Got called a teddy bear today...

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I'm 31. There is a girl at work I was flirting with. She'll be 22 next month. I was joking around saying I'd like to see what she looks like when she gets angry (since she never seems to look angry or frustrated) and when was the last time she got in a fight to see what she'd say. She laughed and asked me when the last time I got in a fight was.

I told her it's been years. She quickly told me that I didn't look intimidating and that I was like a teddy bear. I was kind of thrown off by it. I am not a small man at all. I'm 6'3 and around 260-70lbs. I could definitely stand to lose weight, but I think her comment must be referring more to my personality than my size. I'm normally a more reserved person. I'm more laid back and not very outgoing. Could that in and of itself be reason for her saying this?

I don't give women compliments and I don't feel I supplicate to them. I'm not sure what it is about me that I have been called this before. Perhaps a combination of both me being a big person but also not acting like a jerk? Could it be just being a heavier guy? Just drives me crazy. Sorry for the rant.
 

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Treating a guy that way is like calling a girl a whale imho, they either dont realize it or they do and say such things on purpose.

I've being called an assh0le, a loser, a creep whatever they came in their mind but thankfully never a teddy bear or a nice guy.

Now regarding your case, its hard to say which one was the reason but I guess your physical shape and your personality would give such idea, do you happen to have puffy hair and a beard?

Next time she calls you a teddy bear, tell her that if she is hinting to put you close to her at night, your rate for such things is 100$/hour...either she will laugh or call you something else than teddy bear.
 

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but I think her comment must be referring more to my personality than my size. I'm normally a more reserved person. I'm more laid back and not very outgoing. Could that in and of itself be reason for her saying this?
She's not interested in you in something more than this casual acquaintance type thing you've got going if that's what you're asking. If she found your personality and/or body type sexy, she'd say something to that effect...along the lines of "that looks really sexy on you", or more directly implying you're making her wet.

Teddy bear? Really?
 

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HB: "You are like a teddy bear"
LL: "Yes, I like tittie$ and beer. Thank you for asking"
 

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HB: "You are like a teddy bear"
LL: "Yes, I like tittie$ and beer. Thank you for asking"
HB: "You are like a teddy bear."
SIU: "Thunder buddies for life, right, HB?
HB: Laughs, sure
SIU:*motions to HB to come close* "All right, come on, let's sing "The Thunder Song""
SIU and HB: *sing Thunder buddy song in unison while pinching HBs butt*
Or
HB: "You are like a teddy bear."
SIU: "Life ain't nothin' but b**ches and honey."

TED quotes are great humor defuses against being called a teddy bear.
 

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It means you're a bigger guy and a good guy. There are worse things to be called.

Are you currently fvcking anyone? Anyone at all? If so I wouldn't lose sleep over one girl you aren't fvcking calling you a teddy bear my man.
 

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Appreciate these responses guys lol

It means you're a bigger guy and a good guy. There are worse things to be called.

Are you currently fvcking anyone? Anyone at all? If so I wouldn't lose sleep over one girl you aren't fvcking calling you a teddy bear my man.
I do have a friend I mess around with sometimes. I'm not really hung up on this girl. I just brought this up because I have been called a big teddy bear a couple times in the past and it drives me crazy. I had one girl I work with say that was a good thing because it means they want to cuddle. I said "so you would want to fvck your teddy bear?!" Needless to say she realized it wasn't a good thing. I just think it may be because I have a large stature that people think I'm going to be some hard ass or something and I'm just too laid back. Again, thanks everyone for the replies
 

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This woman finds you very Beta. Not relationship material cause you're way too nice to her. Women seem to like bad boys. Alpha males and leaders at work. Crank things up a few notches.
 
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