Gotta get this off my chest

[judoguy869]

wow guys gotta rant... every time i log on the internet, walk outside or look at youtube i always see a SEXY ass girl that I wanna bang.

However, I honestly think I am not destined to be with girls that hot, and most likely those girls are gonna be dumb sluts anyway. I should be happy with the great girlfriend that I have but I just want to bang every single girl that I see and talk too. Its horrible

Why can I not just be appreciative for what I have? A lot of guys on here would kill to have as great as the girl that I have, but no me, no I want to **** every girl that is a 6 or higher.

Maybe it is because I have had sex with only 2 girls, LTR;s? I do not know but this is killing me. I honestly want to take a pill to lower my sex drive because all I do is log on to youtube and start watching vids and end up seeing a sexy girl on "related videos" and getting horny as ****.


I hate this ****, I think I am gonna go on anti - depressants to lower my sex drive. I know this sounds really AFC , but I do not know what to do anymore. I cant concentrate on school or sports, all I wanna do is go look for chicks to game. The other side of me wants to snap out of it because I have a great girlfriend.

I am also getting depressed because I have made feeble attempts to game chicks for practice that have backfired immensly. I honestly think I am not destined to be good with girls. I have read the DJ bible and tried to apply techniques but it always comes off as awkward.

Even if I am rich I dont think I will be good with girls, I mean how are they going to know I am rich if I cant even keep them in a conversation for more then a few minutes.

As I am writing this now I am getting angry. I am starting to have a sincere hatred for women. **** them and their holier than thou attitude, you want to judge me you dumb ****? Look at you, your only purpose in life is to latch on to someone to elevate your statues. **** YOU !



I am going to lift, PZ


** sorry to rant but I really needed that off my chest. I realize I sound like a ***** but I have noone else that can come close to understanding me""

 

[jophil28]

Perhaps, some meds PLUS anger management might help.

You need to post your age in your profile too.

 

[darkstarrr]

Keep it up til your girl finds out something you did wrong to disrespect her. She might be hurt and leave you. Would you prefer that as your wake up call and reality check?

Good luck!

 

[judoguy869]

darkstarr... wtf is that supposed to mean?

wake up call? ... dam no words of encouragement

 

[horaholic]

Antidepressants have never lowered my sex drive. They do however, make it really hard to cvm, so if this is your solution, it wont work. It will only frustrate you.

Being rich doesnt help you get girls either. Its all about attitude. Of course, if you read the DJ bible, like you SAY you have, you should know this...right???

Maybe you need to be single for a while. If having a great girlfriend doesnt do it for you, cut it off. Dont waste her time or yours. Be single and game chicks, if thats what you want. Just dont get pissed when your gf moves on with other dudes. THAT would be AFC.

I'll tell you right now, you need a better attitude, or you will send the chicks running. Remember what we told you in your first post.

 

[darkstarrr]

sorry for the brief post. i was preparing for Lost to come on

bro what i meant was that sometimes we feel like the grass is greener on the other side until we get there and realize we preferred the grass back where we were (no pun intended).

you know, the saying we don't appreciate what we have until it is gone..

i agree with Horaholic in that if she is not giving you what you need then maybe you should break it off.

other than that i would suggest keeping it up in the gym and trying to decide what it is you really want. maybe you are just going through a phase where you need to date around. how long have you been with your gf?

as far as meds are concerned as what jophil mentioned, you aren't taking anything under the counter right now are you?

 

[edger]

Judoguy, I hear ya bro..I totally do. Same thing happens with me, everytime I check out the internet(YouTube, etc.) or walk outside, I always see a chick I wanna rail the sh*t out of and get horny beyond imagineability. It's frustrating and stressful as hell, I completely agree. I think what a lot of it stems down to is that we both haven't nailed enough hotties in our lives and haven't gotten it out of our systems, reaching that "point of satisfaction". I have ONLY nailed 9 hotties in the course of my life as far as I can remember since I've become interested in banging women in 1998, when I should have already slept with a ton more than that by now. When I can(if I ever) reach that point of satisfaction, I won't feel so empty in life. I'm content and at one in every aspect of my life, except for my sex life. I hear what you're saying about not being able to focus on things due to you wanting to game chicks. Same thing here bro. All I think about all day long is f*cking hot women, that it distracts me. And a lot of that has to do with not having reached that point of satisfaction.

All in all, I think a lot of guys on this board are in the same boat, they just won't admit it cause they feel funny. And one other thing, you're 100% right about some people not being destined to score multiples of hotties on a regular basis. Yeah, you'll also be scorned on the board for thinking this way too, cause too many people are close-minded to the fact that other factors can exist when all else has been thoroughly and carefully ruled out. But before I'd include that your struggle with women has to do with "destiny", I'd first like to ask, is your game good? Do you display confidence, are you funny, not supplicative to women, not a push-over, good-looking(although only a very small percentage of the time your good-looks get you in the door), display all the attributes of a Player/DJ? Under careful analysis and observation, is your game up there? I'm not saying it has to be 100% on cue, because nobody's perfect, but it has to be somewhat close.

