Going out with your professor?

[Live-n-learn]

1. Does she single you out for this type of attention?

2. See if this 'kind' behavior continues once the term is concluded.

3. No one can tell you what your moral position is; if you feel uncomfortable with her status, move on.

Thanks for responding, guys.

She is kind to students that haven't been rude. While I attended a few office hours to ask questions regarding the class, she is always inviting me to come see her if I have any more questions. I suggested to her the other day when we were "small-talking" that I may not be taking her class again next semester ("depends" is what I stated), she asked "depends on what?" "Depends, will it make all your dreams come true if I returned to your class?" "Yes!" Afterwards she again invited me to stop by anytime in the future just to talk languages (the class i took w/ her) and for snacks (we love food).

To see if this behaviour continues, there are 2 routes to go: either take her section or take another prof's section. If I take her night section, I can for one of those nights after classes if she wants to brab a bite. However, I actually don't wanna see her every week cuz not sure if that is a good thing (seems like i'm dragging it long)
Or I can take another prof's section, and see her 2 or 3 times at office hours but this limits the rapport building aspect.

I know that you guys are already thinking I've caught one-itis, and probably so. When she mentioned her fiance, it didn't faze me at all. I'm glad that she mentioned it before I made the move. This situation is new territory for me: older women who is classy, easy-going sense of humour, and seemingly genuine and kind. Coupled w/ her attractiveness (To me, she's an 8 in appearances only; she's on the skinny side, but I like skinny girls too), it's a deadly combo and I've never been w/ an older woman.

To SamePendo and Mental:
The only time I'm going to see her is at our exam next week. And then I have to see if I should take her section or another section or if at all, the class.

I don't mind getting w/ her as long as she is okay with it. That's like the boyfriend thing: if she's willing to look elsewhere during the relationship, then chances are she shouldn't be in that relationship anyways.
However, because they are engaged, this indicates more seriousness in the relationship versus just a boyfriend. Anyone wanna shed a light on the whole engagement ring on which finger issue? It'll be great for all aspiring DJ's to know before they approach in the future.

 

[SamePendo]

"Hey, I want to treat you with some food, why don't we go out tomorrow to grab a bite. You can even maybe convince me to convince me to take your class next semester."

Arrange, get her #. When you go out you escalate kino until you kino your ass off. And then you invite her over to look at your art collection or whatever and then fvck her. When you are fvcking her, you say "this is in honor of SamePendo" ... She'll think you're just crazy talking.

 

[PRMoon]

If you're too timid to do what SP says, I'd recommend you rally some troops to your cause. Arrange a post class or post exam get together with some people in your class and invite her. Make the place a bar obviously and use standard game from there. It'll be an easy no foul way to get her to go out because it's a group thing and she wants to be the cool hip teacher who's buddy buddy with her friends. I assume some of the kids in your class are cool and are at least friends with one another so the probably wouldn't mind going out for a drink either just to chill and hang out with eachother at the least, even if they have plans to go some where or do something else that evening. Lastly for you it'll be an easy way for you to get her to losen up a bit and see her outside of the class room in a not very akward way.

Hypothetically, you could gain her intrest and have you two be the last two in the place and see where that goes. Ideally she shows up, grabs you for shots and has you go back to her place for a priavate tutoring session.

 

[NorPacWolf]

You won't be able to date her if you take another one of her sections. Look up your institution's policy on this.

Suggest a get together after the course ends. See how she responds. Good luck. There's really nothing more to it than that.

Wolf

 

[Live-n-learn]

"Hey, I want to treat you with some food, why don't we go out tomorrow to grab a bite. You can even maybe convince me to convince me to take your class next semester."

Arrange, get her #. When you go out you escalate kino until you kino your ass off. And then you invite her over to look at your art collection or whatever and then fvck her. When you are fvcking her, you say "this is in honor of SamePendo" ... She'll think you're just crazy talking.

That's what I wanted to to do last time, but another fellow professor was in the office too, and was talking with us a bit during our small talk session. It would've been awkward if i asked for the number then and there as Norpacwolf stated, there may be some policy against it.

