Got ljbf´ed... but can't get over her.

[old fashioned]

15 year old AFC here need some help !

im in deep ****, with this girl... I got a oneitis on this HB named Katie in my class,who i have been on a date with one time. It went very well, but i didn´t k-close her although she showed a lot of IOI´S.. I think she kinda got hurt that i didn´t kissed her, and threw me in the friend zone.

A couple of weeks after the date, a girlfriend of Katie´s, told me that the Katie , was totally in to me, before i took her on a date. But after the date she kinda lost interest, but she was still having some feelings for me. In that moment when I heard that, I sent a text to Katie . In the text i opened up and told her that i had a crush on her, and that i wanted to be more than friends... Katie LJBF´ed me and said "i think you are very sweet but i don't look at you in that way" and all that crap... but i know thats a lie.

Next day in class i totally froze Katie out, and I've been doing that for month now... I know it hurts her, and her friends is mad at me for doing it...

But i can't get over her. I still want her to be mine... How can i get this girl ? what to do ?

sorry for the bad english I'm european...

 

[Griever114]

15 year old AFC here need some help !

Katie LJBF´ed me and said "i think you are very sweet but i don't look at you in that way" and all that crap... but i know thats a lie.

Next day in class i totally froze Katie out, and I've been doing that for month now... I know it hurts her, and her friends is mad at me for doing it...

Keep this up and NEXT HER. If she wants you, make her EARN IT, use/abuse and DROP her.

 

[LearningSlowly]

These stories are always so sad. Sorry man, next time you know that you HAVE to make a move, or you'll be seen as gay by that girl.

Sooo now she sees you as gay. You obviously are still hung up on her, so the freeze-out is the best way to go. There is no method to get her, keep your distance. If it's meant to happen, it'll happen. If you try to make it happen, you will fail.

Sorry bro, move on.

 

[The Libertine]

You totally acted like a little *****. Why do you hurt the girl's feelings by freezing her out? It was your fault that you didn't escalate. And who the **** expresses their feelings A) by words and not actions, and B) by text? You just failed at this one. And if you really liked the girl for her personality and not only for her looks, it doesn't really matter if you are just friends. There are just so many hotter girls that you will find if you stop being a ***** and become a man.
So,man up, stop being a **** with this girl and learn how to be a man. Learn from your mistakes. We can't help you get this girl back (atleast I can't) but we can help you become a man. So stick around. Sorry for the harsh post and welcome to SoSuave.

 

[Mindgamez]

The Libertine, your post is pretty harsh but you are totally right.

old fashioned, you really have to change. There are MILLIONS of options in this world. The best way to do it is to get over it, and be a real man. You WILL find other girls, you just have to believe it.

I had the same problem 3 years ago with my 1st girlfriend. She was in love with me a lot, and then we never ever kissed because I was too shy. She ended up breaking up. We were together for a month, and we NEVER kissed! Can you realize that?
Lol, but now I don't give a **** and me and her are now pretty good friends. That's awesome! Just get over her man, just get over it.

 

[The Libertine]

The Libertine, your post is pretty harsh but you are totally right.

Yeah,I guess it's just my style- I don't mean to offend people. Oh,and call me just "libertine"- I put "The" just because it was already taken as a nickname.

 

[Nino-Tk]

forget about her hommie, get new girls...that is basically it

 

[old fashioned]

thanks for the advices guys ! it means a lot !

@libertine
you are totally right about this, i know i acted like a wuss around her and i know that i made a HUGE mistake with not escalating... the biggest mistake i made, was probably sending that text... i regret it. I gotta man up, and get over my fear of rejection... thank you for the eye openener ! .The only thing i think you got wrong, is that you say that i only like this girl for the looks, the reason i like this girl is her personality, she is kinda shy and sweet, and for some reason i like shy girls... but thank you very much for the advice !

@mindgamez
I know i gotta change, and I'm working on it !. When you say that there are lot of other girls, i just kinda feel that I'm not interested, in all these other girls... Katie is special !. but i know, i got a huge oneitis, and i need to realize that there are a lot of girls like her... I just need to find them. But it is just insanely hard to get over this girl... but thank you for the advice !

 

[Amo]

You're not gonna get this girl. Just erase all hopes of that from your mind right now.

It's probably best for you to stay away a little while while you get over her.

The best you can do it is keep her as a friend, provided you can keep your emotions in check.

New women are always the solution to old women problems.

 

[The Libertine]

thanks for the advices guys ! it means a lot !

@libertine
you are totally right about this, i know i acted like a wuss around her and i know that i made a HUGE mistake with not escalating... the biggest mistake i made, was probably sending that text... i regret it. I gotta man up, and get over my fear of rejection... thank you for the eye openener ! .The only thing i think you got wrong, is that you say that i only like this girl for the looks, the reason i like this girl is her personality, she is kinda shy and sweet, and for some reason i like shy girls... but thank you very much for the advice !