 

[squirrels]

I realize I sound like a *****

Yes, that's exactly what you sound like.

but I have noone else that can come close to understanding me""

You're 25. Get over yourself and stop being a whiny little sh!t. You're an arrogant prick when yuo say that "no one else can come close to understanding". What, are you some evolved form of consciousness? Get a life.

 

[darkstarrr]

Interesting feedback on this thread. Makes me ponder how much our realities can differ based on our experiences and the little worlds we live in. My brother had surgery for cancer and as I was going through my emotional hell last year after being dumped I sometimes thought to myself how it was possible I could be having such a difficult time compared to how well he handled it.

Take a look at the video TRS posted here:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=156095

Granted the "chemical dumps" I experienced had very real effects on me phisilogically.

What I meant by "wake up call" which you seemed to take offense to is exactly how I described it above. It seems like no matter what the situation we are faced with, if we are going to be depressed or upset or unhappy it is going to manifest in whatever ways are avaiable to us, even as incosiquential they may see.

There are many that come here because they want to improve themselves to the point where they can inevitably have a single normal relationship down the road with someone special and mostly normal. If you consider your post being read by those individuals you will understand that from their point of view: you are a guy who has a girl. You haven't shared any shortcomings on her part or wrong doings that are causing you such emotional distress. From their point of view it may seem like you don't appreciate her. Perhaps it doesn't make much sense that you explain yourself as being depressed about how you want to fvck other girls. Do you understand their point of view?

Like some of the other posters have said, thinking about fvkcing other girls is natural and normal. But being depressed about it when you have a girl seems strange. Leave her if there is a problem and if you aren't happy.

If you are taking steroids, for example, and are having uncontrollable sexual thoughts and urges (you describe yourself as being angry, depressed, and constantly wanting to fvck every other women you see to the point where you are getting depressed...) than that is an entirely different topic.

Maybe you are nto focussing enough time and energy on yourself. Have you tried making lists of ways that you can be a better person and be more happy? I find that working hard and doing things for myself and others (as altruistically as I can although there is argument for whether there is such a thing) seems to help me have focus and feel good and at ease with my life. I duno just my .02

Good luck!

 

[edger]

Yes, that's exactly what you sound like.

You're 25. Get over yourself and stop being a whiny little sh!t. .

I was waiting for this part..what I love about the board...Judoguy, I could've warned ya this was coming...somebody comes on here spilling their guts out because they feel like sh*t, and unsupportive, good-for-nothing a**holes like you have to dig deeper into the wound, solving nothing. I'll never understand some of you guys, why can't a guy vent on here? When a guy vents here, he gets ridiculed. I don't get it. Are we all supposed to keep things bottled up, put on a facade, and pretend everything is alright? I guess that's how it's supposed to work, repress everything. Why even have counselors for that matter then? God forbid someone comes on here and complains about their situation with women...God forbid. Squirrels, if you don't have anything "constructive" to say to someone, then quit posting here...last I checked, SoSuave wasn't designed to trash those in distress.

 

[Juando]

it does sound like you need to do some exploring.

it's amazing how the real thing is sometimes the antidote to the fantasy.
example- yesterday went hiking with this girl and walking behind her was admiring her shapely butt and great "package" that she is. Nice personality, sweet.

Yesterday I had a realization about her- after getting to know her a bit I now know... I DON'T want to fukk her. I could, it would probably be fine, but what's missing is... chemistry. I only found that out by spending time with her, as my original fantasy was based on my hormones and a mental projection.

So I may keep her as a friend but these days I'm about pursuing women that have what I want, even if it's a ONS.

Bottom line, do you have the balls to risk your "sure thing" and do some exploring to find out what you really want?

A lot of guys stay stuck where you are, with the gf, the fantasies, and the frustration.

 

[darkstarrr]

Yesterday I had a realization about her- after getting to know her a bit I now know... I DON'T want to fukk her. I could, it would probably be fine, but what's missing is... chemistry. I only found that out by spending time with her, as my original fantasy was based on my hormones and a mental projection.

Interesting because as we know, we have a natural tendency to seek out that which eludes us.. and want what we cannot have. How much of your confidence in being able to "have" her do you think is causing you to not "want" her?

You made a good point that maybe he needs to do some exploration. He clearly is not ready to settle down by any means. Definitely some maturing to do related to my question in the previous paragraph.

Good luck!

 

[judoguy869]

thanks for the response everyone. Honestly, I think the problem is my sense of entitlement. I feel like I am entitled to have every girl I see. Why not? Why should I be stuck to the same girl for the last 3 years at age 25?

