You can only have success, once you can accept failure.
Articles :
1. Pook, "Kill That Desperation":
Become the Great Catch! http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/Forum6/HTML/000199.html
2. Pook, "Be a Man":
Real men are in short supply, and high demand. You do the math. http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/Forum6/HTML/000371.html
3. CHALLENGE GUY, "COURAGE":
Just do it! http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/Forum6/HTML/000974.html
4. Paradox, "On Rejection":
You can only have success when you accept failure. After all, it's part of the game. http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/Forum6/HTML/000686.html
5. maranathaman, "The MOST Important Thing": Kino makes all the difference http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/Forum6/HTML/000793.html
6. Anti-Dump, "Treat All Women the Same...": Do this, and you have your own Love Machine, which will sort the best from the rest http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/Forum6/HTML/000063.html
7. Pook, "Patience: What Truly Makes a Don Juan":
Control You Eagerness http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/Forum6/HTML/000130.html
8. Rico, "Smiling":
If you don't smile, you don't have warmth http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/Forum6/HTML/000565.html
9. Poet, "How to be a better conversationalist":
Forget about those awkward silences! http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/Forum6/HTML/000235.html
10. Take No Dirt, "How to Keep a Gal":
For some, keeping is harder than getting http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/Forum6/HTML/001237.html
11. JuanWannabe, "Fine Tune You Sense of Humor":
Make her Laugh! http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/Forum6/HTML/000397.html
12. Giovanni Casanova, "Charm and Charisma": A charasmatic man attracts women like moths to a flame http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/Forum6/HTML/001621.html
13. DeepBlue, "What KINO is REALLY all about":
Find out how to do kino and why it is important http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/Forum6/HTML/001604.html
14. De La Soul, "The Alpha Male":
Become the leader of the pack http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/Forum6/HTML/001599.html
Quotes :
"As you think you shall become" - Pook
"ALWAYS be willing to walk away." – Pook
"If you don't do anything, and sit on your ass like a nice guy, you are already down for the count. You rejected YOURSELF." - Pulse
"Shy people THINK too much. Shy people react to situations when they should be acting/initiating" – Pook
"Want to talk to that gorgeous girl who is so hot? Do it now. If things don't end up the way you want to then at least you can sleep easily and you can focus on new and different projects." - Stockholder
"Everything of success is in how you think. Control your mind and you control your destiny." – Pook
"When you let the idea of a woman rejecting you stop you from walking over
and talking to her, you're GIVING AWAY YOUR POWER."
"The Nice Guy becomes an emotional tampon to be used and discarded." – Pook
"Not approaching a girl actually feels worse than getting rejected" - Don Joey
"You can't be happy in a relationship unless you're happy being single" - Pook
"Don’t just write it out, go DO the things you wrote" - DJ Bedford
"Never look down after making eye contact; this is a sign of submission." – CoolHandLuke
"Don't ever say "Idon't know, what do you want to do". This is murder!!" – CoolHandLuke
"In the end, it all comes down to a state of mind. You have to know, not think, KNOW that you don't need a woman to be happy. " - CoolHandLuke,
"Now we all know that ****y+funny = wet panties." – Indy
"You've got to be prepared to act as soon as you recognize opportunities to meet single women. Don't put it off. Approach all those hot & sexy honeys as
soon as the opportunity presents itself. " - Terminator911
"Never ask a women to become exclusive. She must ask YOU. She must talk about it FIRST. " - Anti-Dump,
"Hesitation is like masturbation: in the end your only screwing yourself" - Young Juan
"When I got their name, I'd use it constantly, women think their name is the most important word in the world." – bondjamesbond
" Why be afraid of someone 5'6", 125 lbs.? If somebody that little scares you, you'd better grow some balls, quick time." – bondjamesbond
"Nobody has to be shy. You choose to be shy. Don't let fear stop you anymore! " - Dr. Feelgood
"*DJs know not all girls are worth dating*" – Wildthang
"Most women don't go for guys who 'love' them. They go for guys who excite them, frighten them, give them an adrenaline rush and can keep their little puzzies moist by acting like real men. " - WildThang,
"Convince the girl that she is more interested in you than you are in her." - Terminator911
"Trust me on this one, a confident elephant man swimming in a pool of dung is more attractive than an insecure Tom Cruise. We all know this : an assertive fat a$$ will always be more successful than a cute, muscular queer boy. " - Challenge Guy
"Single women go on dates to have a good time, not to be serious.
