Got cheated on. Will walk away forever. Do I expose her or do it silently?

[stovepipe]

Yes she was lovebombing me, initiating texts, s3x, everything.

She is a messed up demon.

There is something hypnotizing about this woman. I sh1t you not, she has this sort of hypnotizing glance about her and is very pretty, like a young anne hatheaway or sandra bullock.

When she starts talking to someone in her charming little manner, it's like she could fukking sell ice to eskimos. Truly scary man.

Sounds like my ex BPD "Jezebel Spirit". Once you've experienced it you become "awake" and see the world in a new way. Did she have pretty eyes that always gave people that "death stare"? Might sound crazy to some but I felt hypnotized too. No matter how many times I tried to leave her, she had this way of hypnotizing me to always get sucked back in her toxic vortex. Always with the love bombing and some type of demonic n evil force you can feel in your gut. It feels like a spiritual war of good n evil at times.

With these types the "only way" is ghosting her forever. Delete everything about her, block her # n email, facebook, all of it! This is for you, not for her. Doing it this way will cause you the least amount of pain and her the most amount of pain, pain to her ego. Cause the biggest thing that's going to smack her across the face is knowing you were smarter/stronger than she was or thought you were. Cause this whole time shes been cheating she thinks she is slicker n smarter than you.

It will be hard to fight the temptations, but you must never ever say a word to her. If you do, you will be quickly reminded why. From someone whos been there, its going to hurt a lot, maybe some of the worst pain you ever felt. But with time, positive thinking you will come out of this stronger than before.

Let me add there is no way in hell you can keep her as a plate and stay sane. You're already in the pits of hell, if you keep her around you're playing with the Grimm Reaper and risking getting an STI like I did. Lastly, why tf would you even want to see her face again, let alone park your airplane in her ****pit thats had other planes flying in it? Is her good looks and blatant disrespect for you really worth your manhood and self respect?

 

[ubercat]

Because you've already broken NC with her obviously you can't trust yourself to keep it FB. This chick has the hooks in deep. So yeah ignore her.

If it was me I d bust a nut in her ass none too gently wipe it off get straight out of bed without a word and then drop the stuff on her porch. Just treat a haw like a haw. But then years of dealing with demonic chicks has made me a double hard bastard.

That ain't you so keep NC like your life depends on it.

 

[lizardking82]

This has happened to me just once (as far as I know), but it felt bad although I was quite young at just 18.

I will strongly agree with @Howiestern . Let her "thrive" on her bad decision that will come back later on to bite her in the a$$. You don't dwell on that. If you know you did her no wrong and treated her well and she still cheated on you, then move on, my friend. Now I thank my ex for leaving me. Not only was the last two years my greatest growing period in all aspects, but I can tell she has regretted her decision as she just keeps checking my Insta stories she doesn't look "alive" in any of her pics (at least the ones I saw about a couple of months ago).

Do right and don't concern yourself with what other people choose to do. Do you, let them do them. In the end, you sleep tight with your consience in place. They...I doubt it.

 

[resilient]

I can tell she has somehow regretted her decision as she just keeps checking my Insta stories she doesn't like "alive" in any of her pics.

Funny how they do that huh?

I got flaked on, radio silence, then ghosted at the beginning of the month. The ex plate kept creeping on my Instagram stories. She blocked me after seeing I was out on a date, then unblocked a few days later when I didn't react, text, or break NC then liked a picture minutes after posting. lmao.

Women make no sense.

Let their hamsters spin outta control.

 

[lizardking82]

Funny how they do that huh? I got flaked, radio silence, then ghosted at the beginning of the month. The ex plate kept checking my stories, blocked a few days later, then unblocked a few days later and liked a picture minutes after posting. lmao. Women make no sense.

Bro, I can tell you this: it's been now almost 2 years since she broke up with me and that was the reason why I stumbled upon this place (something I will forever be thankful for) and after almost two years, she checks my stories from time to time. Last time was about a week ago, but I almost never check the viewers of my stories so who knows how many other times she has checked that I have missed.