I know why because when we broke up for a month, I was single and hated it. I got no lays, had to struggle every day to game girls and it was miserable. I am a domesticated cat , I have had milk brought to me on a silver platter every day and I cant stand to go out and hunt for my food.

The other problem is that I really do love my girl and am scared to hurt her. WHen we broke up originally it felt like someone ripped my heart out to see how upset she was. God I hated it.


Its funny, I have been looking at Russian mail order bride site's recently for some reason. Like that is goign to solve all my problems. It makes me feel better because I am like .... although I am really busy now, if I continue to work hard and make money, I will have a hottie waiting for me, even if I have to pay for it. It at least gives me something to look forward to, some motivation even.

Otherwise y am i devoting so much time to working out and making money? Who really gives a crap? If I have a g/f that is in love with me, why dont I just get fat ( like she has) and chill out? Get drunk every time we hang out ( like she does). That is why I projet my motivation to future women when I am ready to settle down otherwise I will be a directionless pansy.

** sorry if it is rambling, maybe you guys can make sense out of this**

 

[Juando]

thanks for the response everyone. Honestly, I think the problem is my sense of entitlement. I feel like I am entitled to have every girl I see. Why not? Why should I be stuck to the same girl for the last 3 years at age 25?

I know why because when we broke up for a month, I was single and hated it. I got no lays, had to struggle every day to game girls and it was miserable. I am a domesticated cat , I have had milk brought to me on a silver platter every day and I cant stand to go out and hunt for my food.

The other problem is that I really do love my girl and am scared to hurt her. WHen we broke up originally it felt like someone ripped my heart out to see how upset she was. God I hated it.


Its funny, I have been looking at Russian mail order bride site's recently for some reason. Like that is goign to solve all my problems. It makes me feel better because I am like .... although I am really busy now, if I continue to work hard and make money, I will have a hottie waiting for me, even if I have to pay for it. It at least gives me something to look forward to, some motivation even.

Otherwise y am i devoting so much time to working out and making money? Who really gives a crap? If I have a g/f that is in love with me, why dont I just get fat ( like she has) and chill out? Get drunk every time we hang out ( like she does). That is why I projet my motivation to future women when I am ready to settle down otherwise I will be a directionless pansy.

** sorry if it is rambling, maybe you guys can make sense out of this**

You do have issues.

And I don't think anyone can give you a road map- maybe not even you can give that to yourself as a first step.
First step is to put yourself first, come to terms with the fact that if you don't stand up for yourself, find out what YOU want, commit to your own life, you probably won't satisfy any one around you and, sadly, you may end up even more unhappy and stuck than you are now.

But maybe deep down what you have is really what you want; if so, I hope you come to terms with that and I wish you the best.

How much of your confidence in being able to "have" her do you think is causing you to not "want" her?

Funny, there's another girl I'm hot for and she says the reason I'm hot for her is because I can't have her (yet). It's food for thought and and the truth is yes, craving and not having closed the deal is responsible for 30% of my disposition, but the other 70% is SHE DOES IT FOR ME. I don't have to think about it and analyze, it is chemistry. Whether being in a sexual relationship with her is a good thing is another story, subject to debate, but I love it that some women just by being who they are bring out animal lust in me.
And I would like to think that SS is and has given me some innate perspective for avoiding the vampires and balancing the dance with the good candidates!

 

[Blackdon]

[Even if I am rich I dont think I will be good with girls, I mean how are they going to know I am rich if I cant even keep them in a conversation for more then a few minute.
Doesnt this sound like AFC. Man you still have alot of growing up to do in the DJ area.And stop being fatalistic who tells you yo not destined to be good with chicks? That is self limiting B/S, buddy it does nothing but erode your confidence en makes you more depressed.

 

[Blackdon]

[Even if I am rich I dont think I will be good with girls, I mean how are they going to know I am rich if I cant even keep them in a conversation for more then a few minute.
Doesnt this sound like AFC. Man you still have alot of growing up to do in the DJ area.And stop being fatalistic who tells you yo not destined to be good with chicks? That is self limiting B/S, buddy it does nothing but erode your confidence en makes you more depressed.

 

[horaholic]

Hey Blackdon. DEAD THREAD DUDE. Check the dates before you post, unless you're asking for an update.

 

[mrRuckus]

I was waiting for this part..what I love about the board...Judoguy, I could've warned ya this was coming...somebody comes on here spilling their guts out because they feel like sh*t, and unsupportive, good-for-nothing a**holes like you have to dig deeper into the wound, solving nothing. I'll never understand some of you guys, why can't a guy vent on here? When a guy vents here, he gets ridiculed. I don't get it.

Yup, can't complain to women because it repels them and can't complain to men because you get ridiculed.