Keep this in mind and never act serious on the first few dates." - Terminator911
"End the date before she does. When you first start dating, it is
important to avoid that awkward time when it is getting late and she
finally has to announce that it is time for her to go home." - Terminator911
“Nice guys think their sexuality will scare the woman so they hide it. They then wonder why they hear "Let's Just be Friends" a lot." – Pook
"As a true DJ you have to be willing to cut a girl loose in a second if she crosses the line. And let her know." – PimpNHard
"There was a time during my twenties when I approached over ONE HUNDRED women a month! I didn't spend my spare time doing nothing....I wouldn't go to one store a day, I'd go to thirty! I loved it! Every second of it! Hell, even getting blown off was fun....I'd get with my buddies later and swap "war stories" with 'em. We'd laugh our asses off!" – Bondjamesbond
"Powerful Male: Strike the concept beautiful out. It adds nothing and it doesn't help. She is not a princess, someone special super human. She is simply a woman that a lot of men emotionally respond to." – Darkdream
"When you look directly and potently into a woman's eyes, her body produces chemicals like phenylethylamine, or PEA, that jolts the sensation of being in love." – Surfboard
"Unless you're blind, you use your eyes to communicate with women more than your mouth." – Bondjamesbond
"Direct eye contact with a woman, combined with a nice smile tells a woman "I like what I'm seeing, I am interested in you"....." Bondjamesbond
"Warmth is the reason why Danny De Vito gets laid. Lack of warmth is probably the reason why you don’t." - Challenge Guy
"never, ever, ever, ever, ever analyze her problem's. when she start's *****ing or complaining about something, don’t tell her how to solve it. just listen & sympathize with her. agree with her." - A turtle named adrian,
"rephrase whatever she say's & feed it back to her. "so you think i should cut my hair", "so, you believe he did it", whatever." - Turtle named Adrian
"Never call the very next day after getting a number no matter how good looking they are or how well the approach/conversation went." – Pimpologist
"After getting a number, never say… “I’ll give you a call” – Pimpologist
"Always assume the sale" - Master of the universe
"If I could only remember that the days were, not bricks to be laid row on row, to be built into a solid house, where one might dwell in safety and peace, but only food for the fires of the heart." ~Edmund Wilson
"Women like silent men. They think they're listening." ~Marcel Achard
"There is much to be said for failure. It is more interesting than success." ~Max Beerbohm
"If you have tried to do something and failed, you are vastly better off than if you had tried to do nothing and succeeded." ~Lloyd Jones
"Success and failure. We think of them as opposites, but they're really not. They're companions - the hero and the sidekick." ~Laurence Shames
"Many of our fears are tissue-paper-thin, and a single courageous step would carry us clear through them." ~Brendan Francis
[This message has been edited by De La Soul (edited 04-29-2002).]
1. Eliminate your desperation by focussing on your dreams and passions in life . Know that women are not what makes life good, what makes life good is recognising, following and working towards your dreams and passions. Achieving dreams is the ultimate source of happiness.
2. Embrace your sexuality . There is no other way. Embracing your sexuality means using kino, eye contact , and not being afraid to talk about sexual things. "A woman would rather be with a male, no matter how tyrannical, over an androgynous, no matter how nice". Make sure she knows you are a male, with male desires.
3. Be a challenge . Because you and your dreams are your number one priority in life you are dependent on nothing and nobody apart from yourself. So why would you put her on a pedestal like a queen? If you think of a female as a queen or some sort of supreme being, you will act like she is. If you act like she is, then she will know that you think of her that way. Once she realises that she has been able to put you under her spell she will think, “Hey, if this guy can become so obsessed with me, imagine what other guys I could get.” She will quickly run away to a more confident jerk.
4. Confidence and Charisma are more attractive than looks . Display your confidence. Think of yourself as the Great Catch, the one that all girls want to be with, the one that attracts girls like magnets. If you think of yourself this way, so will others. Don’t forget to smile.
