good to make her jealous?

[seanmichaels]

if you're a single man and theres a girl who seemingly likes you, is it bad to make her jealous by still talking to other girls?

For example, theres a chick and she has a crush on you or whatever but you keep talking/checking out other girls... Wouldn't that hurt the whole purpose and have the girl think "Man this guys just a dog he does nothing but check out other girls" blah blah, any ideas?

 

[TDOT]

Read this tip.

http://www.sosuave.com/quick/tip174.htm


Then please post the answer to your own question because it is right there in the tip plain as day.

Post it because I just want to confirm that you got it right before one of the mods either deletes or closes this thread.

 

[seanmichaels]

I read all those tips and I will now apply it in my normal life. So I'll just flirt with other chicks in front of her. I have no shame so confidence isn't a problem here. I just didn't want to be a big flirt with other chicks and have her be like "Ah fvck this, I don't want him" but I guess according to that tip.. She'll only want me more. We'll see.


One thing I didn't get though is:
10. Never, ever I mean NEVER let her know how strongly you feel for her.
I don't care if you think God has sent her just for you and you want to marry her today, never let her know that. The minute she knows you have deep feelings for her, her challenge is over. She won. She got you and her fun is over.

So how are we supposed to hook up if she never knows that I have feelings for her? I mean I'm sure somewhere down the line if she is interested in me (and since I'm interested) I need to tell her so we'll hook up.

 

[TDOT]

Originally posted by seanmichaels
I read all those tips and I will now apply it in my normal life. So I'll just flirt with other chicks in front of her. I have no shame so confidence isn't a problem here. I just didn't want to be a big flirt with other chicks and have her be like "Ah fvck this, I don't want him" but I guess according to that tip.. She'll only want me more. We'll see.


One thing I didn't get though is:
10. Never, ever I mean NEVER let her know how strongly you feel for her.
I don't care if you think God has sent her just for you and you want to marry her today, never let her know that. The minute she knows you have deep feelings for her, her challenge is over. She won. She got you and her fun is over.

So how are we supposed to hook up if she never knows that I have feelings for her? I mean I'm sure somewhere down the line if she is interested in me (and since I'm interested) I need to tell her so we'll hook up.

I covered this in a recent post of mine found in this thread.

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=70861

Please note this is only version 1.0 and I have alot to fix in it already but this last part still stands correct:

[STEP 4 ASKING HER To BE YOUR GIRL]

You NEVER NEVER NEVER EVER come straight out and ask her to be your girlfriend. That shows way too much neediness.

So this is what you say:

"Do you think it is too early in this relationship to be talking about hooking up as a couple?"

Based on her response if it is positive then go ahead and say "Then let's make it official." [Notice you DID NOT ASK HER TO BE YOUR GIRLFRIEND] Please pay attention to how that is worded.
If the response to the first question was negative then say, "That's how I feel. But I thought I was getting vibes that you felt differently so I just had to make sure."

See how you left the door open for yourself to still try later?

 

[LostbutFound]

Thats a tricky question. In LOTS of cases, that will drive the girl nuts and she will throw herself at you. Especially if she sees a lot of girls coming up to you...You become the prize and she sees competition...girls LOVE this!!!!
There was this girl that I used to hook up with, and Ill be honest, she played me out. So I see her in a club (we havent spoke or seen each other in months) and she comes up to me, this and that. Two other girls, that I started talking to, came up to me right in front of the girl and she got sooo jealous. For the rest of the night I ignored her and talked to the two other girls. My boy told me that other girl sat in the corner, with the guy she was with, and had this pissy look on her face staring at me the whole night. In this case, the jealousy worked. 2 days later, she called me up, we met and I banged her....then never talked to her again!! oh sweet revenge!
But there are also girls that will just say f*ck it and leave. In my opinion, they are more likely to get jealous and really want you if you talk to other girls....If girls just come up to you...then shes gonna throw herself at you, trust me!