Well,if you like her personality you should keep her as a friend. I can never have enough girl friends. My two best friends are girls. So apologize for acting like a douche to her . And then go get some other girls!

 

[old fashioned]

You're not gonna get this girl. Just erase all hopes of that from your mind right now.

its hard for me to realize that... but you completely right. I have to get over this girl... i just want her so bad...

probably gonna go sarge for the first time soon.. I just want to meet some new girls, so i can get over this one.

There is also this HB, who i think is kinda interested in me... think I'm gonna build some comfort over text and then ask her out

I got to get Katie out of my head... !

 

[Amo]

The trick is this:

"Katie who?"

 

[old fashioned]

The trick is this:

"Katie who?"

haha thats pretty hard when she is in my class and i see her like everyday

 

[old fashioned]

I'm planning on to talk the stuff that happend between me and katie through with her... And asking her why she didn´t gave it a chance, because i know she had feelings for me... is this a bad idea ? does it make me look crazy ? or should i just drop it all and move on although i want this girl so bad ? she haves everything i want in a woman !

 

[Groovy]

haha thats pretty hard when she is in my class and i see her like everyday

You still have time. When is school gonna be over? You need a change of attitude. It may take a while (a few months based on my experience). What you need to do is get your **** together. You should regain your health back. You are living in despair and misery at now. I don't mean your situation is horrible, not at all! As far as I know, you may have a great life, but you need to take care of this problem before it totally destroys you. I think you have some sort of physical problem. When you get your calm back, you aren't anxious anymore, you'll be stronger and happier, more energetic, positive and confident, girls are gonna be easier for you, you'll have more fun too.

So what do you plan to do to get your health back? Did you even do anything at all so far? This is serious, it's your health on the line! Anxiety can screw up your body (muscles, low testosterone, etc), it can cause bad sleep as well, anyway, a lot of problems. You got to do something like exercise, change diet, etc. PM me for more information. Hope i helped a little to put things in perspective for u. this is just my opinion, others may disagree, but thats what i would do.

 

[old fashioned]

wauw ! I don't think its that bad ! I go to the gym like three times a week and i eat healthy... I may have overdramatized this a bit but i am very confident about myself, and i don't have some physical problem, I'm just crushing hard on this girl. I feel like she is the one, and it is very hard to let go of a girl you feel so strongly about... schools over in like three months... and then i won't see her anymore because we are going different ways with our educations... man I'm not depressed and all that stuff I'm just madly in to this girl...

 

[old fashioned]

and i know its kinda crazy to say that a girl is the one when you are 15, but i have never met a girl i felt so strongly about...

 

[LearningSlowly]

and i know its kinda crazy to say that a girl is the one when you are 15, but i have never met a girl i felt so strongly about...

Let me tell you, because you're 15, and I've been there, you'll find another. And many more after that, if you keep looking for them. Look to the future, not the past.

(Oh man, if I knew what I know now when I was 15...)

 

[The Libertine]

Stop this bull**** right now or get the **** out of here! I'm pretty sure somewhere on the internet there is a forum dedicated to hopeless guys that are in love with girls that don't even notice them. Or you can listen to my next couple of sentences.

I was in love once. It was my ex (we were official for like only a week ). I thought of her as the most beautiful creature, in my eyes she was a perfect angel - she seemed so pure and seemed a great person. But then she dumped me for some other guy (which I don't blame her for now- he was rich,good-looking and although an year younger than me ,he was one of the most popular kids around) who played with her and she gave a couple of random bj's to a couple of lucky guys. That helped me realize I wasn't in love with the girl herself. I was in love with the idealized character of her that I had built in my head. And that's exactly what you're doing. You are 15 for ****'s sake. It's all in your head. What makes her so special? Try to give us a valid reason.
Oh,and there's something I saw in your first post-

Katie LJBF´ed me and said "i think you are very sweet but i don't look at you in that way" and all that crap... but i know thats a lie.

Why the **** do you think it's a lie? You opened up via text while failing to prove anything with your actions. Or in short- you acted like a *****. And now she only sees you as a friend because of that- you've become the gay best friend- she likes being around you and your character but she sees you in a completely non-sexual way.

 

[old fashioned]

Why the **** do you think it's a lie?

because i got told by her best friend that she was into me. And because she sent a lot of IOI´S but i didn´t see them because i was plain stupid.

I was in love with the idealized character of her that I had built in my head. And that's exactly what you're doing

you may be right... but i just feel like this girl is completely my type, she is shy, kinda nerdy but still hot !!... thats all i want in a girl but it is just ridicilous hard to find girls that are like that...

man when i read my posts again, i can see where you guys are coming from. i sound like a ****ing jerk... i got to change that. '

I will try to forget this girl. I will try to stop thinking about her all the time... its just hard... but i can do it.