Got drunk and let my ego get in the way

[Solomon]

So long story short, I went on a date with a chick who I didn't even want to go on a date with, this would be our first date and she had flaked before. However I had 2 chicks flake and I was bored (and a bit horny) I got a bit drunk last night. My tolerance has gone down a lot since I've started my cardio training. The date was going quite well, early on very flirtatious, kino you know the whole bit.

She threw one simple shyt test and I just lost my frame and the date just went kaput

"I hope you know I'm not sleeping with you tonight"​

I usually woulda brushed it off and played it cool, but for some reason I got annoyed cause I arrogantly thought I had this in the bag. I mean this chick had sloot written all over her. The vibe changed and she's like "Im looking for something seirous blah blah blah" feeling like I had nothing to lose I told her I wasn't. Needless to say I was p*ssed and let my ego get butthurt and it became awkward really fast.

I went to the bathroom and when I came back she was gone

So yeah I went on a date spend $30 and called up a last resort.

I honestly am at the point where I don't see the point of going on dates unless I truly know I'm gonna bang the chick, if not it's a waste of my time even if the chick is super hot. Maybe I'm lazy but I realized that dates are buffers. I banged a 21 year old a month ago and we didn't go on a date it was straight to her house. But a chick ten years older I gotta jump thru hoops for?

p.s. I had 4 drinks it was 2-4-1's

 

[Betterz]

getting a 21 year old easily will do that to you - it makes you feel that's the way 'things should be' - I had a similar situation last week. But I was the one who left the bar.. cause of my bad ego mood.

Sometimes we all need to be brought down to earth again. Women are people too, not just *** holes.

 

[Jitterbug]

That line from her means you will definitely get the bang. All you had to say was something very simple to acknowledge it for the record, so she can convince herself that she's not a slvt. If she's touchy feely flirty and says The Line, she is thinking about sex with you. You can simply response with a nod, or say one word "noted" and change topic.

I've never heard a girl say the opposite: "I hope you know I'm definitely sleeping with you tonight" lol

 

[Bokanovsky]

Tough luck man.

Maybe next time when they toss that out say "Whoa, who said anything about sleeping together! Do you always move this fast?"


or

"are you kidding? I had no intention of it!"

She assumes (correctly) that you will want to. By using the above, you make her doubt her self, her attractiveness and her desirability

The right way to respond is to smile and say nothing (and continue escalating). When a woman says that she will not be sleeping with you that night, you are almost certainly guaranteed to get laid...unless you screw up, like Solomon did. Assuming she actually meant was she said was a pretty rookie mistake and I'm surprised that a guy who has been on this board since 2008 got phased so easily by such a classic sh*t test.

 

[The Duke]

Salesmanship buddy.........salesmanship! Its all a dance.

An old man once said " Son, do you know the difference between rape and making love?" I said, "nope". He then said "Salesmanship" He was exactly right.

Work on having more options so stuff like this won't bug you so bad.

 

[PlayHer Man]

Just because a woman says "I'm not sleeping with you tonight" that doesn't make it so.

I usually respond with: "But its clearly on your mind". If I respond at all.

What comes out of a woman's month is meaningless 90% of the time. I rarely pay attention to anything they say unless its in question form.

 

[Solomon]

The right way to respond is to smile and say nothing (and continue escalating). When a woman says that she will not be sleeping with you that night, you are almost certainly guaranteed to get laid...unless you screw up, like Solomon did. Assuming she actually meant was she said was a pretty rookie mistake and I'm surprised that a guy who has been on this board since 2008 got phased so easily by such a classic sh*t test.

Like I said I was drunk, to a point where I couldn't even stand straight after 4 drinks (I shyt you not)

Not making excuses but it's the truth

I truly belive that drinking slows down your reaction speed to being witty and what not, had I been sober this thread will be different a tune

But alas we all make mistakes never said I was Backbreaker or Pook :woo:

Edit Samspade over my 10 post limit but yes my mood has been shytty lately, broke up with my main plate on top of that work has been stressfull and add the fact that I literally had 3 other chicks flake on that before this one (like I said she wasn't even on my radar) and this all added up

 

[Colossus]

Ever notice that only slvts (or reformed slvts) feel the need to say "I'm not going to be sleeping with you tonight?"

I've never had an ostensible "good girl" (non-party girls in my book) tell me that.

I've pulled this response before:

"What makes you think I wanna sleep with you tonight?? We're just having a drink. That's kind of presumptuous."

Make them feel ashamed for even saying that.

Other, more prickly variations:

"So you assume just because I am a male taking you out for a drink that I want to sleep with you right away? That's pretty insulting."

"What makes you think I want to sleep with you tonight? I barely know you!! Does this happen to you a lot?"

