Got LJBFed by the ex? Help!

[white sox bill]

OK in a nutshell--I dated this girl 3 years ago, she screwed around on me after short peroid (shes LSE BTW). We got back together later that year, split up, the next year we were f*ck buddies for short time then she split.

Now she broke up w/bf a couple of months ago. We've been talking and twice we've seen eachother with holding,non-sexual touching but she WON'T wet kiss me. I said c'mon what up? She says she doesn't want to go there, because that just screws up our friendship when we sleep w/eachother. I said I didn't agree with that but I'm fine being freinds and I would NOT ever touch her again. She seemed a bit taken back and soon left my house.

Now alls I want to do is bang her. Shes hanging some DD's that have gotten bigger which I crave!So I don't want to hear about the evils of the ex's, go after new meat (which I am anyway) and so on. What I want to know is how do I get this girl wet for me again? She may be playin hard to get, she was doing the snuggling thing w/me for quit a while, but drew the line @ wet kiss. How to I tell her that by NOT sleeping with me will only push me away? She knows I play the field too. Maybe the jealousy thing?

 

[DrDope]

Can you blame her for not wanting to get back with you? I'm sure she has a pretty good idea of what the score is. She went out with you for three years and now you just want to get back with her for sex...

She's no dummy.

 

[white sox bill]

Originally posted by DrDope
Can you blame her for not wanting to get back with you? I'm sure she has a pretty good idea of what the score is. She went out with you for three years and now you just want to get back with her for sex...

She's no dummy.

I guess I didn't clarify enough--in 2002 we dated 2 terms for total of 4 months. The next summer we banged w/no commitments for about 2 months. Not 3 years. Why does she want to get physical w/no sex then? Keep in mind she's drama queen--always gotta hate her job,friends etc. I still think shes playing hard to get, I just have to push right buttons

 

[NewMan]

Why does she want to get physical w/no sex then?

Because you allow her. She knows what you want, and she knows you'll be a pvssy (no offence) and try by whatever means you can to get back in her panties.

She's getting what SHE wants out of you (someone there to reassure her, hold her, spoon with her etc. Ad nausium)..... so why should she give out the poon, when she's getting everything she wants from you? Answer - she isn't.

Women are fickle creatures (have you not figured this out?) - give them attention and they don't want it. Don't give them attention and they NEED it, like their life depends on it.

Stop acting like her best friend. Why don't you just cut this Ho bag off right where it hurts? she wants a man - and a REAL man wouldn't be pvssy footing around with a chick that's not giving him what he wants (and by the way, in my time here, I've never read a post where the guy get's some sympathy pvssy - and right now, that's really the only pvssy you'll get from her).

 

[white sox bill]

Originally posted by NewMan
Because you allow her. She knows what you want, and she knows you'll be a pvssy (no offence) and try by whatever means you can to get back in her panties.

She's getting what SHE wants out of you (someone there to reassure her, hold her, spoon with her etc. Ad nausium)..... so why should she give out the poon, when she's getting everything she wants from you? Answer - she isn't.

Women are fickle creatures (have you not figured this out?) - give them attention and they don't want it. Don't give them attention and they NEED it, like their life depends on it.

Stop acting like her best friend. Why don't you just cut this Ho bag off right where it hurts? she wants a man - and a REAL man wouldn't be pvssy footing around with a chick that's not giving him what he wants (and by the way, in my time here, I've never read a post where the guy get's some sympathy pvssy - and right now, that's really the only pvssy you'll get from her).

So am I supposed to cross the line and force sex on her? The reason I told her I was OK w/being her friend was because I didn't want to let her know that her not doing me was hurting me.
Your saying I should have told her either we're fvcking or don't even bother calling me?

 

[DrDope]

Bill,

Listen to NewMan. He is smart. Don't say anything to her. Just make yourself unavailable to her and see what happens. There will be one of two results: she will come to you and you will get laid or she will not contact you and you won't have to waste your time on her anymore. It's really quite simple.

