Go out alone

[zinc4]

i love going solo....and i also like going with friends to play pool and such and hit the nightclub later...

What annoys me though when going solo is sometimes a random girl...always a girl..will say something like you look so lonely...or where are your friends...you are here by yourself that is strange....their insecurity reeks...but i will also pick up a lot of these same chicks...they either say it to judge or to flirt with you....but on the flip side a lot of them still judge you for going out alone...lot's of insecure people out there that can't fathom going out alone...and it's always weak women

 

[WTID]

I think anyone that can't go out alone should forget woman and work on themselves

 

[playa99]

great thread this.. It's great to go out alone, daygame or night game, i can't think of any girls i've met not solo, whether that be at the gym, shopping or wherever, for night game, I will generally be out with pals and slink off on my own, my mates now are all the same, we will find women to game on our own, no worries at all!

 

[Eternal_water]

I tried going to a club alone before (through lack of friends) and it was useless.

I felt so awkward because I had no one to talk to or dance with. Tried a few approaches but I was so nervous, self concious and didn't know what to say that I just went nowhere.

I didn't enjoy it and I left pretty soon, not tried it since.

A couple of times when I go to a club with my friend he always pulls even though he's doing the exact same thing I'm doing and then I end up alone and again I have no idea what to do.


Going out solo just doesn't work for me

 

[plate's_empty]

I tried going to a club alone before (through lack of friends) and it was useless.

I felt so awkward because I had no one to talk to or dance with. Tried a few approaches but I was so nervous, self concious and didn't know what to say that I just went nowhere.

I didn't enjoy it and I left pretty soon, not tried it since.

A couple of times when I go to a club with my friend he always pulls even though he's doing the exact same thing I'm doing and then I end up alone and again I have no idea what to do.


Going out solo just doesn't work for me

When I'm alone at a bar I rarely do cold approaches, unless I'm getting major IOI's. I try to hang out in a central location (hopefully the bar, see earlier post). There's enough movement around for them to come around you, If so you can gravitate here or there as well, but I'd recommend staying in the same spot until you a reason to leave it.

I like medium sized places with live bands as well as espi and some of the other posters. They usually have T.V.'s going too (so, if the band takes a break, you can stare at something else besides the floor or the girl next to you) Sometimes I'll play pool. If you dance that's even better, if you're by yourself you'll become an expert and picking out the girls that are looking for a dance partner. And like I was saying earlier, if you're by yourself, there's a greater chance that they'll come up to you and ask you to dance.

You're going to be out of your comfort zone at first. But once you're cool with it, you'll realize that no one really cares.

I love going out alone. I feel like Mr. Mysterious and I operate better when there's no wingmen or group of dudes with me.

However I prefer to do it on non-weekend nights, i.e. when a conversation can be had. Weekends are generally date nights and drunk fests - and women will have their shields up and their c0cklblockers in tow.

^^^this too. If you can find a place that's good for weekday nights.

 

[Gunner26]

I never go out alone, it just seems a little wierd to me.

However I do wander off by myself alot of the time, whether that's to get a drink, or go find some other people out that I might know. It's normally during this time by myself that I end up finding a decent HB to talk to/make out with. I don't know why this is the case, perhaps because when I'm by myself I'm a little more aware of the women in the vicinity and take more care to get eye contact, as opposed to just standing around dancing with friends. I think this is why you see yourself as getting more attention, because you are focused more on the other people in the area, and are watching to see if they are infact looking a you.

I don't think I've ever pulled outside a club environment, so I'm probably a little biased, and wrong, saying that it's easier to pull in a club as opposed to daygame. I know that there is generally a lot less effort involved, most of the time it requires next to no effort on my part, a quick conversation or dance is generally all it takes, and I am by no means good looking, I'm average at best.

Gunner

 

[Dedication]

I'm tagging this thread to keep track of it, i'm going solo on saturday to a local bar in my hometown for the first time. If for whatever reason i end up not doing it, i will definetly do it the following week.

