Got a girls insta at a bday

[AntoniousIV]

I was at some girls bday, dont really like the girl didnt really wanna go.Glad I did, I enter and played 8 ball pool with my friend when the host girl asked us that a group of girls wanted to play, they stood up and i told them let's play together. They said okay I made the teams, gave bro 2 girls i got 1 baddie and another girl. Let's call the baddie M and the other one K. I talked to both they said that they didnt know how to play and i did some keno showing them how to hold the pole. Did some talk with both didnt choose a target, although I wanted the baddie i thought i should talk to every1. I did but i also talked with her directly.
Played 2 games and then other girls came and we gave up the thing. I said "imma go, but you girls seemed fun what's your insta". Again I thought this was smart, talking to every1.Smelt good felt good hair styled i was confident. They both gave me insta. And I dipped chilling, played some mini football with my boys (the machine game). Caught her looking twice (didnt look at her much) I smiled the first time.

I have tommorow and the day after no school.Cus its sunday and then ramazan bajram after. So monday and sunday we both have no school


Whats step 2, what do I do guys.

 

[New_Journey]

You already fcked up. Did you leave the birthday party early? If you were having a good time why did you leave? You were playing, chilling with your bro and4 girls, and then you played two more games and "gave up the thing?" and left? Also, why asking the instagram and not directly her phone number?

 

[AntoniousIV]

You already fcked up. Did you leave the birthday party early? If you were having a good time why did you leave? You were playing, chilling with your bro and4 girls, and then you played two more games and "gave up the thing?" and left? Also, why asking the instagram and not directly her phone number?

Left when it ended. Just left them, finished the night with the boys. Couldnt get both girls numbers. I guess i should've just asked the baddie directly.

 

[New_Journey]

Left when it ended. Just left them, finished the night with the boys. Couldnt get both girls numbers. I guess i should've just asked the baddie directly.

If you wanted the baddie you should have isolated her throughout the night, make conversation with her and see where things were going.

Or you should have taken the opportunity with your bro to invite her and another friend to a dance club or another fun location where drinks are involved, for you two get to know together since you were having a great time in the birthday party.

The bad thing about instagram is that unless she's very interested and starts to DM you first, then you are just another guy on social media.

I don't know if she likes you enough, but what I would do is either:

1. When some time goes by, thank her for the invite if she was, tell her you had a great time and invite her to a pool night when she's available.

or

2. Tell your bro to invite the girl who he made a good connection with, tell her to invite the baddie and he's going to invite you to a pool night. This more passive and can make you look with no balls no invite her out.

Both create pressure on the girl, but if she likes you enough she will go where you are. If not, she will make an excuse.

Again, I don't think you created rapport with her, so in my case I would try to go to rejection quickly to gauge her interest. Maybe other members can give you better advice.

 

[AntoniousIV]

1. When some time goes by, thank her for the invite if she was, tell her you had a great time and invite her to a pool night when she's

She lives in another city. The baddie isnt the hostess, the baddie is a separate girl which lives in a city close to mine.

I was thinking of messaging her
Hey im the guy from the party or sum

and then tell her

I was planning of coming to your city, wanna go for a coffee?

 

[New_Journey]

Hey im the guy from the party or sum

IMO what you tell her won't matter much, all that matters in the interest she has for you, the logistic you gotta do to increase the interest and your game.

She lives in another city. The baddie isnt the hostess, the baddie is a separate girl which lives in a city close to mine.

I was thinking of messaging her
Hey im the guy from the party or sum

and then tell her

I was planning of coming to your city, wanna go for a coffee?

Me personally, I wouldn't worry with girls in other cities, I would go local. How far is that from you?

Also why coffee? Are you old enough to drink alcohol? If you are good playing pool, lead with that, find a good nice place in her area at night where they have pool tables and teach her, a space to chill, talk & with music where you can dance wit her too. That creates a nice atmosphere of fun and different.

 

[AntoniousIV]

IMO what you tell her won't matter much, all that matters in the interest she has for you, the logistic you gotta do to increase the interest and your game.



Me personally, I wouldn't worry with girls in other cities, I would go local. How far is that from you?

Also why coffee? Are you old enough to drink alcohol? If you are good playing pool, lead with that, find a good nice place in her area at night where they have pool tables and teach her, a space to chill, talk & with music where you can dance wit her too. That creates a nice atmosphere of fun and playfulness.

My country is multinational , and the other nationalities dont like eachother. My city is mostly with the other nationality, so i cant get a girl here. Her city is a 30 min bus, cheap too. I worked in the other city as a summer job. No issues. I think there arent any pool places in her city imma ask a friend tho and lead wifh that .

