Serg897
Master Don Juan
Hey all,
I once again return to this website seeking perspective on a new problem for me. I have no doubt that many of you have already experienced this.
Simply, as the title says, Im afflicted with “grass is always greener” syndrome. I am seeing a woman who has given me basically everything I want in a relationship, yet my heart is not in it 100%, possibly for this very reason. It is the paradox of dating.
I have been seeing this girl for several months. We have many things in common and some great chemistry. She is a beer snob like me (and she buys me good beer that we enjoy together). We share hobbies like dancing. She watches nerdy sci fi shows with me, no problem. We also like the same music. She was even around with her full support while I was studying my ass off for the qualifying exam that I just got through, the big @ss test every graduate student has to take mid-way through to prove you are worthy of candidacy.
Yet, sometimes when Im out with her she feels clingy. Like a ball n’ chain. I cant stop myself from looking at other women, or imagining myself trying to work my game on them. She wants to talk to me everyday and its easy to get tired of her. Also, the sex has gotten dull, and its not very good – to the point where I am losing interest.
Hence my conundrum. It is now time to make a choice. I have gone far enough with this without committing officially and she would like to be exclusive. So now its either this woman or back to single life. And this choice has to be made soon, as she will not wait forever.
Im fully aware that there is no right or wrong answer here. I also think I know which direction most of the replies are going to go. I just want to know how other dudes have handled this problem and how you have felt afterwards.
Thanks for reading,
-Serg
I once again return to this website seeking perspective on a new problem for me. I have no doubt that many of you have already experienced this.
Simply, as the title says, Im afflicted with “grass is always greener” syndrome. I am seeing a woman who has given me basically everything I want in a relationship, yet my heart is not in it 100%, possibly for this very reason. It is the paradox of dating.
I have been seeing this girl for several months. We have many things in common and some great chemistry. She is a beer snob like me (and she buys me good beer that we enjoy together). We share hobbies like dancing. She watches nerdy sci fi shows with me, no problem. We also like the same music. She was even around with her full support while I was studying my ass off for the qualifying exam that I just got through, the big @ss test every graduate student has to take mid-way through to prove you are worthy of candidacy.
Yet, sometimes when Im out with her she feels clingy. Like a ball n’ chain. I cant stop myself from looking at other women, or imagining myself trying to work my game on them. She wants to talk to me everyday and its easy to get tired of her. Also, the sex has gotten dull, and its not very good – to the point where I am losing interest.
Hence my conundrum. It is now time to make a choice. I have gone far enough with this without committing officially and she would like to be exclusive. So now its either this woman or back to single life. And this choice has to be made soon, as she will not wait forever.
Im fully aware that there is no right or wrong answer here. I also think I know which direction most of the replies are going to go. I just want to know how other dudes have handled this problem and how you have felt afterwards.
Thanks for reading,
-Serg