Got LAID - conufsed as hell

[Reyaj]

So I met a girl through my friend Friday.... she wanted to bang that day but she had to drop her friend home.

I end up hanging out with her tonight and banged her in my car.

This was the easiest girl I had ever met... She was so up front about wanting to have sex with me.... I feel like this only happens in the movies.

But anyway, after the sex I felt so blah... This girl of course is really attached me or whatever but my point is that the sex wasn't as big a deal as I had expected. I broke up with my last girlfriend because the sex got boring....

I used to believe that you should find a girl that doesn't play games and is good to you.... but someone told me to find the best girl you possibly can get (looks wise) and marry her. He says if you settle you will never be satisfied.


I am so confused as to what I am looking for.......


Sugessions!

 

[JonJack]

So I met a girl through my friend Friday.... she wanted to bang that day but she had to drop her friend home.

I end up hanging out with her tonight and banged her in my car.

This was the easiest girl I had ever met... She was so up front about wanting to have sex with me.... I feel like this only happens in the movies.

But anyway, after the sex I felt so blah... This girl of course is really attached me or whatever but my point is that the sex wasn't as big a deal as I had expected. I broke up with my last girlfriend because the sex got boring....

I used to believe that you should find a girl that doesn't play games and is good to you.... but someone told me to find the best girl you possibly can get (looks wise) and marry her. He says if you settle you will never be satisfied.


I am so confused as to what I am looking for.......


Sugessions!

I don't think you should be asking others for suggestions as to what you should be looking for in relationships.

You should know what it is you want. If you don't know yet, then you should think about it. Don't rely on others to do it for you.

 

[thederekeffect1]

This was the easiest girl I had ever met... She was so up front about wanting to have sex with me.... I feel like this only happens in the movies.

Maybe porn movies.

Anyway, try being honest with yourself. Maybe in your younger days you felt that all you wanted was a girl to be straight up with you. But maybe now of days you're looking for a challenge. Hey, I was the same way. But now of days, I cannot stand when a girl is too easy. In my head I'm saying "can't this girl respect herself and her body enough to make herself a challenge?". I want a girl who has so much sexual chemistry with me that everyone around notices it, but we play hard to get with each other until we get to the point where the sexual tension gets so high that we just end up ripping each others clothes off and you know the rest. Pretty much, I look for the biggest challenge. Unlike other guys, I actually smile when a girl rejects me. And then I'll look at my friend with a big grin and be like "Ooh, I like". Usually my friends give me a weird look like "you just got rejected and you're smiling about it!?" heh. That's just how I am. I like a challenge.

There's nothing wrong with you. You just don't want what you used to want. Hey, things change.

 

[jigga23]

girls that are easy are freakin slvts with low self esteem. thats why when i fvck a girl so easily i will immediatley not respect them and will never talk to them again or atleast initiate anything cause its a big turn off to me. the girl i lost my v too was a girl i met in class one time then saw her at a bar. i boned her that night cause she draged me to her room. afterwards i did not say anything to her even in the elevator one time it was me and her and not one word was said. two weeks later she shows up at my room i was like wtf. being a challenge is always fun for me. its like a little game where you have to figure out your next moves and when your moves work you feel rewarded. right now im trying to get a girl and its a challenge somewhat so when and if i bone her it will be good. then maybe something else can happen. dont really care about her though too much.

 

[BuckwildNYC]

Wow thanks derek............ I like your philosophy. Next time I get rejected I'm gonna say "mmmmmmmmm I love a challenge" and see how she reacts. I'm sure she'll be intrigued cause most girls reject you the first time to test you. They usually aren't completely disinterested, they just need a little encouraging.

As much as we complain about women and them not giving it up at times, I think we all apreciate the challenge. When sex is just handed to you cheaply its just not as fulfilling. Most of the fun is the chase. I believe most men lose complete interest as soon as we bust our load. At that point we are more concerned about what kind of sandwich we are gonna make ourselves.

Personally I don't believe in marriage. I just don't think I could ever be happy with just one woman year after year after year. Only reason to get married is if you want kids. Me? I'd rather get me a Porsche and mack till I'm 60.

 

[coolguy676767]

Wow I can't believe that society has made so many people believe that a girl is a slut if she gives it up easy. Why shouldn't she.

I mean seriously lets put it this way, for a second completely start with a fresh sheet of paper. If a girl liked to play raquetball alot, and you like to play raquetball alot, and you both like to play raquetball together, then why not play raquetball all the time freely. I mean sure you are going to say well sex is different becuase their are STD's, ok well raquetball ball you can get severe tennis elbow, pinched nerves in your shoulder, bruises, sprained ankles and other injuries.

So hopefully I can enlighten one person here to my way of thinking. Society has trained you that girls who give it up easy are sluts. Just like society trains many people that diamonds are better than cubic zirconia. Sure a diamond is better but is it good enough to spend 10 times the price for one. I mean I could get cubic zirconia and lie and tell people its real and 99% people would never know. So that just goes to show you that society can train us to think certain ways. What makes people intelligent and independent is when they can decipher things on their own and interprete their own beliefs.