Guys here have to understand that it is not our duty to "make them better people". This is what I was after. I now feel sorry for her. I know my value as a man, my skills and my features. She is hardly going to find anything better anymore in her life. The man she has (or maybe not anymore, don't know) was someone with no job, no nothing (a friend of mine knew the guy and told me about him). She is 20, will be 21 soon. The blooming period and right now she and many other women don't sense it coming. I have met and still meet girls at 25/26 and they start to get desperate, my man. They don't wanna say explicitly, but I can see the fear and the anxiety in their eyes. These women waste all the good guys they get in their life during their pre-20s or early 20s and then get desperate as they hit mid-20s because they understand they are becoming less desirable by the day. Most of them never took the time to develop a character so they are just being looked at as pieces of meat to have sex with and while that might be OK in their mind at 20, at 25 something just doesn't feel right anymore and then a lot of them hurry up to find an average dude that they can control (very important feature this one) so they can show the world on Instagram and Facebook that "hey, I got some man by my side". It is all a big joke, I laugh every time I see them

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

Basically the title. On the one hand, if I go immediate no contact, her hamster may spin for a while wondering why I ghosted. She probably won't care considering I meant that little enough to cheat on me. This was a multi year relationship by the way.

On the other hand, I feel like, from a justice standpoint, I need to expose her to let her know how much of a piece of sh1t she is. Basically call her a wh0re and the whole nine yards.

Advice gentleman. I'm really seething right now. Moreso at myself that I even met this b1tch and even let her into my life.

Flyer nudes and out the **** on cyberspace. Just do do anonymously.

VPN ftw.

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

Bro, I can tell you this: it's been now almost 2 years since she broke up with me and that was the reason why I stumbled upon this place (something I will forever be thankful for) and after almost two years, she checks my stories from time to time. Last time was about a week ago, but I almost never check the viewers of my stories so who knows how many other times she has checked that I have missed.

Guys here have to understand that it is not our duty to "make them better people". This is what I was after. I now feel sorry for her. I know my value as a man, my skills and my features. She is hardly going to find anything better anymore in her life. The man she has (or maybe not anymore, don't know) was someone with no job, no nothing (a friend of mine knew the guy and told me about him). She is 20, will be 21 soon. The blooming period and right now she and many other women don't sense it coming. I have met and still meet girls at 25/26 and they start to get desperate, my man. They don't wanna say explicitly, but I can see the fear and the anxiety in their eyes. These women waste all the good guys they get in their life during their pre-20s or early 20s and then get desperate as they hit mid-20s because they understand they are becoming less desirable by the day. Most of them never took the time to develop a character so they are just being looked at as pieces of meat to have sex with and while that might be OK in their mind at 20, at 25 something just doesn't feel right anymore and then a lot of them hurry up to find an average dude that they can control (very important feature this one) so they can show the world on Instagram and Facebook that "hey, I got some man by my side". It is all a big joke, I laugh every time I see them

Serious wall of text lol

Its revenge is a dish best served cold.

Stop checking. The best revenge is living a great life.

 

[IKO69]

You honestly have nothing to gain by attempting to ruin her. It won't change what happened.

Just let her be and live your life.

 

[wifehunter]

Think of her as a giant zit that you just popped. Relief happens after the pain is gone.

These women are insects. Like greedy flies in a field of fresh turds. Better to not be a turd.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Think of her as a giant zit that you just popped. Relief happens after the pain is gone.

These women are insects. Like greedy flies in a field of fresh turds. Better to not be a turd.

So don't have one like that on you.

 

[DreamAgain]

Thank you guys, I never followed up with her and she is blocked and ignored.

Will never devalue myself for pu$$y again, I'm almost ashamed to admit it but as the saying goes, you live and you learn.

I think the problem lies with this. You have this image of a person in your mind. And even though they changed, you think to yourself, how can it be that this person changed so drastically? It's almost like you have simultaneously conflicting thoughts. The reality that you are presented with and the "reality" that exists only as memories now.

