Grave problem with the inner game..

[DjVelvet]

Guys, It’s a deep problem that I'm facing. Firstly I have some plates spinning and constantly sarging and meeting new people.

However, I get really bothered when small things happen, and I mean really trivial things example like if a chick is not responding positive as what I expect.

I will go to forums, over analyse (And I really mean super over analyse) and ask my friends for solutions and ponder and ponder about it. Most of the time, it is the same old problems/case studies that I'm repeating and repeating again and again. To a stage I slap myself.. Why am I always bothered by the same old thing again and again. At this rate. It is not going to do good for my mental health. A typical worrier. On the road to depression??

I know it is really bad and yet I cannot control my brain from over analysing and it really affects my other aspect of life.

Yes I do have hobbies and hang out with friends regularly. I look good, girls are attracted to me. Male friends respect me for what I am. But... My actions are enjoying on the surface, but my brain is always thinking and thinking and thinking (Negatively) about chicks that I am gaming.

If only I can take it easy and treat everything like it is just a game, Giving lower priority in my mind on the chicks, I will be a happier person and will indirectly be natural to the DJ games.. Sigh…

Everyone mentioned to take it easy. But I JUST CAN'T DO IT.

Help… I know.. Its my weak Inner game…


Anyone else too?

 

[squirrels]

The harder you fight the worry, the more worried you become, because you're worrying about worrying. It just compounds the feeling.

Just LET yourself worry and get it out of your system...and in the meantime learn your lesson and move on.

I'm like that a lot...I worry more than I should. Honestly, taking life TOO seriously will drive you crazy. You're gonna have major losses. Take 'em for what they are and keep going.

 

[JC9]

Sounds like you still rely on external validation.

Take a step back, sarge less, and focus on setting and accomplishing some other goals.

 

[Freddy1]

You gotta think of other things. Find distractions.
Learn to be more exoverted than introverted. When you go out to sarge try not to put so much meaning to the girls you meet.

Everytime your inner mind says something negative catch it and say something positive (even though you may not beleive it at the moment) to retrain your subconcious mind.

 

[realsmoothie]

Guys, It’s a deep problem that I'm facing. Firstly I have some plates spinning and constantly sarging and meeting new people.

However, I get really bothered when small things happen, and I mean really trivial things example like if a chick is not responding positive as what I expect.

I will go to forums, over analyse (And I really mean super over analyse) and ask my friends for solutions and ponder and ponder about it. Most of the time, it is the same old problems/case studies that I'm repeating and repeating again and again. To a stage I slap myself.. Why am I always bothered by the same old thing again and again. At this rate. It is not going to do good for my mental health. A typical worrier. On the road to depression??

I know it is really bad and yet I cannot control my brain from over analysing and it really affects my other aspect of life.

Yes I do have hobbies and hang out with friends regularly. I look good, girls are attracted to me. Male friends respect me for what I am. But... My actions are enjoying on the surface, but my brain is always thinking and thinking and thinking (Negatively) about chicks that I am gaming.

If only I can take it easy and treat everything like it is just a game, Giving lower priority in my mind on the chicks, I will be a happier person and will indirectly be natural to the DJ games.. Sigh…

Everyone mentioned to take it easy. But I JUST CAN'T DO IT.

Help… I know.. Its my weak Inner game…


Anyone else too?

I have exactly that problem. I over-analyze the crap out of everything.

That's why I've recently started this system where I try to absolutely not think about women in any fashion except for two circumstances:

1) I see a girl I find attractive close enough to talk to

2) for about 30 minutes a day i can think and plan, call girls, come to this board, etc.

It appears to be working. Not only do I have more time during the day to focus on myself, I also seem to be more spontaneous and less anxious around girls in person. My self-confidence and happiness seem better as well, since I spend less time feeling bad about myself for not screwing every hottie in sight.

Maybe you should try it!

 

[DjVelvet]

The thing is. I should cut my mind from thinking if any negative emotions arise, but I can't! Shet!. Take for example. A trivial thing like when a girl does not reply to my fluff sms or taking a long time to reply, I tend to analyse, "What have I done wrong? What should I do instead to improve the situation?"

