Going away to college

[Maxtro]

In August I’ll be transferring to 4-year University in Southern California, most likely San Diego State or Long Beach. I want to make sure that I can make the most out of the coming years.

My goals are simple. Do well in school, have a lot of fun and get a lot of pussy. As for how to do it I don’t know. I could easily spend my entire time in college doing homework and playing video games but that won’t get me anywhere. By nature I am not a sociable guy but I really want to change that.

Right now I’m deciding if I want to live on campus or have my own place off campus. The thought of living with other guys in a small campus apartment kind of freaks me out but are there any positives? Would it help in achieving my goals of; doing well, having fun and getting laid?

What can I do while I’m at school to have as good as a time as possible? I’ll be 27 by the time I start attending. At least I look 3-5 years younger than I am so I don’t think I’ll have a problem fitting in, looks wise. But I don’t act like a teenager or early 20’s kid.

Also has anybody been to those college or live in the surrounding areas and can tell me a little about those places?

 

[Bussey]

Well first I want to point out that you subconsciously put your priorities in the right order which is good to see.
1. Do well in school.
2. Have a lot of fun.
3. Get a lot of *****.

By nature you're not a sociable guy? By this you mean? You don't go out often? You don't like to go out? You don't have many friends? Explain... then I can give you some suggestions.

I just graduated college and it was a killer time! I'd definitely suggest that first semester... live on campus/residence. Reason being is that its a bunch of people all within 3 feet of you to meet.

Living off campus will provide you with excuses. "I'm too tired. Its too far."

Meet some cool people first semester, and then think about getting your own place. Chances are your first roommate you may not like. You'd both be strangers starting to live with each other, which is always a shock... but its good for breaking you outta your shell.

You're legal to drink which definitely opens doors... always keep a nice stash of alcohol, it says to other people "This guys a cool guy... definitely want to hang out/get to know this guy". Simple fact... alcohol + college = Fun + ***** lol... but likely not so much good at school.

TAKE ADVANTAGE OF THE FIRST MONTH! Trust me on this... everyone is new and looking to make friends and everyone is going to be nervous as for most its the first time away from home. First night, invite a bunch of random people back to your place for a beer. You'll instantly be the Alpha male on the floor because you made the initative.

Sidenote: If you're concerned about your age... don't tell anyone! It adds mystery to your persona... 'Hey how old are you??' 'Old enough to know not to answer a question like that.'

 

[DonGorgon]

College hos love older men and most of their sex is had with older men .. So you should be fine. Just make sure you have their drink or drug of choice on hand...LOL

 

[Sexual]

I'm a junior in college bro. I transferred to a four year because I was too busy having fun, drinking, and hooking up with chicks. I pledged for a frat, but I had to drop out because of the intensity of my upper division classes.

DON'T LISTEN TO HATERS.

Join a frat while its easy as a freshman, and the social scene alone will fulfill your sexual and social needs. Everyone makes new friends in college. The fact that their friends at the beginning are from a frat should be no different. You are paying for opportunity, not women and friends.

I'm at the University of Florida and there's a whole genre of women that are hard as fukc for me to tap into because I don't have certain connections.
Trust me, do it.

 

[Maxtro]

Well first I want to point out that you subconsciously put your priorities in the right order which is good to see.
1. Do well in school.
2. Have a lot of fun.
3. Get a lot of *****.

LOL, no the order was not done subconsciously. That's the order that I know I should prioritize.

My subconsciouses order is really

1. Girls
2. Girls
3. Girls

But I know that it's not right.

By nature you're not a sociable guy? By this you mean? You don't go out often? You don't like to go out? You don't have many friends? Explain... then I can give you some suggestions.

I don't go out often or I never go out. I don't have any friends at the moment or have I had any for a few years. But I plan on changing that once I start school. I'm generally a quiet person but I've been making more of an effort to speak up.

I just graduated college and it was a killer time! I'd definitely suggest that first semester... live on campus/residence. Reason being is that its a bunch of people all within 3 feet of you to meet.

Living off campus will provide you with excuses. "I'm too tired. Its too far."

Meet some cool people first semester, and then think about getting your own place. Chances are your first roommate you may not like. You'd both be strangers starting to live with each other, which is always a shock... but its good for breaking you outta your shell.

Ok it does make since that when you live with people they are already people you know. Breaking out of my shell is something I really need to do.

You're legal to drink which definitely opens doors... always keep a nice stash of alcohol, it says to other people "This guys a cool guy... definitely want to hang out/get to know this guy". Simple fact... alcohol + college = Fun + ***** lol... but likely not so much good at school.

TAKE ADVANTAGE OF THE FIRST MONTH! Trust me on this... everyone is new and looking to make friends and everyone is going to be nervous as for most its the first time away from home. First night, invite a bunch of random people back to your place for a beer. You'll instantly be the Alpha male on the floor because you made the initative.

Alcohol is one thing I haven't considered. I rarely drink and the few times that I did I always got fucked up. I guess I'll have to build up my tolerance since I'll be hitting the big time

Great idea about the first night. It's definitely a way to get noticed. The floors are coed so it could be interesting.

Sidenote: If you're concerned about your age... don't tell anyone! It adds mystery to your persona... 'Hey how old are you??' 'Old enough to know not to answer a question like that.'

Yeah I plan on not telling anybody about my age. I can flat out lie or just dodge the question.

College hos love older men and most of their sex is had with older men .. So you should be fine. Just make sure you have their drink or drug of choice on hand...LOL

I'll try to take advantage of them err the situation.