There will be a lot for me to learn and i'm feeling the butterfly's of fear and excitement at the same time. I'm going to report back to you guys and hope some will be able to give me some feedback.

I live in a town with 4 small bars, no clubs or anything else. My town has nothing for tourists to ever come visit so i think i'm going to be more social and fun than outgoing and risk taking. (Or is this the wrong approach? haha) Mainly because everybody seems to know everybody in one way or another.

 

[plate's_empty]

It's like you and I went to the same thought school on solo-sarging. I can tell that you have experience in this area.

Yeah...seriously, likewise. Good advice Espi. Before running across this thread yesterday I had never talked to someone with the same point of view that I have about going out alone. They can't quite grasp it.

 

[WTID]

I'm tagging this thread to keep track of it, i'm going solo on saturday to a local bar in my hometown for the first time. If for whatever reason i end up not doing it, i will definetly do it the following week.

There will be a lot for me to learn and i'm feeling the butterfly's of fear and excitement at the same time. I'm going to report back to you guys and hope some will be able to give me some feedback.

I live in a town with 4 small bars, no clubs or anything else. My town has nothing for tourists to ever come visit so i think i'm going to be more social and fun than outgoing and risk taking. (Or is this the wrong approach? haha) Mainly because everybody seems to know everybody in one way or another.

Good on you be how you want to be that way you will do it with integrity

 

[JT12]

Dude going out alone is awesome. No lame friends that gargoyle all night or act weird around women so they actually screw things up for you or they get mad at women for not wanting to dance. I use to have a friend that would go out and finally build up the courage to talk and ask a girl to dance and stuff and she would say no so hed get in a huff about it and want to leave. I think going out alone may seem crazy but its like "I'm doing this for me" and I want to have fun on my otherwise boring ass friday or saturday night. I'll be out at the bar dancing and talking with girls and having a few beers. It helps if you drink a steel reserve before you go out though. Like last saturday i went out with a guy who dresed like a bum and his hair was all messed up and i had to entertain him all night cause he kept following me around and finally i ditched him and i got a few dances in and convos with random strangers. The week end before that i went out alone and had the greatest time out of my life. I almost got a girl to come home with me but her friends came over and were like blah blah isn't going hhome with you shes really drunk and that got sqaushed. So idk it helps to have a wingman to put out flames but he has to be a good wingman not a weirdo.

 

[visions]

Quality aside, my experience has taught me time and time again that the WORST places to meet women are where they EXPECT to be approached.

The end result? Ironically "singles themed" events are where women are least likely to be receptive to a cold approach. I'm not talking about just clubs either. Any known pickup spots, singles cruises/parties, etc. They're all terrible if your goal is to meet someone.

Because singles themed places & events are where women EXPECT to be approach, the following happens:

1) Women at these places start to IMMEDIATELY size up men.

2) Women become HYPER-sensitive to ANYTHING you do/say.

3) Women look for ANYTHING to disqualify you. They don't like your nose? You're out. They don't like your eyebrows? You're out. Etc, etc.

4) The hypergamy wheel starts spinning in their heads. They're ALWAYS expecting a BETTER guy to approach after you. So they will wait out the entire night if they want (because they can) for the bigger, better deal.

TTEOT - as usual is bang on. If you don't look right, you will struggle. In a club, if I approach the right girl I can kiss close within a minute. (Obviously not all the time)
You have to pick your targets and you have to be able to TAKE the target, or you become that creepy guy that hits on everyone in the space of 2 approaches.

Honestly I prefer daygame. Solo to the club is my favorite way to go sarging clubs because I don't have to worry about wings fvcking up/ helping them out and can't feel bad about abandoning them when I grab a cab. But daytime girls are so much more receptive its unreal. You just have to say hi, have a sense of humor and a lil bit of kokkyness about you and the balls to ask for a number.

I prefer 80% of girls I meet daytime.