Hey, I know the answer is "Velvet, you shouldn't put too much emphasis on women's responses and treat it as a game, a casual thing. There are many women for you to gqame out there." Advising me is easy for you. But… I just cannot stop the mind from wondering. I don't know if its poor self-control. I don't seems to be using my healthy rational brain to take over this "emotion" or Mindset.

Thing is. I will ponder the same thing to every single girls that I'm interested in gaming!

Shet…

It is really hard to get help over online. Sometimes when I get successful with certain things (example doing well at work, or while attaining a new girl with positive reaction.), I will feel much better. But when things cool down or when I'm free. This lingering thought of insecurity will flood my mind again. To a point where, I'm almost scared of myself.. When I was an AFC (I may even be one now!), I used to envy guys whom will care less about women and enjoy their own hobbies, doing what they always like and enjoying them to the fullest.

It comes to one realisation. Some guys tend to place majority of their priorities on girls. And can't help doing so.

And I mean.. Can't Help Doing So, Can't help stopping the mind from thinking about girls. This is the main problem I'm facing, and what's more? I have tons of hobbies and it doesn't seems to help.

Sounds pussified? Whatever..

I figured out that the root of all my problems that I started threads after threads is this weak inner game.

If I gotten this aspect (Inner game) settled and handled, I will pretty much be a better, happier man.

Thanks.

 

[Freddy1]

The thing is. I should cut my mind from thinking if any negative emotions arise, but I can't! Shet!.

You have to talk to your self in a positive manner regardless. EVEN IF YOUR MIND DOESNT BELIEVE IT at the moment. Eventually your subconcious mind will get the message and relearn the old patterns. You just have to fake it till you get it.

Good luck my friend! I faith in you and I know you will succeed!

 

[Natch]

Dude your 30 minute plan is good.
If I were to reccommend anything I'd reccomemnd you check out ideagasms.com (there's afree ebook if you sign up for the newsletter) , and read "Way of the superior man" by david deida. The reason I reccommend these 2 is that I used to be in the same position as u , where chicks seemed such a big fcuken deal.
It was thru these 2 resources that I learned to appreciate myself and my life as being pretty fcuken awesome , regardless of how much p*ssy I am getting.

Becuase of that I am totally chilled out with chicks (like I still get fire in the belly when I apporahc) and this **** does not stress me at all.

JMHO , YMMV.

 

[Doggystyle]

Dude your 30 minute plan is good.
If I were to reccommend anything I'd reccomemnd you check out ideagasms.com (there's afree ebook if you sign up for the newsletter) , and read "Way of the superior man" by david deida. The reason I reccommend these 2 is that I used to be in the same position as u , where chicks seemed such a big fcuken deal.
It was thru these 2 resources that I learned to appreciate myself and my life as being pretty fcuken awesome , regardless of how much p*ssy I am getting.

Becuase of that I am totally chilled out with chicks (like I still get fire in the belly when I apporahc) and this **** does not stress me at all.

JMHO , YMMV.

I've been meaning to get that book by david deida, forgot all about it till now and heard good things about it. particulaly interested in the bit on sexual energy.

I'm not sure what to make of that ideagasms guy, the stuff about frames and innergame is good, but that crap about chakras!? wtf!! is that supposed to work? the only way i can see that working is if you believe that these colours of light you are imagining are affecting you. Also the amount he is charging for it is a bit high, when you can learn how to do it in ten minutes on a google search for free! or on youtube.

Anyways, i've heard carlos zuma's "secrets of the alpha male" is the best book for inner game, its 400 pages long, if you can be bothered reading all that!!! thats whats stopping me from reading it, i've got it though on my comp, just haven't had the time or patience to read it. is it worth reading anybody? i might skim it tomorrow

 

[Natch]

I'm not sure what to make of that ideagasms guy, the stuff about frames and innergame is good, but that crap about chakras!? wtf!! is that supposed to work?

Oh sorry , I shoulda said, the sh!t about chakras is absolute bollocks. No-one seems to know what he's on about there.

But the rest is good, and the ebook doesn't have all that yoga sh!t in in it.

 

[realsmoothie]

I get his stuff by email, comes every couple of days. I really like his general attitude, which is a lot of inner game stuff that really has nothing to do with "game" but attitude.

The chakra/squirting stuff is his trump card, though, and he uses it to get people to actually spend MONEY on his stuff. I'm not against it, I believe a lot of that stuff, but you can learn it for free in other ways.