5. Do not stop to think, never hesitate. Does a confident man stop to think about what could happen? No. A confident man (the good guy) strikes decisively without hesitating and should never regret it. An unconfident man (the nice guy) does this, and consequently the unconfident man is left to think about what could have happened if he had taken action.
Does a confident man stop to think about whether or not he should make a move, if a girl likes him, how he could get her to like him? No. A confident man doesn’t stop to think about the girl’s interests until they are dating. The confident man looks at all the girls and takes what he wants.
6. The confident man goes through life with the path of an arrow . He does not bend himself to fit into other peoples’ lives, he does not twist himself to appease the whims of others. He lives his life for himself. This does not mean that he is an uncaring jerk. He does take others needs into consideration but if others needs disrupt his purpose too acutely he will walk away and continue on his path.
7. The confident man sees failure as only a temporary set back to inevitable success . He knows that he is statistically more likely to be rejected than accepted. He also knows that if he increases his rate of attempts (without diminishing quality) the success will come, and he will barely notice the rejections. You can only have success, once you can accept failure.
Articles :
1. Pook, "Kill That Desperation":
Become the Great Catch! http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/Forum6/HTML/000199.html
2. Pook, "Be a Man":
Real men are in short supply, and high demand. You do the math. http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/Forum6/HTML/000371.html
3. CHALLENGE GUY, "COURAGE":
Just do it! http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/Forum6/HTML/000974.html
4. Paradox, "On Rejection":
You can only have success when you accept failure. After all, it's part of the game. http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/Forum6/HTML/000686.html
5. maranathaman, "The MOST Important Thing": Kino makes all the difference http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/Forum6/HTML/000793.html
6. Anti-Dump, "Treat All Women the Same...": Do this, and you have your own Love Machine, which will sort the best from the rest http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/Forum6/HTML/000063.html
7. Pook, "Patience: What Truly Makes a Don Juan":
Control You Eagerness http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/Forum6/HTML/000130.html
8. Rico, "Smiling":
If you don't smile, you don't have warmth http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/Forum6/HTML/000565.html
9. Poet, "How to be a better conversationalist":
Forget about those awkward silences! http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/Forum6/HTML/000235.html
10. Take No Dirt, "How to Keep a Gal":
For some, keeping is harder than getting http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/Forum6/HTML/001237.html
11. JuanWannabe, "Fine Tune You Sense of Humor":
Make her Laugh! http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/Forum6/HTML/000397.html
12. Giovanni Casanova, "Charm and Charisma": A charasmatic man attracts women like moths to a flame http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/Forum6/HTML/001621.html
13. DeepBlue, "What KINO is REALLY all about":
Find out how to do kino and why it is important http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/Forum6/HTML/001604.html
14. De La Soul, "The Alpha Male":
Become the leader of the pack http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/Forum6/HTML/001599.html
Quotes :
"As you think you shall become" - Pook
"ALWAYS be willing to walk away." – Pook
"If you don't do anything, and sit on your ass like a nice guy, you are already down for the count. You rejected YOURSELF." - Pulse
"Shy people THINK too much. Shy people react to situations when they should be acting/initiating" – Pook
"Want to talk to that gorgeous girl who is so hot? Do it now. If things don't end up the way you want to then at least you can sleep easily and you can focus on new and different projects." - Stockholder
"Everything of success is in how you think. Control your mind and you control your destiny." – Pook
"When you let the idea of a woman rejecting you stop you from walking over
and talking to her, you're GIVING AWAY YOUR POWER."