It's 11pm rn, the party was 4 hours ago. Should I message her now or tommorow at noon?

I can be like, "Hey i just got home from the party, what you doing tommorow"

 

[New_Journey]

Should I message her now or tommorow at noon?

That's not on me to decide bro.

 

[AntoniousIV]

That's not on me to decide bro.

You have more experience, I'll just message her now

 

[BPH]

I was at some girls bday, dont really like the girl didnt really wanna go.Glad I did, I enter and played 8 ball pool with my friend when the host girl asked us that a group of girls wanted to play, they stood up and i told them let's play together. They said okay I made the teams, gave bro 2 girls i got 1 baddie and another girl. Let's call the baddie M and the other one K. I talked to both they said that they didnt know how to play and i did some keno showing them how to hold the pole. Did some talk with both didnt choose a target, although I wanted the baddie i thought i should talk to every1. I did but i also talked with her directly.
Played 2 games and then other girls came and we gave up the thing. I said "imma go, but you girls seemed fun what's your insta". Again I thought this was smart, talking to every1.Smelt good felt good hair styled i was confident. They both gave me insta. And I dipped chilling, played some mini football with my boys (the machine game). Caught her looking twice (didnt look at her much) I smiled the first time.

I have tommorow and the day after no school.Cus its sunday and then ramazan bajram after. So monday and sunday we both have no school


Whats step 2, what do I do guys.

What's with you guys and not having the balls to ask for a phone number?

I guarantee that if she's remotely moderately attractive and has 1,000+ followers, her DMs have a steady trickle of thirsty guys blowing up her inbox.

Last weekend I was out at the bar and was making out with this girl when she had to leave with her friend and offered me her Snapchat. I said no to that sh** and told her to give me her number. I'm supposed to see her tonight because it's her birthday and she wants her gift to be more of me.

I don't think you'll get anywhere with either girl because you've framed yourself as a "fan" rather than a "f***".

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Might mean something, might mean nothing.

Good job on getting it but unless she meets up with you, it's not worth anything.

 

[New_Journey]

I said no to that sh** and told her to give me her number. I'm supposed to see her tonight because it's her birthday and she wants her gift to be more of me.

Nice man. Hottie?

 

[BPH]

Nice man. Hottie?

Of course. I generally maintain a pretty high standard. Beautiful face, decent body, probably about a 7 overall.

 

[AntoniousIV]

What's with you guys and not having the balls to ask for a phone number?

I don't think you'll get anywhere with either girl because you've framed yourself as a "fan" rather than a "f***".

I guess i didnt have enough rapport built. I dont really know, didnt even think of the number. I'll try asking for a number next time.

 

[crowolf]

This sounds like social circle game. Go out again to have fun with a friend of yours, and invite these girls. Then isolate your target at some point.

 

[Isildur1]

Make a thread about getting two instas from a couple of girls means you’re already in trouble and have a scarcity mindset - you need to go out and approach more women and build more momentum seriously

I’d say out of every 10 instas I’d get from daygame approaches 3 would lead to dates with one of those being a lay- you need to approach more and up the volume - the majority of insta closes have ended up near no where

 

[AntoniousIV]

This sounds like social circle game. Go out again to have fun with a friend of yours, and invite these girls. Then isolate your target at some point.

She left me on sent sadly

 

[New_Journey]

She left me on sent sadly

Expected. You are pouching way above your weight. Start with the fatties first.

 

[Clockwerk50]

Playing two meaningless games of pool and then asking for her Instagram isn’t going to get you very far. Not only will you fail to gauge her interest level, but you were also in a situation where everyone was essentially ****blocking each other and stepping on everyone’s toes.

Lastly, it seems like you’re young. Most social circles at your age consist of an “alpha male” and his minions/friends who lack personality. The alpha male usually gets the most ****, while the others are often relegated to the friend zone. Hopefully, you have something that sets you apart from the pack. For example, you’re not just the “car guy” who gives everyone a ride or the “weed guy” who just rolls blunts. Ideally, you have something more going for yourself.

If your social circles keep crossing paths, I wouldn’t have sent anything on her Instagram. Not sure if you mentioned whether she followed you back, but what I would have done is waited for her to initiate a conversation. Another option would have been to seem intriguing but showing no particular interest in her. When you sense that she’s thinking about you, that’s the moment to hit her with your first message. Any desire you express for her will then come as a surprise to her vanity, making her wonder why you weren’t immediately drawn to her like everyone else. That curiosity can plant the seed of attraction if you play it right.

 

[AntoniousIV]

Expected. You are pouching way above your weight. Start with the fatties first.

How would that help?