Everyone wants to be seduced and led astray; most people crave it. If they didn’t, there wouldn’t be so many people out there infatuated, in love, or sleeping with each other. With that said, how can you lead someone into an environment of pleasure and romance if you’re a follower yourself? This is why the leader of the social group, the alpha male, gets all the attention. He leads with plans, charisma, and confidence. He knows where the parties are, he knows everyone, and people gravitate toward him. Again, I’m working under the assumption that you are the follower in your group.
I was originally going to suggest texting her with a purpose, but instead, I’d advise you to think hard about what you really want out of this. Most men know how to initiate a conversation, but the deeper question is: What is your real goal? Even if you think you just want sex, or a harem of women, the reality is that most men who haven’t gotten laid as often as they’d like are actually seeking validation—from a hot girl, from the competition, from their peers or from their own insecurities.
I hope this helps.