Guess whoose coming to dinner...

[backbreaker]

anyone who has seen this movie knows what this thread is about.

I went to kentukcy to catch the Sunday Card at Keeneland, in lieu of me going to Monmouth Thursday to catch the Breeders Cup weekend (anyone anywhere near that needs to get a ticket and go. I promise you that you will not regret it)

So I had a couple of days to kill. what better way to spend it letting my family know I'm about to be a DAD!!!
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so I fly in to little rock last yesterday afternoon and I dont' know how I forgot taht my dad works at the airport.

I was trying to suprise my family and no more than 5 mintues after I get off the airpot I catch my dad in the lobby area. Better yet my GF asks me who is that man yelling my name. So Introduce my dad to my GF.. of course my dad hits on her. he hits on anything tha tmoves.

anyway, I tell him to bring his wife and my 6 year old Brother to red lobster that night.

then I head to jacksonville where my mom lives. no call, just show up. The look on my mom's face. My mom is just 40, so the age disparity isn't that great between her and my mom.

So anyway, my stepmom, step dad, mom and dad, my 7 year old sister and 6 year old brother and my 17 year old brother, who i was soooo happy to see. dont 'get to spend enough time wtih him.

So we are eating, and after like 6 dacquris for me, I'm chatting with my little sister over how to spell a word, and my GF just blurts out "I'm pregant"

my mom literarly chocked on the food in her mouth.

so I cleared the air... we came down her first and foremost, so I can tell you guys that I am going to be a father, she's a little over 2 months pregnant ,and to let you meet this woman who I've somewht settled down with.

So my mother, being the sarcastic ******* she is, kinda addresses the 400 pound goirilla in the room and makes a subtle attack at her... "well, kinda old to be having a child isn't it?"

So I say "well.. you had bri (my sister) when you were 33, so what does that make you?".. I didn't fly my GF half away across the country to be insulted by my mother.

I could see my dad chucking

So my mom says "I just think she's a little old for you".. mind you she's sitting righ next to me. And she wanted so much to have my mom's approval

so I say "I really dind't come here to get know what you think, I came down here because you are my mom and you deserve to know what's going on, if you dont' like it, there is a place and time where we can talk about what's going on, but here in front of the rest of my family just shows how immature you are and why you and I dont' talk now"

I looked over at my GF, and she isn't as thick skinned as I am, and I could see her eyes watering, so I said " you know what.. I'm done. I apprciate everyone coming". Threw 200 bucks on the table and grabbed her hand and left.

It was actually kinda cute.. she was crying on the way to my house.. "your mom doesn't like me".

I had to explain to her... my mom is to stuck on herself to relize the world aorund her. One of the biggest arguements we have had to date is her wanting to know "what kinda of man won't talk to his mom?".. well. you just saw why. I have nothing ot say to her. and she openly insults the mother of my future child? she can kis smy ass

the cutiest moment of the night was when my sister said "so you had sex?"... Yes bri.. we had sex. somethting you won't do until you are 30.

anyway, thoguht it wa sinteresting

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Dude, I know she's your girl and everything but she needs some training. It's going to be hard on you if she normally handles stress in that manner.

 

[Ace of Flames]

Just another day in paradise...

 

[KontrollerX]

That really sucks man that your mother would disrespect her like that.

Ahh well at least your girl knows now why you don't talk to your mother.

 

[Monster]

It's ok, I've realized long ago that parents don't agree with their childrens ideas. I don't talk to them unless I have to.

 

[iqqi]

So my mom says "I just think she's a little old for you".. mind you she's sitting righ next to me. And she wanted so much to have my mom's approval

so I say "I really dind't come here to get know what you think, I came down here because you are my mom and you deserve to know what's going on, if you dont' like it, there is a place and time where we can talk about what's going on, but here in front of the rest of my family just shows how immature you are and why you and I dont' talk now"

Threw 200 bucks on the table and grabbed her hand and left.

Sounds like you AND your mama are two peas in a pod. Well not really. Seems like what happens alot here on this board actually.

Someone speaks their opinion, after you DID just put it out there the way that you do sometimes, and you are quick to react in a dramatic fashion.


I think in this case you were more on the right side than usual, but I have a feeling that's the way it goes ALOT with you and ppl who question you. She IS your mama. And you did just leave the rest of your fam to deal with the aftermath. I feel most sorry for them, especially the little siblings. That must have been extremely uncomfortable for them.

Why did you even have it set up that way? Especially if you know your mama.

 

[eminence]

Wait so you got an older fat chick pregnant?

