Good signs from girl, but wont respond to txt for date?

[Somebloke50]

About a month ago i went to a shop and had a good conversation/flirted a bit with the young bird that worked there, we managed to get to know each other a bit. I was chicken sh_t to ask her out and left it at that.
Last week went to the store after not going there for a while and she starts talking to me, seems very friendly and chatty and says she remembers me from last time. Again we have a good conversation and get to know more about each other. I was too afraid to ask her out because her co-worker was in the store. Before saying good bye i said i hope to see her again and she said the same thing.

Friday i bump into her in the shops (she is on her lunch break) and she stops to say hello and have a chat. This time i man up and ask if we can do something one day if she is free and can have her number. She agrees, and when i ask her how you want to do this she grabs my mobile and puts in her name and number, so im thinking promising signs. When we say good bye she pats me on the shoulder, which i guess is a good sign. Also when she was giving me her number i said that it would be great to meet up some time and that she would be hearing from me, seems like she was ok with that.

I figure when i get home i should text her that she knows its my number, i also in the same text ask her if she wants to go meet up in place X when she is free. Perhaps it was a bit "needy" asking her out a few hours after i got her number, but i figured better send her a txt soon because she does not have my number saved.

Anyway, 4 days later, no response. Bit strange considering i have been getting good (i think) signals.

I guess it would be best for you guys to see the txt i send to the girl:
"Hey X this is X. When you are free some time it would be great if we can meet up and get to know each other better. Maybe we can meet in they city for a drink and bite when your free?"

 

[Somebloke50]

I forgot to describe the girl, i think she is 19/20, works in a video game store (LOL i know) and seems very friendly. She is attractive, but im guessing she wouldnt stick out in a nightclub. Maybe bit of a "geeky girl", lives with a single mother (yeah i know).

In hindsight i think i shot myself in the foot by asking to early and also not setting up a actual time/date.

My question is how would i improve myself in doing this in the future, and also what is my next move with this girl?

Might seem wimpy but im not to sure how to act when i see her next. I will be going to the same store to pick up a pre-order and have a funny feeling that i will be seeing her again

 

[SoSuave666]

I would just go to the store and try and see if I could open up a conversation with her. I have a very strict never text twice in a row rule. I don't care if she lost her phone, if she broke her phone, or just didn't text back because she is a b!tch. I'd just go to the store and act like nothing happened. I'd then ask her out in person. That way you can tell whether or not she is interested. She can't play games in person like she can over the phone.

I also loathe texting. I'd probably have called her...in a couple days after getting the number.

 

[Iceberg]

My question is how would i improve myself in doing this in the future, and also what is my next move with this girl?

You would improve yourself by asking more than one girl out.

Taking three occasions to ask one girl for her number and then wondering why she didnt reply...it's like going on a job hunt, sending out one resume, and praying that this ONE resume wins you a job. You want a job, you gotta send 10 resumes, right? Maybe 20. Maybe 50.

It takes more than one shot with one girl to end up with a date, man.

I'm glad that you stepped up to ask her out. That's a brave move. But the honest truth is, you get rejected more than you get accepted. That's just life.

No point in wondering about it. You might ask out 10 more girls before you get yourself a nice girlfriend or whatever.

Why was she nice to you? Why was she so friendly and accepting? I dunno...because she's a girl. When it comes to girls, it's best not to ask why. The best thing you can do is look at the results "Did she accept my offer or ignore it?" and move forward accordingly. F**k the "why's".

Might seem wimpy but im not to sure how to act when i see her next. I will be going to the same store to pick up a pre-order and have a funny feeling that i will be seeing her again

How do you act? You say hello, you get your stuff, and you leave. Act like it's no big deal...because it isn't.

 

[HalfPUAHalfAFC]

What he said

Listen to Almentre Silvendre... or whatever his name is

 

[Zerro]

1) The next time a woman puts her cell number in your phone, you should call it right in front of her, let it ring once, and then tell her that's your number. That's pretty much the standard and it's something I do with all new people I meet, not just women.

Sensible thing to do so that she has your name in her phone instead of a number that she doesn't recognize, plus it calls a chick out immediately in the event that she gave you a fake number.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

This time i man up and ask if we can do something one day if she is free and can have her number.

Is that really what you said? You asked her "if" you can do something one day "if" she is free and "can" you have her number??

You operated from a complete chump mentality if that is the case. Look a lot of people here are going tell you to plant more seeds and they are absolutely right. But, it doesn't hurt to practice good habits.


[qutoe]She agrees, and when i ask her how you want to do this she grabs my mobile and puts in her name and number, so im thinking promising signs.

Again, your showing way too much insecurity with these silly questions. Be confident, when you want a girl's number, don't ask; tell her; "you seem cool, give me your # and we can hang out sometime." ---- they key here is you are being assertive, you are being the male and most importantly you are not telling her when your going to call her, just that you will.

