god darn phones are gay

[Fenderules]

i must come off as a ****ing creep when i talk on the phone sometimes. I dunno i guess its only with this once chick she's hard to talk 2, maby shy i dunno. But i have to work to put up a convo. I sound total AFC im like "****" but its gay cause i run out of things to say. I think its just her cause she's quiet type. lol i never really dealt with quiet girls that much. I usually just dont bother cause they are not worth my time. But this one is really cute HB8.5 and i know she has a sexual side (i'v seen it at parties when her guard is down). Grabbed her ass a couple times i know i could have some fun with her but its just opening her up. o well im better in person.

Wuts your thoughts on shy quiet girls?

maby i should bug her about it. I'v tried teasing her b4 like "gee are you shy talking to hot greek guys" and she gives me a very serious response.

 

[jakeyboy]

gday mate...

yeah im had similar trouble with a shy girl. she seemed unwilling to open up to me and she always seems to give short answers that leave me with nothing else more to say on the phone

geesh.

anyways, how i handled it, i learnt not to talk on the phone with these sort of girls, with any sort of girls in fact. just give her a call when necessary, to make a date or something, but not for any other reason.

when you do go out with her its simpler to handle conversations because you'd be doing things (action dates), relaxes her and she gradually starts having fun and opening up more.

its different on the phone, where she is there, doing nothing, getting bored talking to you while you cook up lines to begin a new topic of conversation with her hoping she will "open up"

she doesn't seem to be much of a talker, don't talk so much, do dates, do action.

all the best.

 

[Fenderules]

on the bright side she didnt blow me off

and she said the only thing she is doing over christmas is packign stuff and moving and isnt going out at night.

 

[Fenderules]

yeah i keep the calls under 10 minutes. lol i'v bailed a couple times cause of that "awkward" silence. there was one today and i just said "hold on a sec" and pretended to move some stuff and tehn i got my train of thought back. Yeah its really retarded. She was at a party i had and seems fun but its just so stiff on the phone, if i had not seen her wild side b4 i would have never called her back. I just said to her on the phoen "we'll have to chill sometimes over the winter break" and then i said "come to think of it im going clubbing tomorrow, and i got a couple extra passes, you should come out with me and a few of my buddies for fun"
(she knows my friends so i figured it would be more comfortable)
She said yes
So if i cant open her up i can ditch her with my friends and go have fun with other gals.

 

[jakeyboy]

thats a good idea

however, you needn't try so hard to get her to open up...

tell you what, when you get there, leave her alone for say half an hour? let her have a few drinks, and soak up the atmosphere, then later on, get back there and dance with her. yes, dance. have fun with her, try to get some kino going with that and i think that should do the trick... she'll be having fun, she'll be relaxed, and more receptive to you.

 

[Fenderules]

yeah that was my plan

and i figured i'd just go dance with some other chicks to show her im not a gropping idiot. But im not gonna get too flirty with other chicks cause if she is shy, she might also be really insecure. I dont want her to think "he just invited me out cause we are friends" but i dont want her to think "he is trying to humor me but he wont leave me alone and im not having fun now"

 

[jakeyboy]

haha reminds me, i tried that once, danced with other chicks and left this other girl alone... when i came back to her later on this is what happened

me: hey

her: hi

me: so what have you been up to while i was on the dancefloor?

her: nothing much. i see you had a lot of fun with that group of pretty chicks

me: -looks serious- nono... -squints at her face and moves closer- not as pretty as you though... (then i kissed her. haha, a tad dumb, but it worked surprisingly. )

anyways, all the best with your chick, post to let me know what happened

 

[Fenderules]

one other thing

i dont really care 2 much about this girl. Im just gonna experiment with her using differnt DJuan techncies on the site so if (when i do) look like an idiot, its not that big of a deal. One thing is for sure though, im not using neg hits or gangi games on this one. I dont thin it would work. At first i thought she want interested in me cause she never really called, i always initiated the call but i noticed she is actually shy, only has a few friends and does not have guy friends.

 

[Fenderules]

[B}me: hey

her: hi

me: so what have you been up to while i was on the dancefloor?

her: nothing much. i see you had a lot of fun with that group of pretty chicks

me: -looks serious- nono... -squints at her face and moves closer- not as pretty as you though... (then i kissed her. haha, a tad dumb, but it worked surprisingly. )[/B]




yeah thats the type of stuff im talking about




if i do use a neg-hit it will be something like

"you know, I first thought your ass was fine but now that i got my hands on it (say this during/after dancing with her) i realize............(pause)...i was dam right!"


i guess its not really a neg-hit but i know she wont be expecting it

 

[DeathDealer]

Uh, there is no such thing as a quiet type.

How much 'louder' can you be on the phone. Both of you are talking. Both are you are in private.

If someone can't have a conversation with you that means you will not click with them.

What's a conversation? Simple, it's a mutual dialogue between two people offering topics or able to respond to each other add upon other things besides YES/NO answers.

This is how I gauge all my friends. I used to have a friend that was "Super quiet" but after thinking abit..wait a minute, it's just me and him in the car - no one else. Why isn't he asking about my life, or volunteering info or asking for advice. Then it clicked in. We don't click. That's when I started hanging out with friends that click better with me or at least make an attempt.

Here we join SOSUAVE to become a DJ to become a person who is social, fun, active - Why hang around someone who cannot offer that back to you or even try?

 

[Fenderules]

im trying a differnt chick for a change

i like loud outgain girlz myself. Its easier to hang around but i just wanna try something differnt. And the good thing is i dont care as much about ****ing up which brings more confidence. Like the phone convo went ****ty but i dont care, if she is gonna get all uptight about it then she can go **** herself cause she does not try. and she is the same with other guys 2, very stiff at first. some guys gave up but the ones that kept trying had her laughing a bit. (like me at my party)

 

[Fenderules]

one other thing...

im not really putting in that much of an effort, im going clubbing, if she wants to come then fine, if not o well. Im not actually gonna waste my time and set up a date between the 2 of us. I'll know by tomorrow wehre i stand


+ i might be going on a date b4 i even go clubbing with another girl. She is who im more interested. She's funny, outgoing, more sexy and extremely easy to get along with (perhaps 2 easy) and i know she is digging me.