Going to Parties alone...

[hjsknksbm]

Whenever my friends and I go to parties I feel that I usually end up following them and it demotivates me from branching out. I usually ditch them or go to parties alone. Does this make me look like a looser because I don't have a click to be around all the time. I also have the trouble of letting myself into the circle of the conversation. I feel that alot of times I'm being excluded from people's groups, maybe because I'm unattractive? I don't know what the reason is, but people at parties don't seem interested in talking to me. I'm not a party person per say but I still make myself go to meet girls. I'm not nervous or anything, I just think that there are alot of superficial people at parties that don't share my interests. I'll have a few drinks at parties but I don't think it's fun to get drunk at all. I don't get crazy like most people do, when drunk i usually get quiet. I would appreciate help from my fellow DJ's.

 

[mystic03]

First, don't get drunk if you get quiet whrn that happens.
Also get friends that won't ditch you or you have to ditch them. Get friends that you have things in common with them. Maybe try to get a date from one of your classes....

 

[bonjove]

I would appreciate help from my fellow DJ's.

Well, the first thing I see from your post is that you have a severe negitive viewpoint in life. From your post I can tell that you see yourself as I quote:

I am a follower
I am a loner
I am not worthy of a woman
I can not hold a conversation
I am excluded
I'm unattractive
I'm not fun
I'm not interesting

Well, the most obvious thing I can tell you is to isolate yourself from these negitive feelings; because negitivity will get you no where in life. Learn to be positive and you will be happy, and when you are happy you feel worthy, and when you are worthy people will see value in you, and when people see value in you they will want to be around you and do what you want to do which means you will no longer feel isolated, and then you will be attractive.

Ohh yeah, and get a sense of humour and laugh some. That does wonders you know.....

 

[bonjove]

Originally posted by mystic03
First, don't get drunk if you get quiet whrn that happens.
Also get friends that won't ditch you or you have to ditch them. Get friends that you have things in common with them. Maybe try to get a date from one of your classes....

I agree with this, but remember that friends arn't 100% for anyone. They might be 75% for someone or 95% for someone, but don't ever rely on them to always be there for you.

Finding people with things in common is a good idea unless you have more negitives things in common than positive ones. Drinking for example can often end up being more counter-productive if you take it to an extreme.

Stand up and be your own person. People will either like you or will not like you. Always do the right things in life no matter what the cost.