This post is both a thank you, a tip, as well as me asking for some advice.
First off, I'd like to thank this forum. When I first started reading I was a skinny high school kid who played video games a lot and had no clue with girls. That was 7 or 8 years ago. The one thing I learned that made the most difference wasn't ****y-comedy or negs or any of that stuff, but it was the "inner-game", and I don't mean telling yourself how awesome you are in the mirror - I mean becoming the awesome person that you want to be. I learned to set goals and never let anything or anyone keep me from reaching them. If you really want to have success with women, you need to think about WHY you want to have success with women. And if it's "to get laid" you're being too superficial. WHY do you want that? Most likely it's to feel good about yourself. I read on here a long time ago is that your happiness shouldn't depend on anyone else. You should create a life where, if you had some freak accident happen and couldn't ever have sex again, you'd still think your life was pretty awesome. Ok, I'm still not at that point, I'd hate to lose my junk, but you get the point. When you think your life is awesome without girls in it, it will be freaking incredible with them in it. I'm not saying to ditch girls completely until you reach that point (although the article I read on here did say that), I'm just saying girls shouldn't be your priority until you're at that point. And it won't be hard to find girls who want to be with someone as awesome as you are once you get there. Trust me.
Now, I'm at a point where I am in need of some new goals. I made a list when I was 17 of the 10 things I wanted to do by the time I was 35, I'm almost 24 and have almost finished it
I've learned a LOT by working towards these, but the most important lesson (besides that you can do just about anything you set your mind to) is that most things you want to do aren't nearly as hard or take nearly as long as you think. Basically, I'm wondering, what can I do to improve myself further? Here are some things that I had on my list at 17:
1) Learn another language that's not Spanish (done. Fluent in Russian)
2) Learn to play a musical instrument (done. I can play the guitar pretty well)
3) Don't be skinny (mostly done. I've gone from skinny to thin, and it's been freaking hard, but I think in another year I'll be about where I want to be)
4) Own my own business (part owner of a summer sales company)
5) Be a millionaire (not done, but I've got over $100k in the bank from my business and am still in college, make $2,000 a month in residual income, and will likely make another $100k this summer. Plus whatever my stake in the company is worth, but I don't plan on selling so have no idea)
6) Get an MBA (I'm a year from getting my Bachelors degree in Russian and Business, so on my way)
7) Learn a martial art (currently taking Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu lessons)
8) Get a girlfriend (this one now makes me laugh, I was dating who I considered to be the hottest girl in my school by the time I graduated high school, so done)
9) Learn a cool sport (Snowboarding, this winter I learned to do front flips)
10) Get married (yes, that is a goal I have, I don't want to be 35 and single)
As for #5, I hate talking about how much I make or having people think I'm rich - I drive a $2,500 car and while I'm in school I work as an assistant for a professor and make $10/hour - so... pretty much everyone I know still thinks I'm a poor college student. I only mention it because hearing success stories like that was what inspired me to start taking my life into my own hands - or "grab life by the horns" as they say.
So... I'm at a point now where I've done or am doing all of the goals that I thought would take me 11 years longer than they did, and am now looking for some new things to add to my goal list. And this time they can be one's that might require a little bit more money. So far I've got the following:
1) Buy/learn to ride a motorcycle (if any of you are bikers, I'm thinking a Yamaha FZR, but if that's a bad choice I'd like to know)
2) Become a certified skydiver (costs $1300, but once you're certified it's only $25 a jump, which for the amount of awesome you get is basically free)
3) Learn to skydive with a skyboard
4) Learn to base jump
5) Learn to skydive/base-jump with a wingsuit (youtube wingsuit base jumping to see just how awesome this would be)
6) Get a private pilot's license
7) Learn to scuba-dive
8) ?
9) ?
10) ?
The problem I'm running in to is... this list will take me two years, tops, if I take my freaking time. Most likely I'll get it done in a year. Which is great, don't get me wrong, but I need some more stuff to fill the list. And I'm being generous to my list by counting 2, 3, 4, and 5 as separate items. So really I need like 5 more things. You may notice a theme of "it looks like he's trying to kill himself" going on haha. You can go with the adrenalin rush theme if you want, or you could suggest "get straight A's one semester" (actually not a bad idea, I haven't got straight A's since elementary school), what I'm saying is I won't call your ideas stupid - I'm looking for any and all suggestions. And this should be as much for you as it is for me - writing down a goal is just as important as thinking it, because until you've written it down it's just a dream and will most likely be forgotten.
