Spoken like a true AFC.TempestNight said:Man, some of you are really overreacting, or you are just c0ck block yourself without even knowing the real reason. Learn to do a balanced approach.
Don't overreact. You definitely did with your "I'm mad but I'm pretending not to be while being a gentleman" approach. You don't know why she flaked, maybe her dog got run over by a car, maybe her bff got gangbanged in a dark alley and she has to go to her. Is this likely? No, but **** happens and you can never know.
Do not not react either. Not reacting is the same as overreacting, you are showing how serious you treated the date and how pissed you are because of her. If she did have a good reason to flake, you give off the impression as being self-centered and inconsiderate.
What I would have done was wait until about thirty minutes after her text, then text her back:
"Sorry I reply so lateI met someone from work/uni and was chatting with her while waiting for you, didn't even know you texted me until now. I will contact you for another date"
The first part of the response tells her that you were waiting for her, but she wasn't your priority, she wasn't someone you consider important, because you were talking to a "her" from work/college while waiting for her, and you definitely had fun chatting with her because you didn't even know she texted you until 30 minutes after.
If she's interested at you, her jealousy will play to your advantage. If she isn't, you won't come off as desperate and being all sad over her either.
The sad smiley face gives off a casual approach. Make it light.
The final part of "I will contact for you another date" lets you regain control of the dynamics. This is the part where you decide whether you still want another date with her.
If you still want to see her, wait until about 2 days before contacting her to set up another date. If she's interested in you she will be uneasy waiting for your reply, probably slightly guilty that she flaked on you and wondering whether you will still see her. If she isn't interested in you, again, you won't come off as being desperate for her.
Always make balanced responses where you can give yourself multiple options, don't back yourself into a corner with an extreme response.
OP: You ice this girl and move on. If she wants you bad enough she will make contact wondering why you aren't talking to her. Have you looked at the Bible?
