i've dated a few girls, and i'm a pretty straight foward person. when it comes to getting head, i just ask for it.."can i get a bj". Sometimes they do, but alot of times the girls i'm dating says that i'm too foward with it, and that they'll do it when they feel in the mood to do it, so i dont need to ask. are there any common techniques u guys use that works. please don't say.."just kiss it, just blah, blah for a bit"..cuz they heard that before...i need some good answers, cuz i need more head!
got some good techniques on getting head?
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The very first time you want her to give you head give her head first, then if she is even close to being a decent girl she will start to go down on you.
Now this is important, for some reason the girls I date always like to ask first,
"do you want me to suck on you?" at this point say yes, don't say if you feel like it, don't say whatever, Say yes. Say it like it was the dumbest question she ever asked.
They only ask the first time they go down but they do.
Now this is important, for some reason the girls I date always like to ask first,
"do you want me to suck on you?" at this point say yes, don't say if you feel like it, don't say whatever, Say yes. Say it like it was the dumbest question she ever asked.
They only ask the first time they go down but they do.
-HPNOTIQ-
Master Don Juan
The best tip about getting head comes from a Chris Rock comedy routine..I think it was off of "Bigger Blacker"
Basically...when you are getting hot n heavy..and you want the woman to such your d*ck, lick your balls, or whatever..
You HAVE TO BE FIRM about how you say it. You have to be a MAN when you say it. You have to say it like you are in control of things.
When you go to a woman and say "uummmm ...errrRrr...Ummmm..excuse me...errr Ummm...excuse me...can you please....errr umm...excuse me....can you lick my balls?" - You're gonna just be there sitting around with dry balls.
Its funny...but its true.
Another way to get a hesitant girl to give you head is to 69 her. Got to be willing to give if you want to receive. The nice thing is, after she's used to sucking you off..then she'll be more willing to do it w/o the 69.
Basically...when you are getting hot n heavy..and you want the woman to such your d*ck, lick your balls, or whatever..
You HAVE TO BE FIRM about how you say it. You have to be a MAN when you say it. You have to say it like you are in control of things.
When you go to a woman and say "uummmm ...errrRrr...Ummmm..excuse me...errr Ummm...excuse me...can you please....errr umm...excuse me....can you lick my balls?" - You're gonna just be there sitting around with dry balls.
Its funny...but its true.
Another way to get a hesitant girl to give you head is to 69 her. Got to be willing to give if you want to receive. The nice thing is, after she's used to sucking you off..then she'll be more willing to do it w/o the 69.
Getting head could also have to do with what your area down there looks like... if you got some MEGA bush going on.. i know a lot of women won't really like it... i mean like us.. if there is a forrest I never eat a woman.
So consider making yourself more appetising. I also agree with HPNOTIQ, just ask in a matter of fact, firm way like as if its NORMAL for you to get blown.. you'll get it.
By the way the way you asked your sounds like your putting a lot of importance on head at the moment and this will come out in your communication. Lots of importance == less head because it seems like somthing *special /forbidden*. Less importace and expected == more head.
So consider making yourself more appetising. I also agree with HPNOTIQ, just ask in a matter of fact, firm way like as if its NORMAL for you to get blown.. you'll get it.
By the way the way you asked your sounds like your putting a lot of importance on head at the moment and this will come out in your communication. Lots of importance == less head because it seems like somthing *special /forbidden*. Less importace and expected == more head.
Don Juan Marco
Don Juan
Yo James, NEVER ask for a bj....NEVER
That sounds sooooo desperate!
First make sure you got your hair well trimmed or shaved, women hate the hair. Also be clean, after you piss wash it so it don't have a bad smell. These 2 things are just to be on the safe side.
Now to the actual bj. Go down on her first and do it WELL. In most cases the girl will then go down on you. If not, you TELL her to suck your wood. They get turned on by a guy who takes control cause it shows you are very confident and not insecure.
Good luck dude
That sounds sooooo desperate!
First make sure you got your hair well trimmed or shaved, women hate the hair. Also be clean, after you piss wash it so it don't have a bad smell. These 2 things are just to be on the safe side.
Now to the actual bj. Go down on her first and do it WELL. In most cases the girl will then go down on you. If not, you TELL her to suck your wood. They get turned on by a guy who takes control cause it shows you are very confident and not insecure.
Good luck dude
Re:
<<< Never personally found "1" strategy that is all encompassing. There's girls I've gotten it on the first date, and girls it took several sessions of sex to get good head. It depends on the girls values toward. Some think it's less than sex, some think it's more than sex.