So to go back to the original subject, what makes a girl who puts out easily a slut. I mean you as guys, I bet the majority is not all of the posters and readers would like to have sex with a girl and or different girls every weekend and given the oppurtunity they would if the girls just approached them. So if their is a girl with the same outlook as that but with a vagina and like guys then why shouldn't she do the same thing. See the ball is in her court, its up to girls to decide when sex is appropriate. So if she wants to have sex what is wrong with just her giving up that power and 2 consenting adults have responsible safe and protected sex that does not hurt anybody. I mean in what ways is it disrepecting her body. It would only be disrespecting herself if she used it for other things, like having sex so you buy her jewelry, or a car, or improve her social status. I mean that would be disrespecting her body, but their are plenty of women who are just ****ing horny and their is nothing wrong with that.

 

[Brian20o2]

Wow I can't believe that society has made so many people believe that a girl is a slut if she gives it up easy. Why shouldn't she.

I mean seriously lets put it this way, for a second completely start with a fresh sheet of paper. If a girl liked to play raquetball alot, and you like to play raquetball alot, and you both like to play raquetball together, then why not play raquetball all the time freely. I mean sure you are going to say well sex is different becuase their are STD's, ok well raquetball ball you can get severe tennis elbow, pinched nerves in your shoulder, bruises, sprained ankles and other injuries.

So hopefully I can enlighten one person here to my way of thinking. Society has trained you that girls who give it up easy are sluts. Just like society trains many people that diamonds are better than cubic zirconia. Sure a diamond is better but is it good enough to spend 10 times the price for one. I mean I could get cubic zirconia and lie and tell people its real and 99% people would never know. So that just goes to show you that society can train us to think certain ways. What makes people intelligent and independent is when they can decipher things on their own and interprete their own beliefs.

So to go back to the original subject, what makes a girl who puts out easily a slut. I mean you as guys, I bet the majority is not all of the posters and readers would like to have sex with a girl and or different girls every weekend and given the oppurtunity they would if the girls just approached them. So if their is a girl with the same outlook as that but with a vagina and like guys then why shouldn't she do the same thing. See the ball is in her court, its up to girls to decide when sex is appropriate. So if she wants to have sex what is wrong with just her giving up that power and 2 consenting adults have responsible safe and protected sex that does not hurt anybody. I mean in what ways is it disrepecting her body. It would only be disrespecting herself if she used it for other things, like having sex so you buy her jewelry, or a car, or improve her social status. I mean that would be disrespecting her body, but their are plenty of women who are just ****ing horny and their is nothing wrong with that.

So true. You cut through the ****. But what I think the big problem is girls that feel they have to give it up to be accepted or liked by others.

 

[thederekeffect1]

Wow I can't believe that society has made so many people believe that a girl is a slut if she gives it up easy. Why shouldn't she.

I mean seriously lets put it this way, for a second completely start with a fresh sheet of paper. If a girl liked to play raquetball alot, and you like to play raquetball alot, and you both like to play raquetball together, then why not play raquetball all the time freely. I mean sure you are going to say well sex is different becuase their are STD's, ok well raquetball ball you can get severe tennis elbow, pinched nerves in your shoulder, bruises, sprained ankles and other injuries.

So hopefully I can enlighten one person here to my way of thinking. Society has trained you that girls who give it up easy are sluts. Just like society trains many people that diamonds are better than cubic zirconia. Sure a diamond is better but is it good enough to spend 10 times the price for one. I mean I could get cubic zirconia and lie and tell people its real and 99% people would never know. So that just goes to show you that society can train us to think certain ways. What makes people intelligent and independent is when they can decipher things on their own and interprete their own beliefs.

So to go back to the original subject, what makes a girl who puts out easily a slut. I mean you as guys, I bet the majority is not all of the posters and readers would like to have sex with a girl and or different girls every weekend and given the oppurtunity they would if the girls just approached them. So if their is a girl with the same outlook as that but with a vagina and like guys then why shouldn't she do the same thing. See the ball is in her court, its up to girls to decide when sex is appropriate. So if she wants to have sex what is wrong with just her giving up that power and 2 consenting adults have responsible safe and protected sex that does not hurt anybody. I mean in what ways is it disrepecting her body. It would only be disrespecting herself if she used it for other things, like having sex so you buy her jewelry, or a car, or improve her social status. I mean that would be disrespecting her body, but their are plenty of women who are just ****ing horny and their is nothing wrong with that.

Cause you know protected sex is 100% effective, right?

 

[Brian20o2]

Cause you know protected sex is 100% effective, right?

Its not???? j/k I know that. I forgot what the condom statistic is... somthing like 86% effective (The other 14% are why I support abortion up till the 22nd day (First heartbeat))

 

[coolguy676767]

Cause you know protected sex is 100% effective, right?

It is if the participants are responsible enough. If both parties always participate in protected sex then it would be highly unlikely that the condom is going to break and the disease will be contracted and then passed onto another person through another condom breaking. All the while that this STD is serious enough to warrant a high level of concern. For pregancy not only can condoms be used for men, the females can take birth control even if they have multiple partners to be used in conjunction with the condoms. Plus if your feel it necessary morning after pills can be taken on top of this.