When we say good bye she pats me on the shoulder, which i guess is a good sign.

Signs can tell you a lot, but too many newbies here like yourself tend to over-analyze the hell outta of them. Try not to do that.

Also when she was giving me her number i said that it would be great to meet up some time and that she would be hearing from me, seems like she was ok with that.

Just by the way your writing up this post, you can feel the insecurity. I can only imagine how you were when you were doing this in person. And that's not to rip on you, its to say get out there and do this more often, who cares if you phuck up or not; just get experience and you will improve.

I figure when i get home i should text her that she knows its my number

Not a big deal either way.

i also in the same text ask her if she wants to go meet up in place X when she is free.

I wouldn't have asked her out so soon, but then again if she is interested she wouldn't say no. Your mistake here was not having a set time. Saying we should meet up at place X when free is very ambiguous in a girl's eyes. Next time say something like "hey (her name) lets meet up at X place, I'm free Tuesday or Thursday evening after 7, what day works for you?

Perhaps it was a bit "needy" asking her out a few hours after i got her number, but i figured better send her a txt soon because she does not have my number saved.

It wasn't the text asking her out that was needy; it was your whole demeanor when you were talking to her that screamed neediness and lack of confidence.

Secondly you were operating from a mode of fear, "if I don't text her my #, she will forget about me" Oh no!!

Anyway, 4 days later, no response. Bit strange considering i have been getting good (i think) signals.

Again don't over-analyze signs. The bottom line is she has not got back to you, so you should realize where her true interest lies.

The text you sent her was just insecure as mentioned.


Next time: Ask her out in person as another person suggested, or when you do call/text be confident.






PIMP

 

[bigneil]

Pimp-sicle is right.

Let's analyze this further: "If we can do something one day if she is free and can have her number"

If - When
we can - we will
do something - do (specified plan)
one day - on (specified date)
if she is free - (given her interest)
can (he) have her number - (she should) write her number down.

On the left is what was said from a person with no leverage (and someone who cares about the outcome). On the right is what a person will say who has confidence and leverage (and who couldn't care less).

Remember guys: don't ask for numbers/dates. Tell the girl to write down her number (text to confirm on the spot and sign your name so she knows who it is from and how to spell it) and specify exactly what (and when) the date will be.

 

[LuisGarcia10]

She's given you her number and agreed to a date because she doesn't want to say no to your face.

Girls give out their number like confetti, I have had literally hundreds of numbers from girls I've met, and at least 60% of them haven't even responded to my first text message. It's a numbers game, I wouldn't worry, just get more numbers and you'll get dates, this one girl probably wasn't that interested.

 

[nismo-4]

Judge nismo knows that women give men numbers and buying signals like it's free samples. It's new age attention wh0ring. And we all know that women's options are damn infinite. Another such case here.

But she long decided that she's just not that into you.

You failed to lead, as in having a plan for a date. And texting for a date, damn, you dug your own grave. No texting for dates. :nono:

Moving on and spinning more plates is the best thing that is for you because your princess is in another castle. She just indirectly told you.

Case closed.

 

[PrettyBoyAJ]

Listen, you seem cool and we definitely need to hangout soon. Let me slide you my number and we can definately kick it in the near future

Once she hits you up it's Game On! If she doesn't then she doesn't want you. It seems to me like she has a boyfriend or someone she is fkn. Don't take it personal playa. She didn't respond to your text so you need to delete her number and keep on campaigning.

I RARELY get girls numbers. Too many girls give their number out just for attention purposes. and AJ is not an attention stroker. Only ego that's gonna be stroked is mine. Only time I will get a girls number is if she writes it down on a piece of paper and slides it to me smoothly. (This happens when girls are at work).

Somebloke charge this broad to the game and keep gaming other chicks.

 

[Somebloke50]

Hey everyone, i kind of decided to try call her for the sake of things, but i have learned my lesson and from now on i will call instead of txt and will set a time and day.

She answered the phone but didnt know it was my number lol

Was friendly to talk to, but she was at work so she couldn't talk for long. Basically told her i would be in the city this sunday and would be great if she could join me.

She said that would be great, but she would get back to me by txt if she can come LOL

So im guessing not interested. Well now i know for sure, and this will be the last try by me

 

[Trump]

Hey everyone, i kind of decided to try call her for the sake of things, but i have learned my lesson and from now on i will call instead of txt and will set a time and day.

She answered the phone but didnt know it was my number lol

Was friendly to talk to, but she was at work so she couldn't talk for long. Basically told her i would be in the city this sunday and would be great if she could join me.

She said that would be great, but she would get back to me by txt if she can come LOL

So im guessing not interested. Well now i know for sure, and this will be the last try by me

What did you expect her to say? I love you, I miss you, I can't live without you?

Come on bro, this girl is at work. She is friendly on the phone, says great you are coming into the city, and will let you know if she can join you. That sounds very logical and sensible to me.