Hard to understand, but nevertheless, a valuable, albeit very painful experience.

 

[wifehunter]

So don't have one like that on you.

It's tough, but I haz bug spray. : )

 

[wifehunter]

Thank you guys, I never followed up with her and she is blocked and ignored.

Will never devalue myself for pu$$y again, I'm almost ashamed to admit it but as the saying goes, you live and you learn.

I think the problem lies with this. You have this image of a person in your mind. And even though they changed, you think to yourself, how can it be that this person changed so drastically? It's almost like you have simultaneously conflicting thoughts. The reality that you are presented with and the "reality" that exists only as memories now.

Hard to understand, but nevertheless, a valuable, albeit very painful experience.

Been there....it's like the 'The Twilight Zone'

 

[stovepipe]

Thank you guys, I never followed up with her and she is blocked and ignored.

Will never devalue myself for pu$$y again, I'm almost ashamed to admit it but as the saying goes, you live and you learn.

I think the problem lies with this. You have this image of a person in your mind. And even though they changed, you think to yourself, how can it be that this person changed so drastically? It's almost like you have simultaneously conflicting thoughts. The reality that you are presented with and the "reality" that exists only as memories now.

Hard to understand, but nevertheless, a valuable, albeit very painful experience.

I was in a same exact spot a couple years ago. While I feel a lot better now, the shame I felt for devaluing myself for that sloot still lingers here and there. Those are the relationships that bring the most pain/shame. But also teach you very valuable life lessons that make you grow and mature as a man. Some of us have to go through it in order or learn.

I was the type of person who always wanted revenge. Over the years I witnessed karma enough times to know revenge is wasted energy. You can run, but you can't hide from karma. Let it go, set it free and live the best gosh darn life you can.

 

[DreamAgain]

I was in a same exact spot a couple years ago. While I feel a lot better now, the shame I felt for devaluing myself for that sloot still lingers here and there. Those are the relationships that bring the most pain/shame. But also teach you very valuable life lessons that make you grow and mature as a man. Some of us have to go through it in order or learn.

I was the type of person who always wanted revenge. Over the years I witnessed karma enough times to know revenge is wasted energy. You can run, but you can't hide from karma. Let it go, set it free and live the best gosh darn life you can.

Yeah @stovepipe the shame is the worst feeling of them all. But you know, even despite that, you still think to yourself "Did I do something to cause this"? "What could I have done differently to prevent this"?

So it's a combination of self-guilt and shame that makes a man just crumble, mentally and spiritually. All the while not knowing he was faced with a demon who ripped his soul out, that he just wasn't prepared to handle.

You need to build up courage to yourself to forgive yourself. It's all very hard, and a long and lonely process of healing and reflection.

 

[AttackFormation]

I think the fact that you kept veering back to considering making a beta response to her (ie. by responding/talking to her at all) multiple times in this thread before going NC shows you that you aren't free just because you're now free of this woman. You would probably do well to take a good, long look inside your mind as to what is driving you to be weak instead of strong and how this woman's charms exploited that vulnerability, so you can actually improve yourself and not just your circumstances. There was something about you that made you a suitable victim for this woman and you've got to find that, expunge it and replace it with strength from insight.

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

The biggest problem being that, its still about her rather then you doubling down in pickup or red pill. Personally, I would flyer nudes anonymously and be done with it. Link alias with said nudes.

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

I think the fact that you kept veering back to considering making a beta response to her (ie. by responding/talking to her at all) multiple times in this thread before going NC shows you that you aren't free just because you're now free of this woman. You would probably do well to take a good, long look inside your mind as to what is driving you to be weak instead of strong and how this woman's charms exploited that vulnerability, so you can actually improve yourself and not just your circumstances. There was something about you that made you a suitable victim for this woman and you've got to find that, expunge it and replace it with strength from insight.

+1
There's a growing amount of info on BPD women in pua and red pill. Its ideal to spot it. its evident that op was a woman chasing and got handled. Step game up.