good response when she says "give me YOUR number"

[electron]

What's a good response when a chick says give your # instead.....because I don't like to give out mine..... blablabla

Also what does AFC mean n e way?


Thanks

 

[Sexy_Malibu]

Originally posted by electron
What's a good response when a chick says give your # instead.....because I don't like to give out mine..... blablabla

Well, first of all, it's not a good sign if she doesn't want to give you her number. (Unless she has a good excuse, like she lives with her parents/children/husband/boyfriend/roommates and doesn't want to get random calls at random times.) It might just be her way of rejecting you without actually REJECTING you.

The real question is though, if you want to give out your number or not? If you don't care, then give her the number. She may or may not call you, kind of puts her in control. You could say something like, "I'll give it to you if you're really going to use it."

Strangely enough, at bars and clubs guys are often eager to give me their numbers. I rarely ask for them. They either give me their number or they ask to exchange numbers. Not sure what that is all about. If any DJs out there have got the inside info on that deal I'd appreciate it (if you're not afraid to give away trade secrets to a girl). I'm not sure if it's part of a game or if its just some AFC ****.

 

[Eternal]

AFC = Average Frustrated Chump

 

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Originally posted by electron
What's a good response when a chick says give your # instead.....because I don't like to give out mine..... blablabla

Also what does AFC mean n e way?


Thanks

Its low interest, just say with a smile, nah sorry doesnt work like that and move on.

They either give me their number or they ask to exchange numbers. Not sure what that is all about. If any DJs out there have got the inside info on that deal I'd appreciate it (if you're not afraid to give away trade secrets to a girl). I'm not sure if it's part of a game or if its just some AFC ****.

because its easier for AFCs to give numbers, than get flat out rejected from asking for hers, plus there is underlying fear of being too forward and scaring her off.

 

[legolas]

Re: Re: good response when she says "give me YOUR number"

Originally posted by Sexy_Malibu
Well, first of all, it's not a good sign if she doesn't want to give you her number. (Unless she has a good excuse, like she lives with her parents/children/husband/boyfriend/roommates and doesn't want to get random calls at random times.) It might just be her way of rejecting you without actually REJECTING you.

Yeah that's actually true! If you don't get her to WANT to give you the number, if you don't get to that point, then getting the number through other tricks will only annoy the girl who will say what she said above, or give you a fake one just to get you off her back. Read Deep Blue's long reply to Richard's email here http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=18400

 

[BobbDobbs]

You have two possible responses. Give it to her, or don't. Doesn't really matter much one way or the other. She is unlikely to call. Next question.

 

[MoAF]

I always offer to exchange #'s... why? Because its fun. I write my name in barely readable funky style letters, draw a smily/winking/shouting face and a lil comment pertaining to our conversation, and my # in big bold letters, hand it over and tell her to make sure and never call on fri or sat .

But, most afc's do it because its a lil cussion for them. Its like "well, I'm not sure if shes interested... but I'll sure know she is if she calls me or not, gee golly!" Not to mention the thought of 'exchanging' #'s is a lil more low key than #closing, and I find women are more likly to relinquish their # after very lil convo as long as you relinquish yours as well. But, if you just flat out close after a few moments of pleasantries you are unlikly to have much success.

 

[dionysius_d]

I follow the "No handing out of my own number" rule.

 

[In Sync]

That approach can be very useful if you meet a girl with the same plan.

 

[comote]

You know if a girl asks for your number rather than give her yours she is probably not interested, but on the other hand why not just give it to her, you don't really lose anything. Give it to her and say see you around.

 

[One on One]

Tell her, "I asked you first." Assuming that you did ask first. If she still refuses, then you should probably walk away because she's not interested. If she asked you first, then you need to decide how valuable the girl is. If she's just OK, then give her your number and forget about it. But, if it's a girl that you are going to be thinking about for some time, then you need to say something C+F and get her number and get back in control.

 

[Starman]

I usually say "Sorry! My # has to be earned..I dont give it out to just everybody...but i'll meet you half way..give me yours and I'll give you my area code"

 

[Miles Davis]

Originally posted by Starman
I usually say "Sorry! My # has to be earned..I dont give it out to just everybody...but i'll meet you half way..give me yours and I'll give you my area code"

hahahaha

 

[Gangster Of Love]

Lately I've been using the following with a lot of success :

Her: Why don't you give me your number, and I'll call you.

Me: Oh, come on (with a sarcastic smile in my face, that shows that I know what's going on), guys don't fall for that one anymore, do they?


OR

Me: That doesn't work anymore, does it?

Usually she'll laugh and either give in, or refuse, so I handle the objections by withdrawing the offer.

Me: Its ok, I don't need to get your number. (with an attitude of, 'its no big deal')


At this point, if they are interested, they'll turn it in.

If there is some intitial interest, it will work, if not, she'll just blow you off if you continue, and you'll sound like you're supplicating. Hot chicks are used to most guys crumblin' after the first objection, so its the easiest way to get rid of them; if they are interested, seems like they will still use that response to test you. Its worked for me several times in the last couple of weeks.

 

[ProQD]

I always exchange numbers. The way I see it is that I'm not going to ask her to do something that I'm not willing to do myself. Some girls are really paranoid, but usually it's because they are not interested. If I'm interested and I think there's a slight chance I'll give them my business card, I don't expect them to call/email but if they do - bonus.

 

[T.T. Boy]

Originally posted by Starman
I usually say "Sorry! My # has to be earned..I dont give it out to just everybody...but i'll meet you half way..give me yours and I'll give you my area code"

MONEY!

 

[thejuice]

"Ive had enough of desperate women calling me at all hours of the night. Just give me your number and ill call you when i have time"

 

[The Real Deal]

"Ive had enough of desperate women calling me at all hours of the night. Just give me your number and ill call you when i have time"



LOL We have a winner

 

[dionysius_d]

I have to save that reply.. thejuice.