Going soft - tried many things & REALLY bothering me!

[john1234]

try and change your diet!

 

[mark123]

Mark, did you read anything I wrote at all?

I did, bro. I actually agreed with you in post # 16.

Being less sweaty does not make you harder. That's just ridiculous.

I know, the way i related the 2 sounds ridiculous. THe point i was making is this:

I noticed that the WHOLE approach I have to sex, is one where i subconsciously put the female in position of power. Trying to please her, make sure she enjoys herself so much that she comes back for more & becomes a regular fvck buddy.

So i start with oral, try to make her orgasm, then when i penetrate, in the first 5 mins i try to rail her as hard as I can - and THIS is where I get really worked up & sweaty. So by sweaty, i meant my body indicating that im tired have to put in more and more effort to "keep it up"......just similar to the difference in ability to stay hard when you've got enough sleep the night before, are relaxed v/s if you had a long day and are tired, etc.

I already cut down on the time I spend giving oral at the beginning...maybe I should try a diff position (like u suggested) or a slower speed etc.?

 

[PDubb75]

Mark, I used to think pounding the sh!t out of her at the beginning was the best way to please her. I found out that isn't so much the case by accident.

I slept with this girl a couple times, doing exactly what you just said: Foreplay, then going straight into pounding the hell out of her. The third time, I felt like sh!t. My stomach was killing me since dinner, but I didn't want to call it a night. So, I took it slower because I just couldn't handle going too fast with how I was feeling. She went crazy over this, and for days was telling me how incredible that was. I've switched up my approach since then.

Try starting out slower, use your hips in a good rhythm instead of your whole body thrusting into her. Another method I used with rave reviews was going slow with about 3-4 thrusts going only halfway in, then one thrust going fully in (and repeat). The screams I got from this were ridiculous!

What I have been told by some girls is that going slower can sometimes feel better for them because they can really feel everything. They are much more in tune with what exactly is going on down there and that turns them on.

Give it a shot. Sometimes it's difficult to go slow. Some good R&B music helps!

 

[DonJuanit0]

Start this: http://urology.ucla.edu/workfiles/Prostate_Cancer/Kegel_Exercises_for_Men.pdf

Buy some royal jelly! It's natural and it helps with anxiety and increases libido! It does wonders, trust me! There was this girl I couldn't get hard with! We were in a LTR so it was a problem! I found those pills and started taking them, they helped! A lot!

If the problems insist a doctor is always helpfull and there's nothing be ashamed of!

 

[mark123]

So, I took it slower because I just couldn't handle going too fast with how I was feeling. She went crazy over this, and for days was telling me how incredible that was. I've switched up my approach since then.

Thanks for the tip! willing to give this a try...I do feel I have to pace myself to have better results.

Quick question - what brand of condoms do you use? Also, did u specifically ask girls how they like it etc? I always thought it was advised not to talk about one's performance with them, but i might be confused...

Buy some royal jelly! It's natural and it helps with anxiety and increases libido! It does wonders, trust me! There was this girl I couldn't get hard with! We were in a LTR so it was a problem! I found those pills and started taking them, they helped! A lot!

Thanks for the link. I started doing them a couple days ago, based on bethman's recommendation, and will have a look at this also..

Do you recommend any particular brand of royal jelly? I actually recently bought "now foods men's virility power", so will choose one of the 2. Don't want to go overboard with pills & over-complicate things since, like everyone on the board said - main thing is to relax, so that should be my main focus.

 

[PDubb75]

Thanks for the tip! willing to give this a try...I do feel I have to pace myself to have better results.

Quick question - what brand of condoms do you use? Also, did u specifically ask girls how they like it etc? I always thought it was advised not to talk about one's performance with them, but i might be confused...