<<< Two pieces of advice:
1. Give expecting not to receive. These are also words of advice from "how to drive your woman wild in bed." If you seek to knock her socks off, she'll do the same back. If she doesn't want to do it, honestly, I'd probably go find another chick. It's HER job to take an interest and pleasure in doing it, not mine to train her.
2. Date or fvck a girl who cares about your pleasure. A girl who just DOES IT, will do what porno stars do, but nothing more. It will be superficial and meaningless. A girl who cares about your pleasure will go until you ***, and THEN, swallow.
Case-in-point...a girl I'm dating that I care about visited last night. We started watching a movie and making out. I got her hot n wet on my couch bed then moved to the bedroom {at her recommendation}. I pleased her then she was MORE than willing to please me. And it was FANTASTIC.
Girls who have been BAD at head typically are the ones who go so rough they give no time to get any sensation going, OR, they just THINK they know what's up.
*Tell her how you like it.
*Tell her how sexy she is while doing it.
*How her lips feel awesome wrapped around your c8ck.
*How sexy she appears.
*How close it makes you feel to her.
*How it drives you nuts.
*Ask her how her p9ssy feels while doing it.
*FEEL the moment.
*Build up the sensation and the moment. Start slow, then move forward more aggressively.
*keep your 5hit in check. Shave or trim. Going to short on shaving results in in-grown hairs and red bumps. Gross.
*Don't wear lame boxers.
See...there's a point to NLP / Hypnosis here. because it's a very EMOTIONAL and FEELING type situation, the mental anchors you plant is WHAT she'll feel everything she...
_thinks of you
_thinks of giving head
_gets head
A good friend of mine told me how he dated girls who didn't like it, didn't swallow, or any other issue. In a few months, he could get them to become c8ck sucking vampiresses, using some NLP, hypnosis, and PLEASING her first. Obviously these weren't 1 night stands...but he'd talk sexually throughout the BJ and link into sensations in her mind and body. If she has a bad experience, you have a stench, a bush, or cheesy boxers, this is how she'll think of it going forward. Don't make the mistake of anchoring a bad situation to your first time.
A-Unit
<<< Never personally found "1" strategy that is all encompassing. There's girls I've gotten it on the first date, and girls it took several sessions of sex to get good head. It depends on the girls values toward. Some think it's less than sex, some think it's more than sex.
<<< Two pieces of advice:
1. Give expecting not to receive. These are also words of advice from "how to drive your woman wild in bed." If you seek to knock her socks off, she'll do the same back. If she doesn't want to do it, honestly, I'd probably go find another chick. It's HER job to take an interest and pleasure in doing it, not mine to train her.
2. Date or fvck a girl who cares about your pleasure. A girl who just DOES IT, will do what porno stars do, but nothing more. It will be superficial and meaningless. A girl who cares about your pleasure will go until you ***, and THEN, swallow.
Case-in-point...a girl I'm dating that I care about visited last night. We started watching a movie and making out. I got her hot n wet on my couch bed then moved to the bedroom {at her recommendation}. I pleased her then she was MORE than willing to please me. And it was FANTASTIC.
Girls who have been BAD at head typically are the ones who go so rough they give no time to get any sensation going, OR, they just THINK they know what's up.
*Tell her how you like it.
*Tell her how sexy she is while doing it.
*How her lips feel awesome wrapped around your c8ck.
*How sexy she appears.
*How close it makes you feel to her.
*How it drives you nuts.
*Ask her how her p9ssy feels while doing it.
*FEEL the moment.
*Build up the sensation and the moment. Start slow, then move forward more aggressively.
*keep your 5hit in check. Shave or trim. Going to short on shaving results in in-grown hairs and red bumps. Gross.
*Don't wear lame boxers.
See...there's a point to NLP / Hypnosis here. because it's a very EMOTIONAL and FEELING type situation, the mental anchors you plant is WHAT she'll feel everything she...
_thinks of you
_thinks of giving head
_gets head
A good friend of mine told me how he dated girls who didn't like it, didn't swallow, or any other issue. In a few months, he could get them to become c8ck sucking vampiresses, using some NLP, hypnosis, and PLEASING her first. Obviously these weren't 1 night stands...but he'd talk sexually throughout the BJ and link into sensations in her mind and body. If she has a bad experience, you have a stench, a bush, or cheesy boxers, this is how she'll think of it going forward. Don't make the mistake of anchoring a bad situation to your first time.
A-Unit
yunghova35
Don Juan
thats ALL you need to know, oh yeaha nd dont say gimme head, brian, or anything else vulgar first time around.