Since only the exam is left, if the opportunity is there, I'll ask. If not, I won't bother (i.e., other professors lurking around). If possible, I could make the opportunity to ask her. Right now I'm more concerned about finding out more about her (her interests, hangouts) so I may be able to find other women that may share similar personalities like her. Not sure how many more chances I would get at a older, classy, kind woman with an easy-going sense of humor.

I did a search and it seems like generally the engagement ring is worn on the left ring (4th) finger, but 1 site did state it can be worn on the middle finger (like my prof did).

 

[Live-n-learn]

Update

Just to update:

I sat on the other divided side of the examination room so I didn't get a chance to have a little chat with her after. Not a big deal. Now it's about whether to take her class section next semester or not. I'm thinking I should, whether the opportunity to ask her arises or not, and whether she accepts it, I'm cool with either.

My main concern is that I anticipate this one-itis problem to occur again in the future when I enter a new situation (like this one). This situation has revealed to me that I still have to work on this part of myself. The one-itis didn't occur until the past few weeks. Once again, it's unfortunate she is engaged.

Please feel free to post advice about handling a unique situation such as this one, how to go about it and what I should focus working on myself.

Thanks again for those who have already posted, and to those that will be posting.

 

[Gangster Of Love]

"Hey, I want to treat you with some food, why don't we go out tomorrow to grab a bite. You can even maybe convince me to convince me to take your class next semester."

Arrange, get her #. When you go out you escalate kino until you kino your ass off. And then you invite her over to look at your art collection or whatever and then fvck her. When you are fvcking her, you say "this is in honor of SamePendo" ... She'll think you're just crazy talking.

Hahaha. Next broad I bag, I will dedicate it in honor of SamePendo. He's a good man.

 

[Live-n-learn]

From a college professor:

What is your goal? if you want f-close her, do it now. Don't be shy about it, either. College professors think about fvucking students, so don't worry too much about it.

DO NOT take her class again. That could backfire. You're primed to fvuck her, though. You've just parted ways...

BTW, most colleges do not ruile against professors sleeping with students. It's not talked about openly, mind you, but it is, in most institutins, allowed, and it's a hell of a perk.

It's a little too late to close now (I would have, but the opportunity did not arise) as the exam is already over, and I won't be able to see her till next semester starts in a month if I take her class section.

The main issue now is not b/c she's my professor, but b/c she is also engaged.

I initially just wanted her sexually, but I think as I got to know her more, one-itis turned that sexual desire to a relationship desire. That was the obstacle I had to overcome. Now I'm not going to dwell on the situation with her as much, as I want to focus on how I can better myself so I do not make the same mistake again.

 

[Cod3r]

Game over...

You can always tell those that will get results, because they... GET RESULTS

You've been whining and contemplating for too long, u don't deserve to fvck her truthfully, no disrespect but next time ACT and then consult sosouave afterwards


-Cod3r

 

[Freddy1]

That wasnt his only issue. The issue of being accuse of sexual harrassment is a real problem dealing with anyone who works with you. Ive seen it happen in an old work place of mine so I know it can and does happen. Some things are not worth it. Besides that, theres tons and tons of women everywhere so theres always more fish in the sea.

 

[Live-n-learn]

Current Update

Thanks again to everyone who responded to the thread. I took the 2nd half of the course with her and after I handed in our final exam, I suggested to her we can hang out sometime to converse more. She suggested possibly going for coffee and to keep in touch via email. I already got my marks back for her class and they were very good (but I did put in the effort and was a top student in the class).

So I sent her an email earlier this week, suggesting to meet up late next week as I will be in her city anyways. I still haven't received an email back from her so it appears she is flaking. She is going on vacation soon, but I know she hasn't left yet. I will either just ignore all this completely, or send her an email in a couple of days asking if she is still alive. THen that is that.

If we do end up meeting, my purpose is just to understand where she comes from and to hang out like typical pals. If she really is flaking, I would be befuddled as to why she would treat me well during the year and suggesting a coffee place to meet (she put in that effort for nothing to come out of it).