I'm a junior in college bro. I transferred to a four year because I was too busy having fun, drinking, and hooking up with chicks. I pledged for a frat, but I had to drop out because of the intensity of my upper division classes.

DON'T LISTEN TO HATERS.

Join a frat while its easy as a freshman, and the social scene alone will fulfill your sexual and social needs. Everyone makes new friends in college. The fact that their friends at the beginning are from a frat should be no different. You are paying for opportunity, not women and friends.

The thing is I'll be transferring in as a Jr. and I'm kind of old. Is a frat recommended or still possible?

How would it even work out if your transferring?

 

[DoctorLW]

Like said elsewhere, join a frat. You are guaranteed friends, booze, and girls.

Of course it depends on the school, so research the greek scene at your school first. But, generally, frats are money.

 

[Maxtro]

Like said elsewhere, join a frat. You are guaranteed friends, booze, and girls.

Of course it depends on the school, so research the greek scene at your school first. But, generally, frats are money.

Anybody want to talk a little more about frats and how they work? Would it matter that I'm in my late 20's?

 

[Mad Manic]

Maxtro I'll give you one piece of advice, the only piece of advice you will need regarding this. Watch what happens socially, do not take it casually hoping/expecting it all to turn out perfect, purposefully try and be sociable and get yourself into a cool social group that goes out, meets girls, has status etc. Do not do what I did, was make friends with everybody, go out with everybody, then end up lost as to which group I should be in, then end up in none. Just make sure you target what you want and go for it. Live on campus, you need to be around people A LOT to get stuck into social groups. It's very cliquey and proximity and time spent together is very important.

MM

 

[MikeYikes122]

My advice for anyone who is going into college is to live on campus, but I'm worried you might feel a little awkward at 27 living in a dorm with 18-year-old kids. It doesn't bother some dudes I knew when I was in school, but I know it would bother me if I went back and lived in a dorm at 25.

You should look into whether or not USC has some on-campus housing for people who are older and possibly doing graduate work. I know my college did and we were a state school that is the same size as USC.

Outside of that, get involved in your school. That's kind of cliche' advice to give, but it really is true. And don't overlook this paragraph because I know many guys who post threads like yours do!! When I was in college, I wrote for the student paper, worked at the bookstore, participated in intramurals and did college Republicans (I'm not really a Republican, there were just hot girls there). Joining stuff and getting a part-time job is a phenomenal way to meet people and most importantly girls. In fact, I'm still really good friends with people I met in those organizations.

I used to have a handful of girls I juggled at my job, at college Republicans, and at the student paper. Eventually, they'll figure you out and out you as a player, but you won't have to worry about that for a long time.

It also really pays to get to know people in your classes during group projects and stuff like that.

 

[DoctorLW]

Anybody want to talk a little more about frats and how they work? Would it matter that I'm in my late 20's?

Being in your late 20's, you actually have a big advantage in a frat.

First a quick overview on frats. Generally there is a short period known as "rush" where all the fraternities are your best friends, buy you drinks, whatever you want. At some point rush will end, and you will have to choose the fraternity you think you would fit in best (if they offer you a bid). At this point, you will enter pledgeship.

Unless you go to school somewhere in the south (and even then), pledgeship generally is a joke these days. Of course, pledgeship sucks no matter what, even on its easier levels. Basically pledgeship for most schools consists of doing brothers laundry, getting them food, acting as a sober ride, etc. Of course, it can be much more than that... but I don't think a west coast school would have a difficult pledgeship. Of course, you should be aware that generally the better a fraternity is, the harder its pledgeship will be.

After you go through pledgeship you will actually become a brother. You will have developed a really strong bond with your pledge brothers at this point, so they will be your closest friends. You will also know which of the older brothers are arseholes, and which ones are generally good guys. As a brother you can reap all the benefits of a fraternity. Getting laid at a fraternity party might be one of the easiest things you've ever done.

As for how your age would affect you, this is what I've noticed for older pledges:

A) During pledgeship you will not be hazed nearly as bad as the rest of your class. Not sure why age influences this, but it does.

B) You can buy booze as a freshman. This is a big asset to have (annoying too, but worth it). You will invaluable to your friends (the closest of whom would likely be your freshman pledge brothers).

 

[Technical1]

Look for those girls that moved from small towns far away to the campus just recently. You can have a huge success rate with these girls if you just put in the effort. Realize that when you enter these girl's worlds you are one of a very few men promising stability and comfort in a new setting. The potential for rapport building is enormous; when you help someone to become comfortable in a new environment, they will want to fvck you out of sheer gratitude. Powerful stuff. Also don't be a slave to your frat, remain a free agent and move independently on your own time.

 

[Maxtro]

Thanks for the replies guys. I'm going to go over this thread every now and then as the time gets closer.

 

[BustedKnucks]

My little brother was one of the most antisocial kids I've ever seen. He transferred to a far away school, joined a frat, and lost his v-card and has completely come out of his shell.

 

[BMX]

I'll be transferring to a 4-year school in August as a sophomore, just 1 credit short of junior status. I plan on working out still, but in the school gyms, joining one club for outdoors stuff and another club relating to my major. I plan on picking up playing pool because they have like 25 tables in a row, with table tennis and a bowling alley right next to it (all on campus). So those activities should warrant me more social opportunities along w/ living on campus.

 

[BustedKnucks]

Living on campus is a golden way to meet new people. I'm a schmuch who's spent 4 years in a community college, but the time I've spent visiting my brother or hanging out in my ex's dorm, I've been exposed to hundreds of new people, and that's without even being a student there.