3 current plates met at.-
Gym.
Supermarket.
Social circle.(make this as big as possible for 'social status' and opportunities)

Meeting club girls rarely develops touch more than ONS- and I swear its getting harder lately to get that even. Or maybe its always been this way and I never noticed it before.

If you really want to slay some poon? Get a job as a barman.I did for 5 years and always picked up chicks with minimal effort. Plus you'll see a LOT of club approaches and get a real good idea of what it takes for the lafa who aren't rocking the "sexy new barman" status.

(Lol on a sidenote there was a poll set up on a website locally and I won it as sexiest barman in my town irrelevant I know, but hey I loved that status back then)


Hope this helps.

appreciate the feedback. it's nice to see the modus operandi of others.
it's been a long time since i went to a club (or any other night venue) to pick up a ho, so i started doubting my belief that clubs weren't as effective as day game...

in night venues, females are almost always in a group (and preselection, attention whoring, c0ckblocking/b!tchshields) are on full blast, hence making it harder to get the pick up. i began reconsidering after reading some success stories on here, but now i'll just keep them crossed off my list.

btw, all 5 of my lays last year were from daygame.

 

[TillTheEndOfTime]

appreciate the feedback. it's nice to see the modus operandi of others.
it's been a long time since i went to a club (or any other night venue) to pick up a ho, so i started doubting my belief that clubs weren't as effective as day game...

in night venues, females are almost always in a group (and preselection, attention whoring, c0ckblocking/b!tchshields) are on full blast, hence making it harder to get the pick up. i began reconsidering after reading some success stories on here, but now i'll just keep them crossed off my list.

btw, all 5 of my lays last year were from daygame.

Also realize that a TINY minority of girls who go to clubs are even open to meeting anyone at all. Clubs & bars USED to be a social scene a long time ago.

Now when you walk into a bar or club everyone is texting, taking pictures & uploading to facebook, or updating their facebook status and bragging about where they are, how much they are drinking, etc, etc.

Times changed, so change with them or be left behind.

 

[plate's_empty]

Any knucklehead can enter a club and feel like a badazz under the safety and guise of a group, but it takes stones to walk in alone and wrestle with the fear and discomfort of gaming solo. At the very least you'll build character. Remember that when you see guys in groups acting like rockstars.

^^^exactly, damn Espi. You're nailing these points. Girls in clubs and bars are used to roudy drunk guys feeding off each other's energy to go hit on them....giving high fives and winks to each other when they close her. Their shields are on over drive to these guys.

It's a breath of fresh air to them to see a guy out by himself, being relaxed and cool. When single girls go to bars and clubs...they want to meet a guy. If you're open, easy to talk to, smile, relaxed...you should be alright. If you feel you need your friends to be there to seem Alpha, I think you need to do some re-framing

I feel girls respect and actually admire a guy than can handle himself without his friends there for support. Plus, like Sam said earlier, it adds a little mystery. Which doesn't hurt.

 

[Mr Wright]

I have exams on at the moment but for my revision break, everyday I go and chat up the hotties around my local town for an hour or two. Of course I go out alone, get myself in a sociable mood by chatting to a few charity people, banter with them for a while, go into a shop and banter. Then make my first approach, just a simple compliment then go. Maybe another one and I'm ready to go...

I've also been to bars and clubs alone because I felt it was important to throw myself out of my comfort zone and realise that anything was possible. I usually do quite well when im on my own.

 

[Dedication]

So i went out alone and therefore i've done what i set out to do

It was the second time in my life i went out alone to a bar without meeting anybody there. I said hi to a couple of people, ordered a drink and chilled for about 20 minutes.

