Group Dates - wth?

[guitaronfire411]

I thought all girls these days do the one-on-one dates and it's straight forward as hell.

Met this girl off of PoF. Our conversation was good, got her number, and asked her out to a comedy club. She asked if she could bring other people an I said I wasn't intending on doing so, but feel free.

In the end, she brought her girl-friend and I brought about 6 of mine. We didn't really talk much together but I figured she was just very shy.

The next day I said that I had fun, and she agreed, she and her friend had a lot of fun and would be up for meeting up again in the future for that. She also mentioned the karaoke that she wanted to know all of the details so she could go.

So I'm not sure if that is even a group date.

I messaged her the details yesterday for the karaoke because someone else organized it --- she said that she might not be able to make it, but did say she'd phone at 10PM to see if we were going to do anything else.

So I was kind of surprised when she phones me at 7:30PMish tonight asking if the karaoke is still on and all the details. She said she would have a shower and get ready, so I said I'd text her everything.

Tonight I got there kind of late but managed to talk to her more. I sat to her right and she seemed a bit more open. No asking questions but she showed up, and as a group, we talked about seeing a movie and she mentioned that she would like to see it.

I then casually ask about indoor rock climbing, and she asked where, etc. She then disqualified herself (I'm kind of weak) and I said that it's no problem, she could get the hang of it easily. So that didn't really go much further than that, so I figure that she isn't interested in seeing me one-on-one.

So we ended the night at a bubble tea place, and she sat near me. We talked a little bit and I got her smiling when I complimented her singing and asked if she had a record contract yet.

The difference between meet one and two was she didn't have anyone else she knew on the second meet.

So she's down for the movie on Tuesday. Should I bring up the indoor rock climbing or let her bring that up?

Also, are these actually real dates or am I heading towards being just a close friend?

 

[WaterTiger]

According to all the DJ rules, group dates are a "NO-NO!":nono:

You go on dates to get to know the girl, not compete for her attention with a bunch of friends.

During the movie Tuedsay see if you can work in some kino. If she backs off or pushes you away...take her home and never call her again. You need to act rather quickly with this one or you'll be one of her friends following her on a date with ANOTHER guy!

 

[strong like bull]

when first getting to know a girl, i avoid group dates like the plague...

its just a whole different experience. in the group dates, its as if theyre acting different to appease their friends as much as hold your attention. to where they wont be as relaxed and at ease, or themself, as they would if it were just the two of you. also sometimes gives their friends free reign to **** block you. just kind of annoying imo...

-slb

 

[guitaronfire411]

She bused from about 1 hour 1/2 away and phoned at the last minute (7PM) for a 7:30PM show at the movie theatre last night.

She never brought up the fact that I discussed going indoor rock climbing the last time we met and I didn't bother to bring it up myself.

Before the movie, she left her purse near her seat and asked if I wanted anything to eat, so there is some trust after seeing me only three times.

She said that she had a great time, and she sat beside me both times and was really happy to talk to me throughout. She was very warm then, very different than the first or second time we met up. (We moved seats to be closer to my buds but we still sat together in the same row while they sat a row above.)

I didn't do any kino. I just couldn't find a reason to.

We talked for a bit afterwards and she talked to my friends about something before saying goodbye specifically to me.

I'm just wondering if she is waiting for me to bust a move or just chill with the program and she really just wants to be friends?

It's not like I don't have other girls after me, she just seems to be the most feminine.

 

[guitaronfire411]

I have. No response yet. I sent a message letting her know that the movie G.T. was cancelled for Sunday but we could get together and go indoor rock climbing instead.

I sent that a day or two ago and no response. I'm talking to other girls and my vibe is usually right.

 

[prairiedog24]

I have. No response yet. I sent a message letting her know that the movie G.T. was cancelled for Sunday but we could get together and go indoor rock climbing instead.

I sent that a day or two ago and no response. I'm talking to other girls and my vibe is usually right.

It's also possible she just hates the thought of rock climbing. Some girls do you know. If you get a disqualifier, try for another activity. If you get two disqualifiers, and no counter offer from her, then you know that she's not interested and she give up. But the thought of rock climbing is likely to seem VERY unfeminine to some girls when it involves going with a guy they like.