My only success at clubs have been dancing with girls. Nothing more than that. For the record, I'm a 24 year old black male, 165-170 lbs and about 5'10''. I'm an okay dancer (I have enough rhythym to get by) and a decent talker. I want those with success in one night stands to give some solid advice. Let me know.
Going Clubbing Tonight: I WANT TO BRING A GIRL BACK TO MY PLACE
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sooooo, do you know a girl thats goin to be there? or you talking random girls? move around and look for girls eyeing you, if you are the least bit attractive they will be. if they make ec with you go up to them and say something ****y like " i saw you checking me out" or if you saw her dancing say "i figured i would help you with some of your dance moves" it's easy once you make the initial approach, sometimes they will do it...but don't rest your night on that.
1) My advice, and many of the veteran clubbers out there will probably agree: Be VERY sexual. Don't be afraid to show your sexuality. Having social value can't hurt either.
2) make sure you dance. Chances are all the 'foolsmates' will be out dancing. If your looking for a ONS, the 'foolsmate' is what you want.
3) If you find out a woman has a kid, you better be hittin' that. Chix with kids that go to clubs go their for one reason.
4) The girls that aren't dancing around the hours of 12-1 (if the club closes at 2 like mine does) and they're in the lounge area, many times they're looking for guys to hit it. Unfortunately, these are usually teh less desireables. But hey, ya never know.
I could go on and give you more general advice thats been listed over and over, but thats just some sh#t I learned through personal experiences.
2) make sure you dance. Chances are all the 'foolsmates' will be out dancing. If your looking for a ONS, the 'foolsmate' is what you want.
3) If you find out a woman has a kid, you better be hittin' that. Chix with kids that go to clubs go their for one reason.
4) The girls that aren't dancing around the hours of 12-1 (if the club closes at 2 like mine does) and they're in the lounge area, many times they're looking for guys to hit it. Unfortunately, these are usually teh less desireables. But hey, ya never know.
I could go on and give you more general advice thats been listed over and over, but thats just some sh#t I learned through personal experiences.
PRMoon
Master Don Juan
Recycling is a GOOD thingPRMoon said:
My clubbing experience last night was pretty disappointing. I dance with a couple of girls, got rejected by several, and I think that I missed an opportunity with a tall, hot latina toward the end of my night. She was sort of drunk when she approached me (by that time, my buzz was nearly gone) so I was hesitant while dancing with her (I let her do all the touching). Another guy came by and she went off dancing with him really closely, leaving me in the dust. A couple of guys standing around kept telling me how I blew it. I now hate clubs. I'm starting to think that bars are a better place to find one night stands because clubs seem more like a place that girls just go to dance. Aside from this one latina, no other girl really seemed willing. What do you think?
If you want to talk, talk to your friends. If you want a girl to like you, listen to her, ask questions, and act like you are on the edge of your seat.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
I heard this line from a friend of mine whos good with women, u go up to her and say "Listen we can either stay here for another hour and go home and stumble around and not know what were doing, or we can go back to my place right now and really ROCK!"
lol, i crack up everytime i think of this line
lol, i crack up everytime i think of this line
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Juan Man, well it's nice to see another brother on the sosuave page, haha.
Listen bro, I like to go clubbing alone, because clubbing is very easy to get chicks. Matter of fact, its the only place you go where you don't have to say shyt to them and be the life of the party and fvck all the chicks.
First off, you need to develop some heart. Your inner man inside, develop him, bring him out, you should feel it all in ya chest. Masculinity.
Next thing, don't go there and focus on the chicks, before you get to the club, repeat.........BEFORE YOU GET TO THE CLUB, be hype. When you get in the club, you bring your hypeness and connect it with the hypeness in there, and that's all it takes. You'll get ya dyck rode, you'll be the man of the party, and all you gotta do is PULL bytches out the club, don't start askin no questions in shyt, that just destroys the mood. Get yo car pull up at the doo, and start pullin them in. But listen bro, YOU GOTTA BE HYPE.
Listen bro, I like to go clubbing alone, because clubbing is very easy to get chicks. Matter of fact, its the only place you go where you don't have to say shyt to them and be the life of the party and fvck all the chicks.
First off, you need to develop some heart. Your inner man inside, develop him, bring him out, you should feel it all in ya chest. Masculinity.