<The following is just a ramble post to get my thoughts out on paper>

Now that i think back, the people there where friendly and i think i could've started a converstation. It just feels wierd to me, whenever i am going somewhere and i'm waiting for the bus or train to arrive i can make conversation just fine. I know i have time to waste so instead of just standing there doing nothing i just might as well start a converstation. But when i go out alone there are thoughts that pop up in my head like: "wtf am i doing here?" and "people must think i'm crazy, being out here alone"

but now that i think about it, those thoughts don't make any sense at all. I'm there to have some fun, to chill out from a day worth of work. My friends all have girlfriends or are married or live pretty far away or just don't want to go out. So wtf am i going to do? Stay at home? Play video games? **** no! I'm just going to chill in a bar and socialize. In fact, not being there is actually wierd. Staying at home or doing some random **** i don't enjoy on a saturday evening, thats whats wierd!

 

[Purefilth]

So i went out alone and therefore i've done what i set out to do

It was the second time in my life i went out alone to a bar without meeting anybody there. I said hi to a couple of people, ordered a drink and chilled for about 20 minutes.

<The following is just a ramble post to get my thoughts out on paper>

Now that i think back, the people there where friendly and i think i could've started a converstation. It just feels wierd to me, whenever i am going somewhere and i'm waiting for the bus or train to arrive i can make conversation just fine. I know i have time to waste so instead of just standing there doing nothing i just might as well start a converstation. But when i go out alone there are thoughts that pop up in my head like: "wtf am i doing here?" and "people must think i'm crazy, being out here alone"

but now that i think about it, those thoughts don't make any sense at all. I'm there to have some fun, to chill out from a day worth of work. My friends all have girlfriends or are married or live pretty far away or just don't want to go out. So wtf am i going to do? Stay at home? Play video games? **** no! I'm just going to chill in a bar and socialize. In fact, not being there is actually wierd. Staying at home or doing some random **** i don't enjoy on a saturday evening, thats whats wierd!

Welcome to the team.

Isn't it a great feeling of - well- freedom.

 

[Dedication]

Welcome to the team.

Isn't it a great feeling of - well- freedom.

Haha i wish that was the case

My mind doesn't get it yet. Instead of letting me feel happy for the good things that i've done, it is going through all the missed opportunity's i had for not taking action. I guess thats a very ****ing good thing, because with a mind like mine I will only have to take action and while i'm relaxing my mind will figure out the rest. So with that i think i'll be doing a 2 month challenge in which i will:

- Go out 3 days per week minimum (Thur, Fri, Sat)
- Solo
- With objective setting that will gradually improve my game.

Now that i think about it, maybe 3 days is not enough. I'll write out a plan this saturday to get my solo experience started.

 

[Swampcamel]

This thread should seriously hit the DJ Bible. Good stuff, real pointers, techniques, reports. Awesome stuff, guys.

It's weird. Here at home I think durr weird to go out to the bar by myself I should get someone in the circle to come out, but when I'm travelling, I'm always sarging solo and doing just fine. Game's all in the head. Gonna go to some fvckin shows now that I haven't gotten anybody interested in going to cause I know this shjt is right on.

 

[Dedication]

Earlier i mentioned that i was going to come up with a 60 day challange plan. Well, i've started on it but i underestimated the serious preperation and planning that goes through making such a plan. Because i want it to be commited to my own plan i have to make some adjustments with my work and i have to take care of travel time and travel costs. *I live in a relative small town and i work in the evening, while i have to get up early*.

I don't like it that i didn't follow up on my words but i also want to take this serious on such a level that i won't have an 'excuse' to not follow through. In my spare thime this week i will be writing up and finishing the 60 day plan.

 

[Dedication]

Alright, i've arranged my job in such a way that i'm free from July to August. I am going to do the month challange in that period, i will start a new topic to keep a log.

I will also make sure that i have the money to pay for any expenses that will come up and still have money left over to pay for the entire next year of school. I refuse to go in dept

Lastly, i will make a statement. If i do not follow up on my own plan that i will create, i will quit SS and any 'game' site that i'm currently following. I must either get this aspect of my life handled or forget about it. No inbetweens where i linger about what i 'could have done'. I either do it or i don't.