"The Nice Guy becomes an emotional tampon to be used and discarded." – Pook
"Not approaching a girl actually feels worse than getting rejected" - Don Joey
"You can't be happy in a relationship unless you're happy being single" - Pook
"Don’t just write it out, go DO the things you wrote" - DJ Bedford
"Never look down after making eye contact; this is a sign of submission." – CoolHandLuke
"Don't ever say "Idon't know, what do you want to do". This is murder!!" – CoolHandLuke
"In the end, it all comes down to a state of mind. You have to know, not think, KNOW that you don't need a woman to be happy. " - CoolHandLuke,
"Now we all know that ****y+funny = wet panties." – Indy
"You've got to be prepared to act as soon as you recognize opportunities to meet single women. Don't put it off. Approach all those hot & sexy honeys as
soon as the opportunity presents itself. " - Terminator911
"Never ask a women to become exclusive. She must ask YOU. She must talk about it FIRST. " - Anti-Dump,
"Hesitation is like masturbation: in the end your only screwing yourself" - Young Juan
"When I got their name, I'd use it constantly, women think their name is the most important word in the world." – bondjamesbond
" Why be afraid of someone 5'6", 125 lbs.? If somebody that little scares you, you'd better grow some balls, quick time." – bondjamesbond
"Nobody has to be shy. You choose to be shy. Don't let fear stop you anymore! " - Dr. Feelgood
"*DJs know not all girls are worth dating*" – Wildthang
"Most women don't go for guys who 'love' them. They go for guys who excite them, frighten them, give them an adrenaline rush and can keep their little puzzies moist by acting like real men. " - WildThang,
"Convince the girl that she is more interested in you than you are in her." - Terminator911
"Trust me on this one, a confident elephant man swimming in a pool of dung is more attractive than an insecure Tom Cruise. We all know this : an assertive fat a$$ will always be more successful than a cute, muscular queer boy. " - Challenge Guy
"Single women go on dates to have a good time, not to be serious.
Keep this in mind and never act serious on the first few dates." - Terminator911
"End the date before she does. When you first start dating, it is
important to avoid that awkward time when it is getting late and she
finally has to announce that it is time for her to go home." - Terminator911
“Nice guys think their sexuality will scare the woman so they hide it. They then wonder why they hear "Let's Just be Friends" a lot." – Pook
"As a true DJ you have to be willing to cut a girl loose in a second if she crosses the line. And let her know." – PimpNHard
"There was a time during my twenties when I approached over ONE HUNDRED women a month! I didn't spend my spare time doing nothing....I wouldn't go to one store a day, I'd go to thirty! I loved it! Every second of it! Hell, even getting blown off was fun....I'd get with my buddies later and swap "war stories" with 'em. We'd laugh our asses off!" – Bondjamesbond
"Powerful Male: Strike the concept beautiful out. It adds nothing and it doesn't help. She is not a princess, someone special super human. She is simply a woman that a lot of men emotionally respond to." – Darkdream
"When you look directly and potently into a woman's eyes, her body produces chemicals like phenylethylamine, or PEA, that jolts the sensation of being in love." – Surfboard
"Unless you're blind, you use your eyes to communicate with women more than your mouth." – Bondjamesbond
"Direct eye contact with a woman, combined with a nice smile tells a woman "I like what I'm seeing, I am interested in you"....." Bondjamesbond
"Warmth is the reason why Danny De Vito gets laid. Lack of warmth is probably the reason why you don’t." - Challenge Guy
"never, ever, ever, ever, ever analyze her problem's. when she start's *****ing or complaining about something, don’t tell her how to solve it. just listen & sympathize with her. agree with her." - A turtle named adrian,
"rephrase whatever she say's & feed it back to her. "so you think i should cut my hair", "so, you believe he did it", whatever." - Turtle named Adrian
"Never call the very next day after getting a number no matter how good looking they are or how well the approach/conversation went." – Pimpologist
"After getting a number, never say… “I’ll give you a call” – Pimpologist
"Always assume the sale" - Master of the universe
"If I could only remember that the days were, not bricks to be laid row on row, to be built into a solid house, where one might dwell in safety and peace, but only food for the fires of the heart." ~Edmund Wilson
"Women like silent men. They think they're listening." ~Marcel Achard
"There is much to be said for failure. It is more interesting than success." ~Max Beerbohm
"If you have tried to do something and failed, you are vastly better off than if you had tried to do nothing and succeeded." ~Lloyd Jones
"Success and failure. We think of them as opposites, but they're really not. They're companions - the hero and the sidekick." ~Laurence Shames
"Many of our fears are tissue-paper-thin, and a single courageous step would carry us clear through them." ~Brendan Francis
[This message has been edited by De La Soul (edited 04-29-2002).]