 

[Ken785]

whoa...i never knew this chick was 30 something...is it that pic you posted of that hot black chick holding her breasts?? i would have knocked up your Columbian one-titis if i were u...

 

[backbreaker]

Sounds like you AND your mama are two peas in a pod. Well not really. Seems like what happens alot here on this board actually.

Someone speaks their opinion, after you DID just put it out there the way that you do sometimes, and you are quick to react in a dramatic fashion.


I think in this case you were more on the right side than usual, but I have a feeling that's the way it goes ALOT with you and ppl who question you. She IS your mama. And you did just leave the rest of your fam to deal with the aftermath. I feel most sorry for them, especially the little siblings. That must have been extremely uncomfortable for them.

Why did you even have it set up that way? Especially if you know your mama.

first of all, this isn't the first post I've noticed you have something against me. But I'll look past that. I can post 10 things and you iwll find something wrong. I can't stand negative nancy's.

anyway, we don't talk becuase she disowned me, she claims to be a christian but acts noting liek it, she gossips about everythhing, all she cares about is how she is precieved by others. The only thihng she was thinking is "I can't bring a 32 year old white woman to my southern Blaptist all black church with my 24 year old son".

are we alike? yes. We are spitting images of each oter looks wise and so is my little sister. We are both smart, both stubborn.. both hard workers.. however the difference between me and Her is I dont' give a **** how I'm precieved, I'm going tod o what makes me happy. Her "happiness" or content level comes at how she is precieved.

also.. I have 10x more tact than my mom does. I come home, to a family i haven't seen in about 10 months, with my GF that no one has ever met, and my mom does nothing short of trying to be the center of attention. My mom has 3 college degrees.. she knew what she was doing. she's not dumb, if she had respect for anyone but herself, she could have at least pretended to give a **** until afterwards and then we could have talked

what I do here is not real life. I tell you guys stuff because I gave a damn about you and I want everyone here to be successful and happy.

 

[backbreaker]

whoa...i never knew this chick was 30 something...is it that pic you posted of that hot black chick holding her breasts?? i would have knocked up your Columbian one-titis if i were u...

1. no.. but that's my EX GF (the black girl holding tits) who irnocally, turns 30 thursday! I need to give her a call and tell her happy birthdday.

2. My old oneitis is like ahot air ballon.. pretty on the outside, and when you open it nothing is inside. for crying out loud she is 24, still lives at home with mom and has never had a job. Yeah...I'm out

I'll take a pic of my GF when we get to monmouth and I'll post it here.

I like my GF because we have like interest and we compliment each other.

Wait so you got an older fat chick pregnant?

she works out 7 days a week, is 5'5 105 pounds and has an ass I can open a corona bottole with. FAt my ass

 

[backbreaker]

Dude, I know she's your girl and everything but she needs some training. It's going to be hard on you if she normally handles stress in that manner.

she is what she is. when you care about someone, you care about their faults as well as their good points. She is a little more emotional than I am. Okay alot more. But the fact that she is wanting to cry because my mom doesn't like her says alot in itself.

 

[ketostix]

Yeah I don't blame you for walking out BB. I mean it is untactfull for your mom to say that stuff in front of your GF, and pointless since she's pregnant now anyway. I mean she should be happy for you.

 

[backbreaker]

speak of the devil. I just got an email from my old oneitis (The columbian girl) who HEARD i was in town (already) and wanted to see me, and wanted ot know if "that woman" was still with me.

 

[Create Reality]

the devil is right!! SAY NO TO HOS!

 

[Ken785]

speak of the devil. I just got an email from my old oneitis (The columbian girl) who HEARD i was in town (already) and wanted to see me, and wanted ot know if "that woman" was still with me.

WHOA! Clear invitation..you need to go 'tap that' dude!! :rock:

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

she is what she is. when you care about someone, you care about their faults as well as their good points. She is a little more emotional than I am. Okay alot more. But the fact that she is wanting to cry because my mom doesn't like her says alot in itself.

I hear 'ya but wouldn't an announcement of such caliber be best announced by both of you together with at least a little preparation? I sounds as if she kinda threw things under the bus and was surprised when she got squished. I feel for 'ya if that's going to be her normal way to handle important situations. Not to let your mom off the hook for her reaction, but a little preparation may have enabled better control of the situation.