And, no, you don't ever force sex on someone. If you play your cards right, girls will be pushing you down on the bed to have sex with you.

 

[white sox bill]

Originally posted by DrDope
Bill,

Listen to NewMan. He is smart. Don't say anything to her. Just make yourself unavailable to her and see what happens. There will be one of two results: she will come to you and you will get laid or she will not contact you and you won't have to waste your time on her anymore. It's really quite simple.

And, no, you don't ever force sex on someone. If you play your cards right, girls will be pushing you down on the bed to have sex with you.

Yea Dr, New Man is on the right track. No I wasn't suggesting to force the issue of sex, just a tongue in cheek remark. Its just right now I'm on a HUGE dating/mating losing streak that just keeps escalating. Thing is I have a TON going for me, just keep barking up wrong tree. I'm confident, but lately been unsure how to use this confidence w/women. When I was in 20's,women used to fall over themselves to get to me. Now, getting a date seem like pulling teeth. Women in my age range now have issues,are bitter,divorced,hate men etc. Its like going on a LONG losing streak, you press more and more which is more pressure equals more losing!! God am I the only one that goes thru this?

 

[Paradox]

You should read Pooks article "Kill that desperation". It's in the DJ Bible.

Then go and get a hobby.

Then read a few classics like the Illiad and Meditations by Marcus Aurilius(sp).

Then spice up your wardrobe. The go and sit in the park and catch some rays for a few days.

Then learn how to cook a new dish. Then ask a girl over to try it. If she says no then just move on. Don't take it personally.

Keep busy and keep moving and sometimes they fall into your lap. Remember to pray.

Remember, women can smell desperation.

Also read my article called "On Rejection". it's in the DJ Bible.

 

[white sox bill]

Originally posted by Paradox
You should read Pooks article "Kill that desperation". It's in the DJ Bible.

Then go and get a hobby.

Then read a few classics like the Illiad and Meditations by Marcus Aurilius(sp).

Then spice up your wardrobe. The go and sit in the park and catch some rays for a few days.

Then learn how to cook a new dish. Then ask a girl over to try it. If she says no then just move on. Don't take it personally.

Keep busy and keep moving and sometimes they fall into your lap. Remember to pray.

Remember, women can smell desperation.

Also read my article called "On Rejection". it's in the DJ Bible.

Paradox I can't seem to get linked onto either above sources. Can you supply a linky? I keep getting error message. I do remember reading Pooks article not sure about yours.

I appreciate advice, but I do wear very nice Polo clothes, I'm a competitive bodybuilder, tan, low bodyfat,good job the whole thing. Men and women think I have women beating my door down, but I'm in a dry spell! I think sometimes my bodybuilding lifestyle has me limited. I always watch what I eat, drink small amounts etc. I've just delevopled some bad habits over the years. I will gladly work on them if I can figure out what I'm doing wrong.

 

[Slickster]

LJBF'd by your ex! That sucks man. I'm not really sure why you would even open the door for that to happen. Sex isn't worth it.

I have to agree with Newman here. She's using you big time for attention etc. As soon as she finds someone else to give it to her I'm sure you'll be history. You're letting your desperation for sex turn you into a chump and she's enjoying the power she has over you. Also you mentioned that during your first stint with this chick she ended up cheating on you. WTF man why would you give her the time of day or a second chance? It may be difficult for her to have sex with someone she doesn't respect. Just some food for thought.

Although I don't recommend what you are doing at least you don't seem to be suffering from oneitis or anything stupid like that. You're on a mission for sex so I will reluctantly try and give you some advice anyway. Just make sure you keep your head on straight.

If you really need to sex her you'll have to be stealth about it.
Next time you are getting physical you'll have to try and get her as horny as possible without ever crossing the line. What that means is she has to be the one dying for you to fcuk her. She has to be the one who suggests it. It has to be her decision. You have to play the part of the good boy doing everything you can to turn her on without overstepping the boundaries she's set up.

