Good short term strategies for getting over the ex

[BeTheChange]

Hit the gym FIRST thing EVERY morning and LIFT HEAVY. This is non negotiable and by far the most important thing.

Keep yourself occupied during the day. She is out your life so every moment you think about her is a waste. She is insignificant.

Read through the Book of Pook, Rational Male and Poon King's posts. Absorb and encapsulate their philosophies.

Spin plates HARD. Also vital. Telling yourself she was never a special snowflake and reading the DJ Bible 50 times won't be sufficient. Just "thinking" it won't get you all the way. You HAVE TO experience it. And that means fvcking lots and lots of other women.

Catch up with friends. Make sure you either have a date or some other kind of social activity most days of the week.

Treadmill or jog every evening (unless you get laid). Get a good night's sleep. If for whatever reason you can't sleep, then fap, otherwise try and avoid it.


This has helped me immensely over the past few weeks and I am now really seeing the benefits. I don't give a sh*t about "what's her name" anymore.

Long term I believe that meditation, self-reflection and other forms of self improvement and actualisation are of more value. However it's a lot harder to do these things when you are crying into your pillow every morning, which is why I believe it is necessary to get over the emotional hurdle that is the RAWness of a breakup in the first one or two months and the tips above should help.

 

[logicallefty]

Good post. I always go out and date as many women as possible as early as possible. Even if it's a woman I am not all that interested in. It helps me take the mind off of the ex.

Reference: LL's "Women as Beer" theory:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/index.php?threads/think-of-women-as-beer.221281/

 

[stevo]

Get fcuked by the next.

 

[resilient]

OP, play this lyric video "Passing Through" by Evergrey and crank the volume up.

Ten years from now
I might have found my way
Ten years from now
I'll see with different eyes
better | wiser | and not as blind

always looked for acceptance
and understood what it's like to be different
did not believe in transcendence
this life gave birth to independence

does no one see it like i do?
that we're just passing through?
no one feel what i do?

we're just passing through

these silhouettes remain
the're not the sum of me
no longer represent who i used to to be
they just remind me of where i used to wake
how i used to think
how i used to ache
ten years from now i'll watch from far away
ten years from now i should have found my way

 

[marmel75]

These are good coping mechanisms, but you need to get to a point where you don't need the coping mechanisms and don't give a Fvck because you really don't give a Fvck.

 

[BeTheChange]

Personal Preference: Avoid the more humorless, Darwinist stuff like Rational Male. You are still in the Disneyland mindset post breakup and being basically told categorically that you can NEVER have anything close to this without even taking off the edge with humor is a bit rough. I laugh my ass off at the other two though, funny even when I disagree with them. Pook on Breakups is pure gold and not in the Book of Pook btw, its in a thread here.

Agree with everything else although not sure about plate spinning...I think it depends on the situation and individual. In some cases it was an instant cure short AND long tem, in some cases when my thought processes weren't right first it just added more baggage and negativity. You should be around women bare minimum though, be social. Eventually, there's no doubt that you will have to "lust" your way out of your prior relationship though.

One thing I would add is going out and observing the real world. No one gives a sh!t about relationship drama. It helped a ton to see the mirror images of myself in 20 years at work...how small all this crap must seem to them by that point. Half these guys are living with sex and love playing almost no role in their world whatsoever. That's the natural state of things, not pining and obsessing.

Another thing is realizing how when it comes to seduction and assets you are so\ much better off than 90% of men, easily. Its a joke. So many guys would give their left nut to be in your position right now.

I agree with your point on the RM. Probably best saved for once you're over the ex completely. Pook and Poon, on the other hand had me in tears with laughter, despite dropping hard truths.

I mention the usefulness of plate spinning because I tried the post breakup celibate life for a month and it was great in terms of introspection and self development but I still missed my ex and felt I'd "lost" something. Wasn't until I started spinning plates again that I full appreciate how ordinary she actually was.

@marmel75 Yep. And that's why the thread title is "short term strategies"

Edit: Also Pook's breakup post is golden! So much of this really is about perspective