Groups & the cool guy.

[LinkinParkROX]

So I'm all DJ-like, confident, ****y and funny with girls. But I somehow lose some of that confidence when "the cool guy"s are around. You know, the jocks and stuff. I don't talk as much and find it harder to be myself when these guys are around. We usually hang out in groups, so they'll almost always be there. And I come off as a shy AFC when they're around because of this. Help, please?

 

[CaptainJ]

Get to know them, joke around with them, show them they you're a funny cool guy and they will respect you.

 

[LinkinParkROX]

That's just the problem. I

find it harder to be myself when these guys are around. We usually hang out in groups, so they'll almost always be there. And I come off as a shy AFC when they're around because of this.

 

[Daddy The Pimp]

Don't worry.

Your problem is that you think that they are higher value than you.
You have to realize that they are not higher value . They just let themselves to be that way. They give permission to themselves to act that way.

So , give permission to yourself to BE yourself. My words might not make sense but when you spend some more time in field and become a little more advanced these words will click in you.

If you don't get what im saying , don't worry. If you keep up going in field and being social , all these mistakes will auto correct.

 

[GlennCoCo]

I was friends with everyone and I made it out of high school good.

Chances are those "cool guys" aren't gonna make it big in life with the "I get what i want" attitude. Just be yourself (within reason) and just have fun while in high school. It's a once in a lifetime thing.

 

[jeffthechef]

heh..daddy is right...higher value

but the thing is, it's all perception...a poor guys views every cent as important...a bilionaire might htink it's ****

so what do you do?...transform your perspective...once you do, you will have an easier time with girls and guys

at the microscopic level...everything and person is made of atoms/molecules and ****...and we are all bodies of energy basically...everything is essentially the same...the only thing is...society raises you to believe that rich people are better...slim is sexy...muscular is dominant...you know what you know...but also consider every declaration in history...all men are created equal...so why should you view them as higher value?

you're only hindering yourself

 

[TheEnergizer]

lol i used to kinda be the same way and i know EXACTLY what you mean. you tend to think theyre dominant (because they are) and sorta become their right hand man or something. well don't. perceive them as more AFC than you if you have to. youre a cool, funny, confident DJ right? then youre higher value than him. you might perceive him as a dominant alpha male, but youve gotta perceive yourself as something even bigger and better. so dont change your act around him, just keep actin the way you always do, because youre a DJ.

 

[Daddy The Pimp]

I was friends with everyone and I made it out of high school good.

Chances are those "cool guys" aren't gonna make it big in life with the "I get what i want" attitude. Just be yourself (within reason) and just have fun while in high school. It's a once in a lifetime thing.

Exactly this kind of attitude is needed to succeed in your life.

 

[MillionaireDreams]

ur afraid what they might think but who really gives a **** right?

 

[search1ng]

It's the mindset. You don't need to he the loud clown that gets everyone laughing. Just give off the aura, presentation that you know what you're doing and you're not afraid to step on toes to get it.