 

[backbreaker]

I hear 'ya but wouldn't an announcement of such caliber be best announced by both of you together with at least a little preparation? I sounds as if she kinda threw things under the bus and was surprised when she got squished. I feel for 'ya if that's going to be her normal way to handle important situations. Not to let your mom off the hook for her reaction, but a little preparation may have enabled better control of the situation.

oh we had a game plan going in. The plan was for me to let them warm up to her, and by the time desert came, I'd break the news or we would break it together. I guess she just coudlnt' take it anymore.

You are misisng the entire point Fransciso... maybe if you would stop posting so much and take the time to read everyonce in a while, you wouldn't... my mom could care less about the baby. in fact she was probably breathing a sigh of relife that her son isn't a homo.

No.. she just doesn't like HER because she isn't my age and isn't black. The announcement could have been we were engaged/She was donating me 1 million dollars and my mom's reaction would have been the same.

My mom's problem wasn't THE baby, it was the person who was HAVING the baby

 

[backbreaker]

WHOA! Clear invitation..you need to go 'tap that' dude!! :rock:

NO!!!

I know good and damn well she wants to **** me. I've known it for about a year and a half now.

I dont' know how much clearer I can be when I say I have no interest in her! And I"m not mad at you, but I get mad at all the guys I know around town (little rock) that know she wants me and say " man she wants you, what's wrong".. like she is the holy grai of women or something. Like now that she wants me, all the crap about self improvement, moving on and finding someone better wa sust hogwash to get over her.

she's lazy, has no goals, has low self esteem, has more baggage than an airport,a nd is the defination of a life blocker.

If I were to date/**** her, my life would be revoled around getting to see her when she "gets out the house". My life is so much more tahn that.

Is she easy on the eyes? I'd be lying if I said anytihng other than yes. but She isn't the holy mecca of ***** or anything like that.. life is to damn important to get obsessed over a few body parts.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

oh we had a game plan going in. The plan was for me to let them warm up to her, and by the time desert came, I'd break the news or we would break it together. I guess she just coudlnt' take it anymore.

You are misisng the entire point Fransciso... maybe if you would stop posting so much and take the time to read everyonce in a while, you wouldn't... my mom could care less about the baby. in fact she was probably breathing a sigh of relife that her son isn't a homo.

No.. she just doesn't like HER because she isn't my age and isn't black. The announcement could have been we were engaged/She was donating me 1 million dollars and my mom's reaction would have been the same.

My mom's problem wasn't THE baby, it was the person who was HAVING the baby

You're spending so much time trying to defend your girl's actions that you aren't recognizing what I'm talking about. It has nothing to do with your mom's concern, if you think that's what it is you have a ton to learn.

If you'd step back and look at the how your girl handles stressful situations instead of trying defending her you'd understand what I'm saying. Your life is going to be rollercoaster with her if her normal reaction to stressful situations is going off like she did. What your mother did is just the tip of the iceberg of what a certain segment of society will feel, just accept it.

Think about how much better the two of you will be able to handle the adversity if the two of you could stand together unified instead of her just freaking out. You should step back and look at what you are creating, you can't deny that things would be easier if the two of you worked together.

 

[backbreaker]

I don't have to defend my girl's actions. she didn't do **** wrong but come to me.



There isn't a sane person here that would blame her for what... what the **** did she honeslty do wrong but follow me half way across the country to tell my parents I was going to be a father?

What?

you'd step back and look at the how your girl handles stressful situations instead of trying defending her you'd understand what I'm saying

what the **** do you know about how my girl handles stressful situtations? I see her damn near every day, you have never seen her in your life, yet you know her better than I do.

Hell let's say she coudln't handle stressful situtations veyr well.. What then? I'm not going to leave her because she doesn't deal with stress very well.. if it was EXTREME maybe but **** no one is perfect

you are posting **** just to be posting ****. it makes no sense.

Your life is going to be rollercoaster with her if her normal reaction to stressful situations is going off like she did.

my life is a rollarcoaster regardless of who is in it

I'm going to show you how much sense this makes. Everyone wants me to go and **** my old oneitis, who is the most unstable person I know, and for whatever reason, wants me to leave the girl I'm with and I am really liking, who is one of the most headstrong women I know, isnt' afraid of hard work,e tc...

the only reason is because she is older than me. it's what everyone has an issue about but wont' come out and just say. people who dont' know me would rathe rme be miserable with a girl 3 monts younger than me than be happy as can be, and I'm having the time of my life right now, wit a woman 8 years older than I am, because they know so damn much mnore about me than I do and what I want.

and when is the last time you posted anythhing about you here? Only someone who has an issue and is an armchair DJ could turn my mom busting on my GF in front of 9 people into something my GF did wrong.