Seeing how the two of you have a past it shouldn't be a problem for you to find and push the right buttons. Just make sure you recognize when she's primed and ready and then back off. Repeat as necessary until she's begging you for it.

Whatever you do make sure you don't accidentally get her off without getting a piece yourself. The situation is sad enough as it is. Don't make it any worse.

And no, I wouldn't say you are alone with this problem. I'm sure there are many guys around here including myself who have done some stupid, crazy shyt just to get some.

Remember, respect for yourself is key to success in this game. If this venture is jeopardizing your self respect then you best move on.

Good luck and let us know how it turns out.

 

[white sox bill]

Originally posted by Slickster
LJBF'd by your ex! That sucks man. I'm not really sure why you would even open the door for that to happen. Sex isn't worth it.

I have to agree with Newman here. She's using you big time for attention etc. As soon as she finds someone else to give it to her I'm sure you'll be history. You're letting your desperation for sex turn you into a chump and she's enjoying the power she has over you. Also you mentioned that during your first stint with this chick she ended up cheating on you. WTF man why would you give her the time of day or a second chance? It may be difficult for her to have sex with someone she doesn't respect. Just some food for thought.

Although I don't recommend what you are doing at least you don't seem to be suffering from oneitis or anything stupid like that. You're on a mission for sex so I will reluctantly try and give you some advice anyway. Just make sure you keep your head on straight.

If you really need to sex her you'll have to be stealth about it.
Next time you are getting physical you'll have to try and get her as horny as possible without ever crossing the line. What that means is she has to be the one dying for you to fcuk her. She has to be the one who suggests it. It has to be her decision. You have to play the part of the good boy doing everything you can to turn her on without overstepping the boundaries she's set up.

Seeing how the two of you have a past it shouldn't be a problem for you to find and push the right buttons. Just make sure you recognize when she's primed and ready and then back off. Repeat as necessary until she's begging you for it.

Whatever you do make sure you don't accidentally get her off without getting a piece yourself. The situation is sad enough as it is. Don't make it any worse.

And no, I wouldn't say you are alone with this problem. I'm sure there are many guys around here including myself who have done some stupid, crazy shyt just to get some.

Remember, respect for yourself is key to success in this game. If this venture is jeopardizing your self respect then you best move on.

Good luck and let us know how it turns out.

Well she seems to think I'm banging these 2 women she knows..I just let her sit back and think it! So, true I may seem more like anxious rather than desperate. Either way, I blew it there.



They always say, go with your gut--my gut tells me she wants a boning, but she thinking I'm gonna make him work/wait for it, since all the other times we split she ALWAYS jumped into sack with me first thing back. So I'll play the jelously card, be unavailable,and once in a while tell her to get over here and put a head on this!! Then laugh like I'm kidding. I still think I can grudge fvck her in due time. If not, NEXT!

The more I think of it the more I'm convinced its the hard to get game. C'mon my ex-gf (who btw just called and left message) suddenly hanging around,calling,making plans for events etc. She looking for something I just have to play my cards better. I would think rarley does an ex hang around "just for freinds" Yea right! Thanks Bros for the enlightement!

BTW it seems I can give good advice to other guys, but when it comes to my own personal affairs, I manage to fvck it up! Anyone else here run into that?

 

[decades]

you're focused on the past. its familiar but this relationship is actually keeping you in a social straitjacket. I've done the same thing and it consumes precious energy...move on and free up your energy.

Regards,

Mike

 

[NewMan]

BTW it seems I can give good advice to other guys, but when it comes to my own personal affairs, I manage to fvck it up! Anyone else here run into that?

Yep - most people ar the same.

So I'll play the jelously card, be unavailable,and once in a while tell her to get over here and put a head on this!! Then laugh like I'm kidding

In my experience, she'll see right through your game. It's better to just move on. Just don't give a fvck.... and mean it. Like dogs women have a 6th sense for this kind of thing.

Its just right now I'm on a HUGE dating/mating losing streak that just keeps escalating

Bang, there is your problem.... your to concerned with women and it's probably showing through in your desperation.