Nexus Polaris
Senior Don Juan
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- Feb 10, 2007
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Okay, twice in the last month, I have been blown off by women I had plans with. And instead of sitting around moping like an AFC, I did something with someone else.
The problem is that both times, I traded down.
The other night, I had plans with a HB7 I had been talking to. But she blew me off at the last minute and decided not to come out. So I went out to the party with my friends anyway and decided I was going to find somebody new to spend the evening with.
I gamed on several girls throughout the course of the night. Some hot. Some hideous. I just tried to talk to everybody I could to stay in a social mood and not be tempted to sit around by myself drinking all night.
I ended up taking home a girl I wasn't exactly attracted to. On the upside, this did something good for my ego in the sense that it proved that I apparently at least have enough value that if I get blown off, I can go find a replacement. Thus I shouldn't get hung up on one girl.
However, on the downside, I really wasn't into the girl I ended up taking home.
My best female friend said that maybe I should just practice on gaming on UGs for awhile to build up my skills and confidence before moving up to hotter girls.
While it sounds like a good idea logically (since I've been striking out with a lot of HB8s and up, and it's been hurting my progress and confidence), I really don't like the idea of having to sleep with a bunch of girls I don't want to be with before I get to be with the one I like.
So is it a better idea to practice gaming on UGs to build up my skills and confidence with more routine success or to continue just talking to the girls I want to be with and striking out more often and spending more nights alone which might ultimately hinder my building of skills and confidence?
The problem is that both times, I traded down.
The other night, I had plans with a HB7 I had been talking to. But she blew me off at the last minute and decided not to come out. So I went out to the party with my friends anyway and decided I was going to find somebody new to spend the evening with.
I gamed on several girls throughout the course of the night. Some hot. Some hideous. I just tried to talk to everybody I could to stay in a social mood and not be tempted to sit around by myself drinking all night.
I ended up taking home a girl I wasn't exactly attracted to. On the upside, this did something good for my ego in the sense that it proved that I apparently at least have enough value that if I get blown off, I can go find a replacement. Thus I shouldn't get hung up on one girl.
However, on the downside, I really wasn't into the girl I ended up taking home.
My best female friend said that maybe I should just practice on gaming on UGs for awhile to build up my skills and confidence before moving up to hotter girls.
While it sounds like a good idea logically (since I've been striking out with a lot of HB8s and up, and it's been hurting my progress and confidence), I really don't like the idea of having to sleep with a bunch of girls I don't want to be with before I get to be with the one I like.
So is it a better idea to practice gaming on UGs to build up my skills and confidence with more routine success or to continue just talking to the girls I want to be with and striking out more often and spending more nights alone which might ultimately hinder my building of skills and confidence?