got played?

[milesman]

Change your mindset. Sounds like you're too focused on this ONE who you feel like you invested some time in and don't want to abandon now without having seen any results. It's convenient because she's right there in the office and the ice is broken etc. But a woman with TRUE interest would hop, skip and jump at an invite for a night on the town. Not only would she do that but she would make as many direct references to what the two of you should do and when.

Here's an example with a cute little lady Im talking to. I saw her sitting on a park bench and sat down next to her with my ice cream cone and started chatting. Within about 2 minutes she asked me what I was doing for the July 4th weekend. (Nudge) She said she was bored and not doing anything. So I asked for the number and got it without hesitation. Fast forward 1 week after we'd seen each other again and she's learned that I like to cook, which wasn't one of her strongest suits , she calls me and makes a point of telling me about the steaks and ribs she bought last night and that I should come over (on xx date at x time) and let her cook for me (Nudge, nudge). IN ADDITION, she knows I'm about to move into a new place and threw out a "oh you should let me help you decorate, I like that kind of stuff!" line.

My point is, from what I've seen if a chick has true interest you, she's gonna pounce on any opportunity you give her and more than likely will turn your conversations into ideas for future meetings. And she WILL NOT FLAKE. She will only be consistent in her flirting with you and accepting date offers. If she isn't than you know her desire for you is lukewarm. And you're saying that you've already asked this chick for her # and out on a date and she had a blank look on both occasions? Think about what your response would be to a hottie whom your interest for was sky high. Would you mess around and NOT accept the date for ANY reason with no counteroffer or legit excuse?

Youve been warned.

 

[darth yoda]

I'm sorry ~ªêQµïTª$~, but every thread I see you in, it looks like you are gving out sketchy/borderline AFC advice...have you read the bible?

As for you mazda, my young padawan...find other women...lots of em. All your eggs in one basket, you should not put. Ignore this one, don't show her that she got to you by interrogating her as to why she's playing games. Do you know how needy that sounds?

She is obviously not interested enough, so give her the cold shoulder.

 

[Oblivious]

Its funny how guys can talk about women flaking on them yet you all can be the biggest flakes as well. I am sure that there are other women out there who will show you interest and follow through. Seems like you are intrigued by the challenge she has presented you with. I guess its all in what you like. There are probably other women out there who wouldn't flake on you but you don't give them the time of day or just put them in the friend zone.
I've shown a blantant interest in a guy for some time now and just placed in the friend zone. He took that interest and ran with it while I'm left with a broken heart and he is living it up chatting up other women. So in saying that, if her interest doesn't match up with her actions, then you will be better off letting her and the situation go from here on. She will only continue to lead you on until she has sucked you dry for what she wants out of you and leave you high and dry once she's consumed you. If people like you and want you, they would make an earnest effort to show you.

 

[milesman]

Originally posted by Oblivious
If people like you and want you, they would make an earnest effort to show you.

Yes, see above post.

 

[themanwithnoname]

if she's showing unusually a lot of attention verbally/physically, it may be attention/test; she should be the one to ask you out in this case.

 

[Oblivious]

I saw what it said....

It can also be said that a man with TRUE interest would do what he could and pounce on the opportunity as well. If you like this girl, stop beating around the bush and playing games. I thought women were the ones who analyzed every little thing. If then she flakes, keep it moving.

Maybe at some point if she definitely has a geniune interest in you she'll let it be known. But you can't hold on to hope that she will. People lie to get what they want out of you for the moment. All you can do is know you did your part and made an effort.

 

[Charm Artist]

Ok, it seems like she might be an AW but don't let that turn you off, these are easy to seduce and some guys suggested that you go straight up to her and ask her wasup and what's with all the signs and why she's not responding. I'm not saying that advice is bad, but it's something i wouldn't do. Here's my 4 cents in this..


She obviously likes the attention you give her and wants to have fun. So in turn, have fun back with her.. she's playing the Coquette and going hot and cold, hot and cold.. she'll make everything seem like it's alright and fun and that she's interested but the moment u try to pounce on her, she pulls back and leaves you with a bunch of question marks. This is what kept you on your tippie toes and kept you wanting to know more about her. Play the game with her also and let her know you like to have fun and show her that she can't get to you. If you already went up to her to tell her she needs to stop all these 'games' then she knows that she has gotten to you. As a seducer you need to remember the whole world is a type of 'game' and 'arena' Indirection is a huge key, keep HER guessin and play hot and cold. She'll be struggling to figure you out and unconsciously realize that she's no longer in her game anymore and she's falling into yours. Good luck

Charm Artist

 

[milesman]

^ Why bother? NEXT.

 

[ego]

yeah. it felt great! sex one night, then never met again.

i dunno what it was. but it was me for sure. maybe not good in bed, too young or just not interesting at all.

whatever it was i liked it.

 

[mazda]

I just want to say great advice from all of you about givng her the cold shoulders and all. I do feel like she's into for one minute then the next she's like who the heck are you? wtf? she is always and I mean everyday she is always touching me and that keeps me pondering do i ignore her when she touches me I mean what do I do and I know I have not fallen for her but it's kind of shady when girls lead you to nowhere how do I let her know that I'm tired of her game? and I know she touches me for attention that I know for a fact, and when I ask her for a date/tn in the past I did it through email? I know I'm looking into this to deeply but I want to learn from this mistake in the future, did that ruined my chance with her? did it show that I'm too much of a wuss? please fellos easy on me :0)

 

[blue17]

Originally posted by mazda
I know for a fact, and when I ask her for a date/tn in the past I did it through email? I know I'm looking into this to deeply but I want to learn from this mistake in the future, did that ruined my chance with her?

to some extent, yes.

 

[Climax]

*yawn*

I'm sticking with my opinion... confront her, and PUT HER IN HER PLACE! because like i said, she HAS left you wondering wtf, when all u need to do, is take 2 minutes of your time, and speak/confront her and set things straight/put her in her place.


Laterz...

 

[mazda]

you know what you are right I've been doing the ignore treatment and I still feel like I'm missing something maybe I do need to confront her and tell her to stop playing games with me

 

[mactheripper]

Confronting her is the mature option... I wouldn't take it..lol.... Like it was just mentioned, if you confront her she will know that she's gotten to you...actually, maybe a better idea would be to get her to confront you....hmm, perhaps I should take my own advice as I'm in a similar situation - except for the fact I'm still pursuing other women, and the more I do, the less I care about this AW!

Get her to confront you, not by acting overly pi$sed with her, but by acting like you are pis$ed but your trying to hide it. But only act this way toward her, act in a way that she knows something is up, but she can't put her finger on it... I hope this makes sense.

 

[mazda]

hey mac i understand exactly what you mean not really show her that i'm pissed at her but know that i'm pissed at the situation she has put me into and good advice also on talking to different women si I just can't focus on that AW