Going well after 2nd date, but now.....??

[Wannabe_DonJuan]

Hi All,

Well, I haven't posted or lurked here for a while, heck I remember when the forum had a different colour scheme ;-)

Perhaps I should cross post this in the > 25 forum as I am > 25 years old, but I will likely get more replies here, anyway here's my latest.

Of course thanks to those on here and all your advice, I have met a nice lady and have gone out on 2 dates. Things are going very well indeed (very well I emphasise), but how to progress from here?

Should I still see her maybe once a week? Should I see her more of her?

And what is the best way of broaching the subject of sex with her? I have gotten laid with women before, but never "made love" within a relationship. Do people sleep together but not have sex for a few times? Or is the first time you go to bed with a woman, also the first time to have sex?

And do you have any suggestions for keeping the situation and potential for future relationship well and alive?
I am not getting carried away, but things are going well, and I wish them to continue this way.

Thanks for any great tips you have - I see a lot here about picking up women, also some posts about maintaining a long term relationship, but not much about making the transition between the two.

 

[flexion_]

Ok...

First thing... you ask her out again when you have something fun in your life that you would like to bring her along. That could be tomorrow or a week from now.

About sex... Umm... have you kissed her? If you have then nature should work in terms of what to do next... her body language will pretty obviously let you know what do next and how fast. If you haven't then you better fast. You have been on 2 dates now so she obviously likes you...

 

[Wannabe_DonJuan]

Yeah sorry, I should add that I kissed her at the end of the 1st date, then on 2nd date we kissed a lot and holding hands etc. She is saying things like "I feel like we've known each other for a long time" etc.

So I hope this gives you idea of quick progression already!

 

[Dukester]

to answer your question about sleeping together...

Before we were even going out, i spent the night in my g/f's dorm. We didnt have sex. We made out- that was pretty much it.

And I've slept w/ other girls, and done absolutely nothing w/ them (but "cuddle" as i guess you could call it)

So I say no- sleeping w/ a woman does not always mean sex, or you have to have it.