Got Drugged, Quarreled, Now Feel Awkward Towards GF

[stuartSan]

Okay so my friends and I were drinking over at a guys place, celebrating Chinese New Years, and for some reason they decided to play a practical joke on me. They were all high and I didn't feel like it so they slipped a few "5's" (those prescription pills for mental cases, don't know what you call them there) in my can of beer without me knowing. It enhances your mood, when you're angry you get REAL angry, when you're sad you feel REALLY sad.. etc etc. I should've known better when I felt little 'lumps' in my drink.

Anyway.. they didn't tell me until today and of course I was kinda pissed, but thats not the topic we're going into right now. My GF and I quarreled last night about her going out with her ex even though he still sends AFC sms's to her. Usually I wouldn't bring this up since I'm not afraid of the AFC but due to the drugs I was filled with jealousy, rage, and chumpness.

The things that we said were really hurting ones, and both of us didn't like it. We ended up mutually apologizing (and me crying, -sh*t-, due to the drugs) and then we both went home.

Come today, she was out with her ex, and I could see that she kinda showed alot of care for him, even though it didn't seem affectionate, but more of a move to keep him around. Probably a move to make me jealous? I don't know. We met up at my friends house because she was having an open house. I had a real bad gut feeling so I didn't act my normal happy self or talk much. Whenever I talked to her, she just answered short questions with a straight face, and when I asked her something else she just said she didn't want to talk about it, but she still acts as a GF (like kissing). Its obvious now we feel awkward towards each other, and I never had that in the previous LTR's I've been in before.

So for those who've been seeing women exclusively and quarrelled with them, I just want to know if this is a normal thing that lasts for a day or two, or if I should just end this and move on? I don't feel like being in a relationship thats emotionally taxing.

 

[DankNuggs]

tell her your friends drugged you and what you were saying wasn't true and your sorry about it. Sounds like whatever you said was filled with insecurity. You furthered this by your actions toward her. You need to show her that you aren't insecure. And if that means giving her a little space, then so be it.

You need to sit down and sort it out though. She probably sees you as a giant pu$$y right now (i.e. whining, crying...). Need to nip it in the bud...

 

[drixsa]

Stew-

if this is the ex-BF that slapped her across the face and threated to kill you this girl should be GONE.

assuming that it is not you really need to set a time to talk these things out. If you let this stupid stuff linger on for too long it makes things get crazy.

Personally i'd think that you should be worrying more about your friends and their lack of loyalty towards you. Putting anything you do not know about into your drink is completely unexceptable from an enemy let alone someone that calls themselves your friend.

If anyone did that to me they would find themselves in the hospital. I do not care if they were high or whatever there is no good reason for pulling sh*t like that.

it is interesting to see that with your G-F you may have let your true emotions out. This site teaches us to bottle our feelings and make us think differently but at the core most still are jealous, lonely, etc.

It's not fair for you to 'move on' or 'next' until you have had a chance to talk things out and figure out the root of what went wrong.

It's stands out a little that your G-F said some really hurtful things.

espically since she was not high it probably shows that she has quite a bit of insecurity if she has to bounce back insults with you instead of taking a higher road.

let me know what happens-

 

[jbbrain]

StScN-

I agree with drix-It appears your true emotions towards your girl (and maybe even towards youself) came out during your flight through intoxication.

I'm curious about this-Do you really feel jealous and possessive about towards your girlfriend, only to supress these feelings because you know they will eventually unmask who you really are and potentially destroy your relationship?

MOTU and Tesuque have advised before that one should make as many mistakes as one can in a relationship in order to come out of it with a certain sense of self growth. To be honest, I feel a little in the dark about all of this-Why jeapordize what you have with a girl just to prove to yourself (and the girl) that perhaps you're still a chump deep down?

Although I do believe it to be true that in order to live, one must take risks, but why risk an outcome you are already smart (because of this site and other mens experiences etc) enough to know to avoid?

Anybody?

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

You were quarreling with her about her ex and then the next day she is with her ex??? Are you serious??? And you are still with this ho???

She knows it pains you dearly to be with her ex-pimp, and so the next day she is with him!!! I got a surprise for you buddy - THEIR FVCKING!!!!

Your emotions got the best of you and you have lost your mind!!

She blatantly disrespected you and you are blaming yourself???

Don't be a chump and kick the ho to the curb with steel toe boots on!!

Observe a woman, and keep your feelings to yourself, until you know exactly who you are dealing with!!

 

[ultrashogun]

Well what happend to you was mainly bad, but maybe you can better see what emotions are inside of you after the drug enhanced them. See the positiv aspects.

Anyway, your GF acted like an ******* for meeting up with her ex after you got so emotional about it and even started crying, talk about being careless. She didnt give a **** about you.

And you should beat the **** out of your "friends" for drugging you.