First off, I'd like to thank this forum. When I first started reading I was a skinny high school kid who played video games a lot and had no clue with girls. That was 7 or 8 years ago. The one thing I learned that made the most difference wasn't ****y-comedy or negs or any of that stuff, but it was the "inner-game", and I don't mean telling yourself how awesome you are in the mirror - I mean becoming the awesome person that you want to be. I learned to set goals and never let anything or anyone keep me from reaching them. If you really want to have success with women, you need to think about WHY you want to have success with women. And if it's "to get laid" you're being too superficial. WHY do you want that? Most likely it's to feel good about yourself. I read on here a long time ago is that your happiness shouldn't depend on anyone else. You should create a life where, if you had some freak accident happen and couldn't ever have sex again, you'd still think your life was pretty awesome. Ok, I'm still not at that point, I'd hate to lose my junk, but you get the point. When you think your life is awesome without girls in it, it will be freaking incredible with them in it. I'm not saying to ditch girls completely until you reach that point (although the article I read on here did say that), I'm just saying girls shouldn't be your priority until you're at that point. And it won't be hard to find girls who want to be with someone as awesome as you are once you get there. Trust me.
Now, I'm at a point where I am in need of some new goals. I made a list when I was 17 of the 10 things I wanted to do by the time I was 35, I'm almost 24 and have almost finished it
I've learned a LOT by working towards these, but the most important lesson (besides that you can do just about anything you set your mind to) is that most things you want to do aren't nearly as hard or take nearly as long as you think. Basically, I'm wondering, what can I do to improve myself further? Here are some things that I had on my list at 17:1) Learn another language that's not Spanish (done. Fluent in Russian)
2) Learn to play a musical instrument (done. I can play the guitar pretty well)
3) Don't be skinny (mostly done. I've gone from skinny to thin, and it's been freaking hard, but I think in another year I'll be about where I want to be)
4) Own my own business (part owner of a summer sales company)
5) Be a millionaire (not done, but I've got over $100k in the bank from my business and am still in college, make $2,000 a month in residual income, and will likely make another $100k this summer. Plus whatever my stake in the company is worth, but I don't plan on selling so have no idea)
6) Get an MBA (I'm a year from getting my Bachelors degree in Russian and Business, so on my way)
7) Learn a martial art (currently taking Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu lessons)
8) Get a girlfriend (this one now makes me laugh, I was dating who I considered to be the hottest girl in my school by the time I graduated high school, so done)
9) Learn a cool sport (Snowboarding, this winter I learned to do front flips)
10) Get married (yes, that is a goal I have, I don't want to be 35 and single)
As for #5, I hate talking about how much I make or having people think I'm rich - I drive a $2,500 car and while I'm in school I work as an assistant for a professor and make $10/hour - so... pretty much everyone I know still thinks I'm a poor college student. I only mention it because hearing success stories like that was what inspired me to start taking my life into my own hands - or "grab life by the horns" as they say.
So... I'm at a point now where I've done or am doing all of the goals that I thought would take me 11 years longer than they did, and am now looking for some new things to add to my goal list. And this time they can be one's that might require a little bit more money
. So far I've got the following:1) Buy/learn to ride a motorcycle (if any of you are bikers, I'm thinking a Yamaha FZR, but if that's a bad choice I'd like to know)
2) Become a certified skydiver (costs $1300, but once you're certified it's only $25 a jump, which for the amount of awesome you get is basically free)
3) Learn to skydive with a skyboard
4) Learn to base jump
5) Learn to skydive/base-jump with a wingsuit (youtube wingsuit base jumping to see just how awesome this would be)
6) Get a private pilot's license
7) Learn to scuba-dive
8) ?
9) ?
10) ?
The problem I'm running in to is... this list will take me two years, tops, if I take my freaking time. Most likely I'll get it done in a year. Which is great, don't get me wrong, but I need some more stuff to fill the list. And I'm being generous to my list by counting 2, 3, 4, and 5 as separate items. So really I need like 5 more things. You may notice a theme of "it looks like he's trying to kill himself" going on haha. You can go with the adrenalin rush theme if you want, or you could suggest "get straight A's one semester" (actually not a bad idea, I haven't got straight A's since elementary school), what I'm saying is I won't call your ideas stupid - I'm looking for any and all suggestions. And this should be as much for you as it is for me - writing down a goal is just as important as thinking it, because until you've written it down it's just a dream and will most likely be forgotten.