As far as condoms, I'm currently using Trojan Ultra Ribbed. They feel a little thicker than some other brands, so I wouldn't say they feel the best. But I got a great deal (72 count for $20), and they fit really well. I generally stick with Trojan, as I feel they fit me better, but some Durex brands I would say felt the best. Durex Bare I think was one of them that I liked. My roommate had them and I had to steal one from him. Back in college I used to raid the free condoms at the health center. That let me try some different brands. Should have been smarter about that though. I usually just went for the Magnums (even though I probably shouldn't have). Buy some of the small packs and test some out. Or ask any friends if you can try some of what they have.

Asking girls what they like... I say absolutely, unless its a one-night stand, or you are already in the process. Those questions could kill the mood, especially if she wants you to just take charge in the moment. If this is the kind of girl you will be seeing multiple times, I see nothing wrong with talking about what each of you like. It's in both of your best interest. I've always been really open with who I sleep with as far as that goes. I'll tell them straight up what I like, and ask specifically what they think of certain things I have done, or whatever.

 

[SharinganUser]

I noticed that the WHOLE approach I have to sex, is one where i subconsciously put the female in position of power. Trying to please her, make sure she enjoys herself so much that she comes back for more & becomes a regular fvck buddy.

Dude, just remind yourself that 1)she's worrying just as much as you are, and 2)she's there to please you.

So i start with oral, try to make her orgasm, then when i penetrate, in the first 5 mins i try to rail her as hard as I can - and THIS is where I get really worked up & sweaty. So by sweaty, i meant my body indicating that im tired have to put in more and more effort to "keep it up"......just similar to the difference in ability to stay hard when you've got enough sleep the night before, are relaxed v/s if you had a long day and are tired, etc.

I already cut down on the time I spend giving oral at the beginning...maybe I should try a diff position (like u suggested) or a slower speed etc.?

I think you need to stop worrying so much. Stop thinking about what to do first or for how long, as I said before, just focus on having fun.

Also, are you sure the girl isn't a starfish? It sounds like you are doing most of the work. That's never fun. Try getting her in cowboy or reverse cowboy to make sure she isn't a starfish.

Oh a starfish is a chick that just lies there no matter what you do.

 

[Zerro]

Mark, I used to think pounding the sh!t out of her at the beginning was the best way to please her. I found out that isn't so much the case by accident.

I slept with this girl a couple times, doing exactly what you just said: Foreplay, then going straight into pounding the hell out of her. The third time, I felt like sh!t. My stomach was killing me since dinner, but I didn't want to call it a night. So, I took it slower because I just couldn't handle going too fast with how I was feeling. She went crazy over this, and for days was telling me how incredible that was. I've switched up my approach since then.

Try starting out slower, use your hips in a good rhythm instead of your whole body thrusting into her. Another method I used with rave reviews was going slow with about 3-4 thrusts going only halfway in, then one thrust going fully in (and repeat). The screams I got from this were ridiculous!

What I have been told by some girls is that going slower can sometimes feel better for them because they can really feel everything. They are much more in tune with what exactly is going on down there and that turns them on.

Give it a shot. Sometimes it's difficult to go slow. Some good R&B music helps!

I have a girl who likes it hard and fast, that's what she was used to before me. While it would get her off a couple times it didn't work for me: too fast and your nerves get overstimulated to the point where your brain starts ignoring the signals. I'd almost go numb and couldn't come.

So I decided the next time we'd do it my way and I changed it up going fast to slow and back, which got her off twice as often as before, and it also got me off finally. The time after that I tried also keeping the penetration shallow at some times rather than always going deep, most of the nerves are in the first couple inches anyway so pretty much kept it so my head was rubbing right on her g-spot the entire time. That drove her so wild that now she likes the slow stuff.

And yeah, put her on top if you need a rest and make her do some of the work. Mine needed some encouragement as she's pretty submissive but soon she was going crazy while riding cowgirl. I couldn't stand a woman who wouldn't get on top.

 

[mustfirstregister]

if u play basketball 4h every 2 days like me. u wont have this problem. Just my 2 cents!