Got this message, my thought on it :p

[Thatsalotoffish]

Hey got this totally random Facebook (yah I know) message from this girl who I work with 'best friend' :

I know you dont know me and all, but i think you know my best friend ----!!
do you work together? what do you think of her??
ive known her for 5 whole years X_X


Like this is as I said totally random , I dont even know this girls friend and it really surprised me when I received/read this.

To me this just says that the girl I know must like me (I wouldnt be surprised ), but doesnt know my thoughts of her and so got her friend to try and be all sneaky and sly on me and try to get me say something stupid like 'UH I REALLY LIKE HER LOLZ!!!'

I dont even think I should bother replying to this at all, I mean honestly whats the point.

So yeah what do you guys think, like the girl I know is pretty hot and **** but I aint really properly tried just cause its at work and I dont wanna have **** hovering around work and stuff you get me. But this is mmm ye lol i dunno

 

[Strelok]

It is probably some of your friend making fun of you,nothing different from the other one where some "unknown girl" tells that she saw your picture somewhere and found you attractive.

 

[Thatsalotoffish]

Lol it honestly isnt, cause my friends dont even know who this girl is, and yeh well the girl who sent me the message requested me as a friend first and is clearly a real person zzz.

LOL I really find what you said hilarious.

 

[(JJ)]

It is probably some of your friend making fun of you,nothing different from the other one where some "unknown girl" tells that she saw your picture somewhere and found you attractive.

optimist in the building!

sadly, op, Strelok's opinion is one of someone with deep seated confidence issues who has unfortunately run into a lot of manipulative b1tches in his life.

MY response would be to respond to her message with something ****y and funny and see how she responds. I ALWAYS assume a girls are attracted to me when blatant examples like this pop up. Strelok and i seem to be at opposite ends of the spectrum on that one. if you assume attraction, you will be way more confident and you will behave the way an alpha male would and therefore be more successful.

feel it out, say something like "well she's cute but she is ALWAYS hitting on me! " or something along those lines. if there's a good response keep going, if its crappy, hold off. report back and we'll help you out some more

 

[Strelok]

optimist in the building!

sadly, op, Strelok's opinion is one of someone with deep seated confidence issues who has unfortunately run into a lot of manipulative b1tches in his life.

MY response would be to respond to her message with something ****y and funny and see how she responds. I ALWAYS assume a girls are attracted to me when blatant examples like this pop up. Strelok and i seem to be at opposite ends of the spectrum on that one. if you assume attraction, you will be way more confident and you will behave the way an alpha male would and therefore be more successful.

feel it out, say something like "well she's cute but she is ALWAYS hitting on me! " or something along those lines. if there's a good response keep going, if its crappy, hold off. report back and we'll help you out some more

No need of write 100 lines or emulate cosmos psychologists,I was a optimist too at 19.
Than I had the chance to see what bored girls/guys(probably some that he doesn't even know) are capable of when they are looking for some laught and the case of the OP seems to be a standard joke,anyway I hope to be wrong for him.
Usually those kind of jokes are even funny to hear when told,they are just terrible for the target that always happen to be some single guy.

 

[(JJ)]

i believe there's no reason NOT to assume attraction, EVER, unless you are given BLATANT signs of disinterest.

if that happens, then okay. move on, there's 3 billion girls here, get with one that IS interested.

in this case, the op has run into a girl that, from MY personal experience, is showing a fair amount of interest, especially considering the fact that he has not really put in any work.

so then the question becomes.... how high of perceived value does the op have with the target in question?

if the answer is "the op is an above average specimen of alpha maleness, looks good, well groomed, takes care of business," then it is probably a huge sign of interest.

if, however, this isnt happening to the op on a regular basis and he KNOWS he isnt an alpha and lacks the traits i listed above, then chances are good what you're saying is true Strelok.

for me, i KNOW it happens to me on a regular basis, girls make up excuses to talk to guys they view as high value and attractive.

"whether you think you can, or you think you can't, you are right." -Henry Ford.

 

[Thatsalotoffish]

if the answer is "the op is an above average specimen of alpha maleness, looks good, well groomed, takes care of business,"

Well I am tall, good looking (even one of my best mates who is a male said 'your the best looking guy I know' mmm and girls I have known in the past have said that I am good looking), I has a very good laid back and confident attitude in life and I look to wear clothes which I enjoy, as well I know my ambition in life and have stated it to people cause I know I will achieve it, plus I work hella hard where I am, cause I have a good attitude to work.

The only negative about me is recently I havent done too good well with girls, but I put that more down to the fact I got heavily into weed and I never really tried putting myself out there, but I got myself off that and I notice my old wants coming back (when I used to go out I expected at least a pull )

And pretty much the interaction I have had with this girl is just usual chat and I make plenty of jokes etc busting on her and just other stuff, I have made a couple of piss poor jokes but she screamed with laughter, hell it even made myself uncomfortable cause I was like er... wat?, but no serious convos blah de blah I am at work so I am too busy to do that + its boring.

I just thought I would give a wee bit more background info about me, so I dont have noobs like Strelok coming on and being negative, I dont mind negative advice but when it is clearly wrong/bad its annoying.

 

[Thatsalotoffish]

Hey I sent a pretty amusing message and got a reply ...

shes like that! She even hits on me! Dont act like you dont like it ;D butreally shes way fun wait untill you've known her for a long time she wont be so weird then hahaha

any suggestions on what I should say next? You guys helped me come up with a good reply xD