Got back from date...next step?

[WORKEROUTER]

So I went out with another girl today for lunch, and I have to say, I think it went pretty well. I could really focus on getting good eye contact with her, being confident and funny, and using some kino.

Anyway, I think she wants to get together again, and I told her we should. I told her to give me a call.

I remember someone saying on here that the next call should be from her...is that true? Or if I call, is there a good time?

 

[darthsidious]

girls never call in the beginning.

you do not know the power of the dark side...

 

[Qualtran]

If she actually calls, you are in and you did have a good first date. Generally though, I always like to keep the ball in my court on the first few dates, and be the one calling. I'm not sure what you heard, but it is not wise to tell a girl to call you because you then put yourself in a situation where you are wondering when she will call. Girls are often too insecure to actually call, and also when you eventually call her before she calls you, you look needy. Stay in control!

 

[Sp1kez]

Originally posted by Qualtran
If she actually calls, you are in and you did have a good first date. Generally though, I always like to keep the ball in my court on the first few dates, and be the one calling. I'm not sure what you heard, but it is not wise to tell a girl to call you because you then put yourself in a situation where you are wondering when she will call. Girls are often too insecure to actually call, and also when you eventually call her before she calls you, you look needy. Stay in control!

You just confused the hell out of me.......you're saying " They wont call because they are insecure, If you call you seem needy"


So nobody calls? WTF explain pls

 

[Qualtran]

Translation:

If you tell a girl to call you this early on, she often will not call even if she actually is interested in you. So if you end up calling her because she hasn't gotten back to you, you look bad. Its a dichotomy, yes, but it can be avoided if you stay in control of calling for the first few dates. Usually a girl will start calling you once she feels comfortable + likes you, so don't ask a girl to call because you should already assume that since you are a DJ, she will be dying to after a few dates.

 

[Jake-inator]

Right.

You don't have to tell a girl that likes you to call you...

If she likes you, you'll hear from her.
Or if you don't you can always try calling her.

 

[wind20mph]

Anyway, I think she wants to get together again, and I told her we should. I told her to give me a call.

I remember someone saying on here that the next call should be from her...is that true? Or if I call, is there a good time? [/B]

Hmmm. After 500 posts you still didn't know the game?

If she have a good time, she would probably go on the 2nd Date.

And right there you said... "I think she wants to get together again, and I told her we should. I told her to give me a call." Domineering...

You just give her the power to have an option to wether she wants to date you again.

If I were you, I'll search this Forum and find related topic.

Piece and Piece
wind20mph

 

[WORKEROUTER]

Well she's already called me before.

But I think that I really did take the situation pretty well that I didn't seem needy...even if I slightly suggested she call me.

Anyway, I'll call her in a couple days to set something up (assuming she doesn't call).

 

[Qualtran]

Originally posted by WORKEROUTER
Well she's already called me before.

But I think that I really did take the situation pretty well that I didn't seem needy...even if I slightly suggested she call me.

Anyway, I'll call her in a couple days to set something up (assuming she doesn't call).

Well, thats not so bad then. I was under the impression that this date was the first time you had ever really communicated. If you handled it well, I wouldn't really sweat it. Even though there is basic advice, in practice it is customizable to each situation.

The basic advice still stands though: Always stay in control by doing the calling the first few dates.