Even so how about this question

Cause Airbags and seat belts are always 100% effective right?

Let me guess now your gonna say that you have to drive but you dont have to have sex. Well you could ride a bike, or you could walk but those entail dangers as well. Or you could ride a bus but maybe the bus could get hit by a train. The point is that nothing is truly 100% effective all the time, however its obvious that on serious matters you want to cut that chance or risk as small as possible. So I am willing to take a 1 in a 200 chance of contracting an STD if it means I can have sex as much as I want. Besides most people hear STD and they think HIV or something when most of the time its much less potent or dangerous STD's.

 

[thederekeffect1]

Let me guess now your gonna say that you have to drive but you dont have to have sex.

Man, you and cleo should get together. Imagine the posibilities!

All I'm saying is that I respect a woman who takes care of herself and presents a challenge more then an unpaid hooker.

 

[syncmaster]

She wasn't a challenge. It puts things into perspective now how important it is for you to be a challenge to a woman. She feels this every time she knows she can have you. She no longer wants you.
- Mav

 

[ShizamDaMan]

It's amazing how much less you appreciate things you don't have to work for, no?

It's the principal of scarcity: if something is easily attainable, it's cheap. Undesireable.

The easiest way to lose my attention in a girl is when she gives me all of hers.

 

[Ice Cold]

Maybe you're gay? no? :rock:

You just need challenge, lies and the fantasy to keep yourself intrested. :kick:

May I suggest a noble quest to prove your worthiness to this girl? Some time and distance from her... this will make you appreciate her... if that's what you want.

 

[Friendly Otter]

So hopefully I can enlighten one person here to my way of thinking. Society has trained you that girls who give it up easy are sluts.

No. Let me educate you on this one, it has to do with evolutionary psychology. Schools don't teach evolutionary psychology even though they should, because schools these days are lousy. You have to learn from other sources.

Let's start with the obvious: men have a higher sex drive than women because those men with a drive to spread their seed have had more offspring, through generation after generation down the ages, and passed on their genes. A man can have several children at the same time. (This is also why men are more easily aroused by the visual: men need to be able to get aroused quickly, as, again, those who have been, have spread their genes more than the others.)

A woman, however, can only be pregnant with one child at a time. She can't have as many children as a man can have. She will therefore try to get the best possible man for her few children, and she will need to make him stay around, protect and provide for her and her offspring. The women who have done this instinctively, have spread their genes more than those who did not.

A woman will therefore withhold sex, because first, she doesn't want to get pregnant with just anybody, and second, it is a card in the "negotiations." If she gives it away to a man without having married first, then he doesn't have to stick around, his thirst is quenched. One card among several, of course, but a very important one.

Imagine, now, if a woman gives away the goodies freely. Here are the other women, trying to catch a man through sex, and one of their competitors is making sure the men can slake their thirst easily. The rest have much less to bargain with then. That's why they are pissed off, and despise this woman who gives so easily what should be part of a courting (=bargaining) process.

Seriously, why would "society" "make" you believe women who have lots of sex are sluts, but men who have lots of sex are not? What would "society" have to gain? That's just the bitter feminist-provided explanation you fall for when you are clueless because you have never learned of evolutionary psychology. This, by the way, is not a guessing game, it's serious research, unlike the talk about "society" molding us like clay just out of sheer evil spite.

 

[Reyaj]

Looks like we started a debate here lol

I'll be honest... I was brought up thinking sex was sacred and should only be done with the person you are married too.

Once I lost my virginity, I realized there really isn't a miraculous feeling to it... I mean it is what it is, and you get the same orgasm jerking off.

So while I am not saying you should be careless about it, I do feel it is natural and its not as bad as I once have thought.

It is amazing how external factors can warp someone's thinking.

Anyway great respones, would love to hear more.

thederekeffect: I have a question for you

When you get rejected, do you try even harder to get that girl, or do you just move on? This board seems to preach that a girl who rejects you is a dime a dozen and you should just try to get someone else, so thats what I usually have been doing.

If you do keep trying, how much longer do u try for? I mean there has to be situations where you will be rejected clear cut no matter what and have to move on right?

How can you tell?

Thanks Derek!

 

[Reyaj]

bump

 

[penkitten]

i think she gave it up too soon and the challenge for you is gone.
sometimes girls dont realise that once you give it up, the game of giving it up is over.

just because she gave it up so fast doesnt mean she is a slut. it means that she either really really needed to get some , or she really likes you a whole lot, or she just has low self esteem and is trying to get you to like her.

if you break it off now, she is likely to say you used her for sex, when it was really her idea. this is kinda blackmail but its done alot.

 

[benchod]

Foolsmate

Dude your foolsmate as mystery says.. you jumped right into seduction.

You will only get to **** her once or so...But not countless time..


Foolsmate..

Dont jump to seduction straight

 

[spider_007]

I am so confused as to what I am looking for.......

it's part of growing up.

you'll find what your looking for (only through experience)