We've been together for a year, we're doing fine but the relationship is definitely in a bit of a slump. We go out a lot together but also spend time out with our own groups of friends. A new guy has entered her social group a few months ago, and they get along well. It's gotten to the point where they spend time alone, which bothers me a bit, though I don't think anything is going on.
That said, a lot of women tend to start working on 'prospects' for future boyfriends if they feel their current relationship is not doing great. The guy isn't flirty with her, but he might also be playing the 'good guy' card, knowing he will gain her trust and get closer to her. He is single, and attractive though not her type.
In my last two relationships, this is what happened to me. My gf got closer to another guy, didn't cheat, but when the relationship ended, they started seeing the guy in question. So obviously, this current situation is bothering me quite a bit. I have brought it up respectfully, she said that nothing is happening, she loves me very much and I have nothing to worry about. I let it go, but it still bothers me.
I don't really know how to proceed. In more vulnerable moments, I feel like a fool who is just watching them get closer, and I should just break things off now. Other times I feel like I'm just being insecure and they just happen to get along, she's allowed to have close male friends and I should stop being possessive and controlling. But... I can't control the way I feel when they spend yet another night hanging out. She doesn't hide that they hang out (most of the time in a larger social group though) and they are friendly in front of me. Maybe she doesn't even realize what she is doing, and maybe he isn't purposely trying to get closer either, but part of me suspects he is aware of it. Anyway, I'm at a loss. I am building resentment, I don't know how to bring this up again, I don't know what to do about it. What would you do?
