CG, my brotha,
I think what you might be looking for is this:
"The Don Juan Discussion Forum's 100% Guaranteed 3-Step Method to Having Wild Freaky Sex Orgies With Hot Preppy Sorority Chicks Every Night Of The Week And Twice On Sundays"
Unfortunately, no such web site exists. There is no sure fire, cut and dry way to attract women.
Hey, I'm a black EE nerd too so I feel your pain.(except for the white girl fixation, but that's irrelevant.) I've been through what you're going through. Like you, I was a nice guy who didn't know how women operated and I couldn't control my own desire.
Like you, I was rejected for being a Steve Urkel look-alike. I had the reputation around campus of being a shy, weak a$$ punk.
Sure, I had a few dates, a girlfriend or two. But they never lasted for two reasons.
1) I was always thinking with the wrong head.
2) I was an emotional slut.
So as expected all of them ended up using me.
I only had myself to blame.
But what got me through was my music. I've been playing piano since a was a small child. Whenever I felt bad about being alone, I channeled my emotions through a song. Music is my mistriss. (I have yet to find my wife.)
I also had my coursework. Its a good thing EE was as tough as it was. It forced me to focus on doing well in my classes and not be distracted my all the females that were rejecting me. Just curious...How are you doing in school? (You don't have to answer.)
I became a workaholic, working as a PC techinician part-time at a local hospital. I was overworked and underpaid. I saw overcrowded admit rooms, stressed out doctors who couldn't treat patients because the network was down, which put real-world pressure on me and my crew. Patients with gunshot wounds, blood stained ER beds, I was setting up computers next to crack babies in intensive care. I saw life. I saw death. I saw how silly it was to worry about having a girlfriend. I left that job thankful that I simply had my family and my health. It really put things in perspective.
Last July, I discovered this forum. The guys here have helped tremendously with my self-improvement process.
The hard work paid off and now I'm gonna be graduating in a week. I don't have a girlfriend, but this is still one of the happiest times of my life. I don't NEED a girlfriend. With the money I'll be making and the stability I'll provide, I will have a much different problem with females than the one I had in college (i.e. liars, golddiggers, drama queens). Now I'm the one doing the rejecting. Ain't life ironic?
My advice to you is this:
1) Self-improvement. Self-improvement. Self-improvement. This means prioritizing, lifting weights, managing your time, improving your looks, getting a job, etc. This will give you the confidence you're looking for.
2) Focus on doing well in school. EE is no joke, CG. Don't get distracted by your own fantasies. Remember why you're in college to begin with. It will pay off in the long run. Trust me.
3) Find something that you love MORE than women. Make that your mistress.
4) Stay on this site. This is a treasure trove of FREE information about how women think.
5) Join a club. Find an interesting club and mingle with the female members. This will improve your social skills.
Please CG, take this advice from a brother who's been there, don't obsess over your problem. I know you're pretty horny right now but you gotta learn to control yourself.
Take a break from girls and focus on yourself for a while. You'll feel alot better and less stressed out.
It does get better in the end. I'm proof of it.
Take care, CG.
'Survivor
PS: Just in case you do find the "3-Step Method to Having Wild Freaky Sex Orgies With Hot Preppy Sorority Chicks Every Night Of The Week And Twice On Sundays" website, please post the url so I can go there too!
[This message has been edited by Survivor (edited 12-04-2000).]