 

[Finch]

What about the this girl that you are seeing sorta.. and you hang out with her friend while she's out of town.. I have a feeling that might cross over the line, maybe?

 

[DrSoSuave]

Originally posted by TDOT
Read this tip.

http://www.sosuave.com/quick/tip174.htm


Then please post the answer to your own question because it is right there in the tip plain as day.

Post it because I just want to confirm that you got it right before one of the mods either deletes or closes this thread.

If any of you read this tip and follow through it. Know that you are *Playing a game* and if she decides to play a game (And we all know women know how to play games.) and come back here crying and whining why she treats you in such fashion. You asked for it. Just remember you are reading a tip made by an angry and perhaps vengeful "nice guy."

 

[TDOT]

Originally posted by Finch
What about the this girl that you are seeing sorta.. and you hang out with her friend while she's out of town.. I have a feeling that might cross over the line, maybe?

You don't mess with her friends. You make friends with her friends and keep it at that. Girls and their friends will try to set you up to see if you will hit on her girl. When you don't, you have passed their test. When and if you stop talking to the first girl though you have already set yourself up to move in on her friend because at this point you at least know her.

 

[Freeman]

Originally posted by seanmichaels
if you're a single man and theres a girl who seemingly likes you, is it bad to make her jealous by still talking to other girls?

For example, theres a chick and she has a crush on you or whatever but you keep talking/checking out other girls... Wouldn't that hurt the whole purpose and have the girl think "Man this guys just a dog he does nothing but check out other girls" blah blah, any ideas?

YES!! Jealousy is a necceary evil in order to keep your hold on your girl. Make her realize that she could be easily replaced.

 

[Royal Elite]

Re: Re: good to make her jealous?

Originally posted by Freeman
YES!! Jealousy is a necceary evil in order to keep your hold on your girl. Make her realize that she could be easily replaced.

I dont see jealousy as an evil, it's a break from routine. Every time your girl thinks of you with another girl, it's something new to think about. It kills the monotonous mood that most dudes seem to like to fall in once they have a girl. Monotony is the number one relationship killer in the world.

 

[doctoroxygen]

This can be a tough issue. Jealousy can be the most powerful tool when used early in a pickup, but in my experience, it can also kill a girl emotionally if used wrong. For instance, a girl thinks you've got a great connection with her, then sees you doing your thing (not THAT thing ) with other chicks, it can emotionally destroy her. That's only in cases where you and the girl are really tight though. Otherwise, game on

Re: the tip: "10. Never, ever I mean NEVER let her know how strongly you feel for her.

I don't care if you think God has sent her just for you and you want to marry her today, never let her know that. The minute she knows you have deep feelings for her, her challenge is over. She won. She got you and her fun is over.

I compare it to fishing. You sit all day with your bait in the water and when you finally catch a fish, what do you do? You throw it back in the water. Believe me, the minute she catches you hook, line, and sinker, it's back in the drink for you."

That's pretty weak stuff there. This tip assumes the girl is only after you for validation, and once you validate her, she'll be gone. This can be the case, but if you're only getting girls to seek validation from you, your game is not strong.

Of course, this is assuming you HAVE had sex with the girl. Before that, telling a chick how much she means to you is weirdo sh*t. After sex, though, it all depends on the strength of the frame you set.

 

[TDOT]

Originally posted by TDOT
I covered this in a recent post of mine found in this thread.

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=70861

Please note this is only version 1.0 and I have alot to fix in it already but this last part still stands correct:

[STEP 4 ASKING HER To BE YOUR GIRL]

You NEVER NEVER NEVER EVER come straight out and ask her to be your girlfriend. That shows way too much neediness.

So this is what you say:

"Do you think it is too early in this relationship to be talking about hooking up as a couple?"


Another way this question can be worded is by saying: "Are you talking to anyone else other than me right now?"

If she says no then you are free to say: "Me neither and since that's the case we might as well make this relationship official"