Got girl's number in an untraditional way.

[PimpOfTheSouth]

There was a girl that worked at a certain place I used to go and have drinks at. I had a girlfriend at the time and never really bothered to make an attempt to game her. Well she know longer works there and i have no idea where she went. However recently i found her through a mutual on Instagram. She gave her # on one of the pics to her friend, so i seen it and saved the number. What to do without looking like a creep?

 

[Masculinity]

What would I do? Start fresh with a woman you've never met and avoid the rejection you'll get from leaching off an instagram post to get a number. It sounds harsh, but that's at LEAST what she would think if you contact her.

 

[Suspens]

You are a fvcking creep and contacting her would scare the **** out of her.

Don't get offended by blunt comments here, It's a friendly bro place that you can rely upon.

But I just found out the more upfront and blunt you are with yourself , the better the results. Sometimes reality is a hard-hitting factor.

 

[PimpOfTheSouth]

Whoa chill i appreciate criticism i aint no creep. I came on here asking for advice. I haven't even text the girl.

 

[Suspens]

Well has she ever seen you in the workplace? Imagine successfully contacting her and arranging a date with her.

What would be her reaction when seeing you? "WOW, you are that guy who used to come to our bar? How did you find my number"

It's just weird.

 

[PimpOfTheSouth]

She has seen me in person and has flirted before. We aren't going to run into each other again . I live in a very big city. She no longer works there.

 

[Fugitive]

If you message her she'll get defensive and it will be all about how you got her number and why.

You're better off just adding her on instagram and trying to strike something up. Ask for her number seeing as she seems okay giving it out on insta.

 

[Meisterman]

I guess you can text her if you put your dignity on hold and don't mind risk looking like a huge creep (which is 90% chance). But if you're never gonna see her again in person I guess a 10% chance is better than 0??? But I wouldn't do it personally.

 

[PimpOfTheSouth]

Thats what i was thinking. I don't have anything to lose.

 

[Rival]

I got a number from a girl's friend one time ( didnt have contact with her so my options of getting her numbered were limited) I texted some bs like

Me:So like I stole your number from one of your friends
Her: Omg lol! who is this?

 

[PimpOfTheSouth]

Any success?

 

[marmel75]

Tell her you got it off the bathroom stall in whatever bar is in the area, lol

 

[sylvester the cat]

Text her how she oughtn't give out her number in public as any old creep could contact her.

Years ago a girl from my bank called me one day out of the blue. I'd never given her my number and when I asked how she got it she told she looked it up from my details. I did think it was odd but she was hot So I got over it.

 

[Rival]

Any success?

Yeah it was later at night when that happened

I just called her and curious she picked up lol

Asked her out, told her who I was (she kinda knew me, followed me on twitter) and we went out:yes:

 

[Skyline]

It's only creepy if she doesn't find you attractive, remember that guys.

All romance movies and t.v shows start off with the guy doing something stalkish, why does she dig it? Because he's the type of guy she likes. If you're her type, or one of them at least, then you're fine. The only backdrop to this is if she is seeing someone (s) or have a lot of options. But that's where game and inner confidence comes in!

 

[PimpOfTheSouth]

Ok so I was able to pull this off without looking hardcore creepy even though at 1st I think she was a bit weirded out.

She seen my instagram and remembered me slightly hell maybe she didn't but she said she did. I believe she is attracted to me though. Either way we texted back and forth a bit. I've kept a decent conversation going, she takes a while to respond which is expected.

So the question I pose now is knowing that I have a small margin for error since I am not in this girl's social circle or see her often. How can I swing this into a meet up or lunch date? I'm capable of doing this on the regular when it's a girl in my social circle but I've never been the most effective when it's a random girl. She's very good looking and im sure has lot's of options. So any good strategies to proceed?

 

[PimpOfTheSouth]

Bump.

 

[hudpes]

Pimp, so basically, she's just a girl to whom you were just a patron and her job was to make you feel nice and comfy, smiles and a bit of a charm and all that. She probably barely remembers you, and it would be seriously weird if you just contacted her like that. Forget her.

It's only creepy if she doesn't find you attractive, remember that guys.

She would have to be smitten with him to ignore the way he got her contact.