Next thing, don't go there and focus on the chicks, before you get to the club, repeat.........BEFORE YOU GET TO THE CLUB, be hype. When you get in the club, you bring your hypeness and connect it with the hypeness in there, and that's all it takes. You'll get ya dyck rode, you'll be the man of the party, and all you gotta do is PULL bytches out the club, don't start askin no questions in shyt, that just destroys the mood. Get yo car pull up at the doo, and start pullin them in. But listen bro, YOU GOTTA BE HYPE.
ya i need help with the clubbing thing. went tonight and got nothing but rejections. id say about 8 in all. danced with one ok chick. after about 5 min and she wouldnt make out i just pushed her away.
im pretty disappointed considering the last time i went(my first time) i hooked up with a HB9. i cant believe how much i got rejected tonight. it was unreal. i did the move where i motion my head toward the dancefloor, got the rejection on that. i motioned to numerous chicks for them to come with me to the dancefloor, they all rejected me. i even motioned for one of the platform chicks to come with me, she shook her head. i was shocked. i also blew a kiss and smiled at one chick. she looked at me like i was on crack :crackup: . i suppose the good thing that comes out of all this is that im becoming more immune to rejections. the other good news is that i might go to a HUGE club that is opening tonight. its supposed to be PACKED. and i might go to the club i went to tonight again on wednesday.
what approaches work best for you guys at the club?? maybe i need to look at what worked when i hooked up with that chick the first time i went. i looked at her, made eye contact, waved and smiled, she smiled back, and i got over there. i want to get rid of the wave thing and just do something like a head nod or something. try it tonight. im also gonna try just blatantly pointing at a chick and smiling, and see what happens after that. any other ideas??
im pretty disappointed considering the last time i went(my first time) i hooked up with a HB9. i cant believe how much i got rejected tonight. it was unreal. i did the move where i motion my head toward the dancefloor, got the rejection on that. i motioned to numerous chicks for them to come with me to the dancefloor, they all rejected me. i even motioned for one of the platform chicks to come with me, she shook her head. i was shocked. i also blew a kiss and smiled at one chick. she looked at me like i was on crack :crackup: . i suppose the good thing that comes out of all this is that im becoming more immune to rejections. the other good news is that i might go to a HUGE club that is opening tonight. its supposed to be PACKED. and i might go to the club i went to tonight again on wednesday.
what approaches work best for you guys at the club?? maybe i need to look at what worked when i hooked up with that chick the first time i went. i looked at her, made eye contact, waved and smiled, she smiled back, and i got over there. i want to get rid of the wave thing and just do something like a head nod or something. try it tonight. im also gonna try just blatantly pointing at a chick and smiling, and see what happens after that. any other ideas??
I learned this the hard way,you cant be plain and blunt,"do you want to dance" doesnt work for me often. Im going to to try "Hey pretty lady,you think you can hang with me on the dance floor" after I eye contact and smile of course.
just grab them and dance. never ask them if they want to dance. just say lets dance, or just grab them as if you were in a candy store. Those actions alone show male power and dominance. Asking them gives them an option of yes or no. They should never be afforded an opportunity to choose whether they want to dance with you or not because you are always in control.
xxslavexx, you made a nice point about staying in control and all, but your advice is given based on the assumption and situation that you would already have talked to the girl and introduced yourself and what not for a few minutes, THEN grabbing her by the wrist or something and leading to the dance floor right?
hahaha i can anticipate a good slap in the face for some people who try this without doing the basics of talking to the girl first
but i think in order to actually bring a girl or two back to your place, you shouldn't really have the mentality of I NEED TO BRING THE GIRL BACK OR IM GONNA DIE type of thing you know? Just go there to have fun with NO plans or desires, and with that kind of laidback and cool attitude your confidence and game will pour out like water from a broken dam. That usually works for me when it comes to sarging the girls in public, so clubs will be no different.
In a nutshell: try clubbing w/o initial plans and desires, but have a great time with a positive attitude and getting the number(s) or fclosing will follow. Dont you agree?
hahaha i can anticipate a good slap in the face for some people who try this without doing the basics of talking to the girl first
but i think in order to actually bring a girl or two back to your place, you shouldn't really have the mentality of I NEED TO BRING THE GIRL BACK OR IM GONNA DIE type of thing you know? Just go there to have fun with NO plans or desires, and with that kind of laidback and cool attitude your confidence and game will pour out like water from a broken dam. That usually works for me when it comes to sarging the girls in public, so clubs will be no different.
In a nutshell: try clubbing w/o initial plans and desires, but have a great time with a positive attitude and getting the number(s) or fclosing will follow. Dont you agree?
I usually do the sneak behind and grind technique. I just move my body toward the back of theirs. I don't usually touch or grab them unless a girl is dancing past me, and then I'll try to reach for her hand. I agree with a lot of what you guys have said. Going in with a positive attitude and not expecting to hook up is probably the best mindset to have. Otherwise, you just get frustrated.