 

[DJ SO STEVE]

If a girl is too easy I'd be careful, who knows what kind of disease she's carrying. I'm pretty sure you like the sense of adventure as everyone else does, however that night you were probably not in the right mood for company.

 

[PrettyBoyAJ]

That's like someone coming to a dealership and saying there not buying a car today.


But anyway don't go out on dates and spend money on chicks your not that interested in. I only go out on dates with chicks 8+. If there extra average 6-7 then we can get a redbox, ya know.

 

[Peaks&Valleys]

Back in the day i was browsing POF and I saw this chick my buddy had previously set up a double date with, she had brought one of her friends and we had met up with them. We had met them early in the night, just getting a drink, it went pretty well, but nothing happened, we ended up leaving to go somewhere else and never met back up with them for whatever reason.

Anyway, so I saw her and sent her a message, it was simple. somewhere along the lines of: "I remember you, how you doing?"

Her Response: "you guys thought you were going to get laid that night."

Then she deleted her account before I could respond.

Turns out she's one of the biggest slvts around. Afterwards, I'd see her out in town all the time. One time she was sloppy hammered and was all over me, until her sober friend came over and pulled her away, the whole time her friend was apologizing saying that was her job that night, to make sure her friend doesn't go home with any random dudes.

 

[DJ SO STEVE]

Women catagorize men so easily, I'm really not surprised by this. I'm sure most guys heard this one before lol.

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

That line from her means you will definitely get the bang. All you had to say was something very simple to acknowledge it for the record, so she can convince herself that she's not a slvt. If she's touchy feely flirty and says The Line, she is thinking about sex with you. You can simply response with a nod, or say one word "noted" and change topic.

I've never heard a girl say the opposite: "I hope you know I'm definitely sleeping with you tonight" lol

^^^

Yep. She was giving you about a green light as you're EVER going to get.

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

"I hope you know I'm not sleeping with you tonight"

English Translation:

"I hope you know I'm not sleeping with you,........tonight"

 

[Zunder]

Why even bother with a chick that says this immature crap?

"I'm not sleeping with you tonight...na naa na naaa na".

I mean, what a ****ing stupid dumb thing for a woman to say, even if it is just a silly slut defense at work.

If a woman feels the need to say this shyt on a date then it is a giant red-flag.

 

[Jitterbug]

Zunder, it's because the vast majority of young and attractive girls all say that line. Small cost of doing business. I find it cute /shrugs

 

[BeDJ]

Why even bother with a chick that says this immature crap?

"I'm not sleeping with you tonight...na naa na naaa na".

I mean, what a ****ing stupid dumb thing for a woman to say, even if it is just a silly slut defense at work.

If a woman feels the need to say this shyt on a date then it is a giant red-flag.

Zunder,

It's not a red flag, it's a green flag. Better yet, it's a checkered flag - as long as you don't pull anything retarded, you will cross the finish line.

When a woman tells you this, she has already presented her inner s|ut. "One thing led to another," "Things just happened," "We weren't planning to but there was just intense chemistry"

A woman will decide to pursue intimacy and fvck you within the first 5 minutes. However, she needs to get what she wants, but not appear too eager (see: s|utty) at the same time. Simple solution?

Oh I had a few drinks and the mood felt right! One thing led to another and we ended up fvcking!

We're not having sex tonight = We're having sex tonight

 

[Zunder]

Zunder,

It's not a red flag, it's a green flag. Better yet, it's a checkered flag - as long as you don't pull anything retarded, you will cross the finish line.

When a woman tells you this, she has already presented her inner s|ut. "One thing led to another," "Things just happened," "We weren't planning to but there was just intense chemistry"

A woman will decide to pursue intimacy and fvck you within the first 5 minutes. However, she needs to get what she wants, but not appear too eager (see: s|utty) at the same time. Simple solution?

Oh I had a few drinks and the mood felt right! One thing led to another and we ended up fvcking!

We're not having sex tonight = We're having sex tonight

No. What it is is childish on behalf of the female.

But if you get the bang using your methods when she proffers up this 'chequered flag' then good for you.

 

[Peaks&Valleys]

No. What it is is childish on behalf of the female.

No $hit. What rock you been living underneath?

Do you actually date women?

 

[backbreaker]

My go too line used to be "what makes you think I WANT to sleep with you? YOu haven't shown me anything that makes me want to yet" or something along those lines but if i were single today and a chick pulled that line with me i'd look her dead in the eye and say "don't' take this the wrong way, you seem cool and all but I mean, i'm having fun, but I don't think you are sexy enough for me to warrant sleeping with you, so we are kinda in the same line of thinking" , go stragiht for the freaking juggler at that point lol. She's either going to slap you and walk away or is going to give you great marathon sex all night long at that point to prove a opint. but even if she slaps you it won't be the last of her she has a point to proove now. either way you got under her skin.


at that point there is no way that you wn't plow the broad like a corn field in Nebraska