gone to far...now doing time behind bars

[inzone50]

What do you do when you've been acting busy, and pulling back a bit. like missing her phone calls. not reply to her txts fast...not giving direct answers about what you are doing, not asking her about how her day was, you know the usual. But you did it to much or for to long and now she does the same thing back to you? Do you just view it as a game and not be bothered by it? How do i go back to her chasing me here?

 

[bachelor]

You wanna play hard to get but you dont want to do it too much. In your case, your analyzing it too much on when not to text or whatever. Go with the flow, but at the same time don't be too needy. I usually wait 10-15 mins in between texts and ignore some calls. If you do this alot tho you can agitate girls, so make sure to play a little hard to get but not overwhelmingly.

 

[inzone50]

You wanna play hard to get but you dont want to do it too much. In your case, your analyzing it too much on when not to text or whatever. Go with the flow, but at the same time don't be too needy. I usually wait 10-15 mins in between texts and ignore some calls. If you do this alot tho you can agitate girls, so make sure to play a little hard to get but not overwhelmingly.

but once i've done that and she is doing it back to me how do i undo this? she is all acting "zen" now.

 

[On Point]

lol, sounds like you found an interesting woman. She's nearly outgamed you.

Try to think of something creative or interesting to do. Look at it as an entertaining challenge. Don't be afraid to express some interest in her. The basis for most of the advice is to be different and interesting, playing hard to get isn't the only way to accomplish that.

 

[Obsidian]

but once i've done that and she is doing it back to me how do i undo this? she is all acting "zen" now.

bah, this is the result of being rude to people for no reason... (aka speed seduction)

 

[RogueWarrior]

Sounds to me like she's either on to your game or she's mirroring you which would be a good sign.

Try changing it up. Go forth and be C&F. See what happens.

 

[Dash Riprock]

Go with PUSH-PULL. Act like you're totally into her for a date or two then pull back again--keep her guessing. Plan something that takes thought and make sure it's FUN; no boring crap like 99% of all other dudes.

DON'T GIVE IN. She's playing u because she likes you and is "protecting" her heart. Be unusual, fun, humorous, AND a bit mysterious. It's all part of the mating game, u r not being "rude."

 

[inzone50]

thnx guys!

 

[God_of_getting_layed]

What do you do when you've been acting busy, and pulling back a bit. like missing her phone calls. not reply to her txts fast...not giving direct answers about what you are doing, not asking her about how her day was, you know the usual. But you did it to much or for to long and now she does the same thing back to you? Do you just view it as a game and not be bothered by it? How do i go back to her chasing me here?

this is why following the "be a challenge" advice from the gurus only ****s you. DONT DO IT. its okay to express your interest, just dont be a ***** about it. definitely dont act disinterested and aloof like a rock, you just fvck yourself when that happens.

this is why david D is full of it.

 

[inzone50]

so what i do now?

 

[Obsidian]

you might try what Dash Riprock said, but I don't really know

Imo, jumping through hoops to strategize how to conquer a woman isn't worth it.

 

[Play the Game]

Game Over. She's figured you out or she thinks you're an assh0le and wants to give you the same treatment as you're giving her.
There's a fine line between too needy, and jerk that you need to learn to walk.

In any case don't crack now, you'll just get kicked to the curb. Forget about her.

 

[Dash Riprock]

so what i do now?

Dude, she's hardly disinterested, don't forget about her. She's just gaming you back--chicks do it ALL THE TIME. Chicks are naturals at gaming. They test you--can you take it and hang in there?

Like I said, call her like nothings up, be up beat, fun, funny, and tell her you have *something* planned and you'll pick her up at a certain day/time. Don’t tell her what it is like every other dork does; play with her a bit. Chicks love INTRIGUE. Then, take her mini-golfing, dancing at a cool off-club, an event, whatever, there are 100's of unusual dates you can think up. Just don't be ORDINARY (like every other shmoe she dates).

Women are driven by emotions, raise her interest level by playing the game on her level--what she reacts to best.

Understand?

If you whiff, it's still good practice.

Be:
-Unique
-Funny
-*somewhat* aloof
-CONFIDENT
-Interesting
-And look good; like you care about your image

And then disengage for a couple days (no calls, no texting, nada) and start the whole thing over again. After a few weeks if you play it right, she'll be all over you.

This is NOT theory, it works WELL.

 

[Play the Game]

She's ignoring him back... that's not game, thats just being pissed off and vengeful.

 

[Interceptor]

A point that everyone should know is that part of being Aloof is to encourage Qualifying behavior from the woman we're interested in.
Don't goo too far into Aloofness for it's own sake or you might risk looking DISInterested in her. Big mistake. Don't go overboard on Aloofness.

And as far as being Unique. Well, for me, I take that as a given.
We're all Unique
What you want to do is be interesting enough (know how attraction works. and have an interesting life.) to let her realize how different you are from the chumps she's been dating.

Read the Book of Pook.

 

[Dannyrt34]

Then, take her mini-golfing, dancing at a cool off-club, an event, whatever, there are 100's of unusual dates you can think up. Just don't be ORDINARY (like every other shmoe she dates)..

I always use the original dates. Such as mini golfin, dinner and a movie. In my opinion these ordinary dates are great as long as you don't make them ordinary.