Got denied by friend of this girl I just met, what should I do now?

DJMaC23

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I haven't been on this board for a long time, but now I am back and in need of help. Recently this cute girl joined the roster of my Spanish II class...well we went to the mall Wednesday after class. Anyways, this girl has a boyfriend, so I was just hangin out with her and not really tryin to put the moves on her, I just wanted to see if she has any good friends or whatever haha...soooo then by chance shes like lets go into Forever 21 (a girl store) i wanna say hi to my friend. The friend turns out to be a lil cutie too, and I thought the friend had said ohhh hes cute real quick to the girl I was hangin with. Anyways, today I go back to the mall with a friend and we enter Forever 21 and the girl and another worker are behind the counter with their backs turned. I say, "excuse me," and the other worker turns around.

At this time I point to the girl I was interested in and she turns around. I say wassup and then shes like hi and I make mistake number 1: I say remember me? At this time, shes like..yeaa...I should've walked out right then. Anyways, I go on and I'm like "I'm just gonna say this upfront: you caught my attention the other day and i'd like to get to know you" She starts kind of smiling a lil bit and then she says "Well I have a boyfriend." At that point I'm caught off guard and I'm like ok. I should have just retreated right then and there after sounding so dumb. Anyways, I dunno I guess it must have been the look on my face or somethin cuz she then says "I have a steady boyfriend."

At this point I make mistake number 3: I say, "Ok, do you have any friends?" ahhahahaha..she of course replies "No." Then I question her about her contact lenses and whether or not those are her real eyes (she was wearing blue contacts). She replies with no, and then I say "thought so. See ya around, bye." hhahaha...

Now I have to see the girl from my spanish class on Monday. What do I say to redeem myself somewhat/save face for my stupidness? I know how girls are, and the girl in my class probably already knows about me gettin at her friend. I don't want to get with either now because I realized the girl that I hollared at has no booty, and that is essential to me, and of course they both have bfs. Anyways, what do I do/say? Any advice is appreciated, thanks!

I was thinking about not saying a damn thing on Monday til the girl talks to me, and if she brings it up then I'll be like ohh, can you tell your friend that I'm sorry for that? I was drunk and I got dared to holla at a random girl in the mall, and that we had jus so happened to be passing by Forever 21 and that I thought her friend was pretty. That if I was to holla at her I wouldn't have done so in that manner...

Like I said, any advice...LOL
 

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you should have read up on how to rpely to the "i have a bf line"

her: i have a steady boyfriend

me: i noticed the handicap.


her: i have a steady boyfriend

me: well too bad for you sweetie, maybe some other time

(walks off)



i dont know, reckon you should have done that, you have just set yourself up for ultimate destruction by not coming to the forum in such a long while, and not reading all the helpful posts.


here's what you can say to her now... talk to your friend as per normal... go back to the store, say this, and get the hell outta there!!!

me: hey

her: hi

me: remember the other day when you told me you had a boyfriend?

her: yes.

me: well does he know you have extremely bad taste???

her: -gapes-

(walks away)


TRY IT OUT. READ IT OFF SOME POST... CREDIT GOES TO WHOEVER POSTED THAT IDEA. IT WORKS TRUST ME. YOU TURN THE TABLES ON HER, LETTING HER KNOW YOU CAN AND WILL MAKE A COMEBACK. :)
 

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I say, fuq both of them! I wouldn't give a sh!t about either of them if I were you. If they already have boyfriends, why waste time with them in the first place?? You won't meet any new girls; besides if you hang out with her so much, the interested girls will think that you're taken ;)
 

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Act normal. You don't need to bring it up to your classmate.

If she mentions it don't make excuses for what you did. You saw a cute girl and made a move. There is nothing wrong with that. Ok your approach could have been better, but that's irrelevant.

Don't make apologies for your desires as a man. You will only come off looking worse! Right now you're at least the guy who had the nuts to make a move, not some AFC gazing from afar.

Dont think like an AFC/nice guy - e.g. "oh my god, I thought a girl was attractive and wanted to go out with her, how embarassing, she must have felt so uncomfortable, how bad of me, and now her friend will think I'm a monster, and I look stupid" etc. PUKE!

Chicks LOVE it when guys want them. Sink that into your head. She will have liked it.

Keep working on your game. You verbalised your intent, instead show it through Actions not Words. I.e. "you want to get to know her" isn't EXPLICTLY said but it is IMPLIED by asking for her number/a date. She will know why you are asking. It takes some pressure off the situation for her, as you need to convey you will have a fun time rather than some kind of interview.

You can increase your chances of success by building some rapport before you go for the kill. E.g. some fluff talk.
 

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Guess what

REMEMBER THIS

If a girl honestly has a boyfriend, then it's not a REJECTION.

It was just bad timing.

I spent the first 15 years of my dating life feeling bad for being turned down or hearing a girl has a boyfriend.

Guess what I sure as hell shouldn't have ever felt that way. It is our duty to approach women. Sure we might not get them all but keep doing it.

Don't even bring it up with that ho from class. Keep working on the next one.
 

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Thanks guys, y'all are right...i mean I had heard from a friend of mine previously who ended up knowing the girl I went to talk to..he had said that shes the LTR type...lol ah well, I'm just glad I went and tried. Just gotta work on my approach some more
 

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Exactly, pat yourself on the back for talking to her and making the attempt.

The more attempts you make the better you get at this ****.

One of my friend tells a story about a guy he knows that asked several girls out and got up to a total of something like 60 rejections in a row. He was keeping count obviously.

The guy finally met a hot girl and is happily married now.
 

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Her: I have a steady boyfriend.

Me: It's about time you got an unsteady one;)
 

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I love it.

That's my favorite of bf comebacks I've heard jakeyboy, definetly adding it to the arsenel.... unsteady boyfriend one too... lol.
 
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