Gladiators!::Approach Anxiety Competition!

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man, seems like this is doing a bunch of people a whole lot of good. As for me, the one girl i approached on friday that gave me major SOI/IOI's have completely shut me out. I was actually walking to approach her yesterday (she was walking in to the office and i was walking out) and she literally turned her head away.

I'm a bit confused because although i was slightly nervous in last week's convo and i rated it a 5.5/10 myself, the amount of interest i was getting before hand and the fact that i think i'm pretty decent looking, i thought i would atleast be alright. My nervousness must have been a major turnoff.

I've lost motivation to even talk to her anymore, one because my chances are slim now and two, i don't want to waste my time. Especially within work if i'm not getting signs of interest.

You college kids have it easy, since class it a great way to have some sort of connection.
 

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AAAgent said:
Current Participants: 18

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Deicide --(kind of iffy about you. you've been consistently approaching it seems but by your earlier statement i guess if its for betterment than i'll allow it)
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Duuude, did you kick me out or something? lol
 

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So I want to the cafeteria earlier today. Tryed to talk to this light skin girl with blonde hair and then outta nowhere the boyfriend came. Kinda awkward but I didn't care. I just stopped the conversation and kept it moving. Will try again this weekend.
 

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I'm hitting the club tonight, everybody with a college Id, gets in for FREE. I'm on fire right now, I've been going off and I'm going to continue this rampage!
 

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Gray The Prince said:
I'm hitting the club tonight, everybody with a college Id, gets in for FREE. I'm on fire right now, I've been going off and I'm going to continue this rampage!
Man holler at THAT! keep that fire going man.

good work guys.

On a side note, there is no escaping karma. This week, as part of the challenge, I told a girl to call her friend and tell him she was sick so I could go karaoke with her. Today, one of my plates text me with a big long explanation of how she woke up sick with a fever bla bla bla couldnt have lunch today like we planned, asking if we can hang out another day.

I text her back with a thumbs up icon and "feel better" about 2 hours later.

WHHHUUUMEN
 

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Man holler at THAT! keep that fire going man.

good work guys.

On a side note, there is no escaping karma. This week, as part of the challenge, I told a girl to call her friend and tell him she was sick so I could go karaoke with her. Today, one of my plates text me with a big long explanation of how she woke up sick with a fever bla bla bla couldnt have lunch today like we planned, asking if we can hang out another day.

I text her back with a thumbs up icon and "feel better" about 2 hours later.

WHHHUUUMEN

I struck out at the club, but no worries. I'm just gonna work twice as hard on my daygame tomorrow to make up for it!! :rockon:

Plus, after Spring Break, I'm gonna bust ass so I can play College Football. (I've been busting my ass, but not enough.)
 

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man whats up? failure stories are just as good as success stories? what happened? what didnt work for you? so we can all learn and kind of like secretly laugh at you, but mostly for us all to learn.

update on the flodge plate. she text me twice today while I was away from my phone about how sorry she was and trying to reschedule our lunch date for saturday, but Im thinking to myself aw commmooonnnnn b!tch please.

maybe she was really sick, but shes a 7, so Im gonna NOT text her back ahahahahahahahaha

Im actually gonna force myself to do more daygame. Nightgame is too ****in easy. Actually, next time I go to a club, Im gonna give myself a handicap and paint a clockwork orange eye makeup and see if I can get some poonana.

anyway, Im in manic mode. like charlie sheen manic mode. Im gonna holler at all of yall and wish you the best.
 

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Disclaimer: My goal is not to get a girl or go into a relationship. I just want to cure myself of approach anxiety..


So on tuesday I was at the library in my school and I saw this girl in my math class, she was waiting on this long line to go to get her book. I tried to talk to her but she really seemed out of it. It went down like this

GP: Hey, Jess, Didn't think I would see you here. So I'm assuming you are going to get the calc book?
J: yea....
GP: So how did do think you did on the test?
J: It was pretty easy, I'm not too worried about it. It is the other class I'm more worried about (We take two classes together) *Looks tired*
GP: I know this good website that can probably prepare you for this test. *says site name*
J: Oh I heard of that before. He's pretty good *Looks tired*
GP: I'm assuming you are tired
J: Yea, I had a long day today *she really did she was like this the whole class*
GP: Oh, I'll guess I'll talk to you later then.
J: Oh ok, Take care


Yea it is pretty boring, she was pretty out of it and I didn't know anything to say to raise her interest level. Any ideas?


Luckily I was talking to this other girl in my econ class, seems like the outgoing friendly type. I did a lot better with her around. I was C/F with her, kept her entertained even when I was walking in.

GP: *Walks in with a cheeseburger*
HB: I always see you with a food
GP: Hungry?
HB: Yea...
GP: Don't worry I won't eat too much *Takes a big bite out of the cheeseburger*
HB: *hits me* *******

We talked throughout the classroom and then she asked me if I had lab today. I said I couldn't really go because I didn't pay for this online course for the class (which is what lab was based upon). She offered to email me some excerpts from the book. So we traded Contact information (Email and number). I was about to ask her but she beat me to it. So does it still count?

I dont know how you guys cold approach I can't see myself approaching girls randomly outside the campus, I keep freezing up. In classes it is a lot easier to talk to people. Anyways any feedback/follow-ups are welcome.
 

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So I was at this party and I saw this light skinned girl

PBAJ: Hey wasup
Light Skinned Girl: I ain't tryna dance
PBAJ: I'm not trying to dance I'm trying to say wasup
Light Skinned Girl: Is that all you have to say??
PBAJ: Nah, Let me get your number.....
Light Skinned Girl: I don't have a cell phone...... I just have a dorm number...
PBAJ: You flexin
Light Skinned Girl: *Goes up to friend and ask if she has a cell phone*
Other girls: nah
PBAJ: O ok, Let me get your number then
Light Skinned Girl: Gimme your phone
PBAJ: I give her my phone
Light Skinned Girl: *Enters in digits*
PBAJ: *Then we danced*

Night game is too easy, This challenge should just be for day game only.
 

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Is it too late to join? I just saw this today and it looks like fun!
 

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You can join anytime, Just do a cold approach by Monday. You only have 3 days though.
 

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PrettyBoyAJ said:
So I was at this party and I saw this light skinned girl

PBAJ: Hey wasup
Light Skinned Girl: I ain't tryna dance
PBAJ: I'm not trying to dance I'm trying to say wasup
Light Skinned Girl: Is that all you have to say??
PBAJ: Nah, Let me get your number.....
Light Skinned Girl: I don't have a cell phone...... I just have a dorm number...
PBAJ: You flexin
Light Skinned Girl: *Goes up to friend and ask if she has a cell phone*
Other girls: nah
PBAJ: O ok, Let me get your number then
Light Skinned Girl: Gimme your phone
PBAJ: I give her my phone
Light Skinned Girl: *Enters in digits*
PBAJ: *Then we danced*

Night game is too easy, This challenge should just be for day game only.
Nothing like a little light skin make you forget your facebook girl. Well done man. :up:

She really **** tested you. Man please dont take offense to this, but lately black peoples game has been really interesting to me. Its completely different than the game that Im used to. Like the girls **** test way more than whites and asians, and the guys are much more direct. I freaking love this. You were just like BAM!!!! gimme your number.

hello
SH!T TEST
hello again
SH!T TEST
gimme your number.

well done.
 

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Yep, the alcohol played a part in it I guess.
 

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powpow said:
Nothing like a little light skin make you forget your facebook girl. Well done man. :up:

She really **** tested you. Man please dont take offense to this, but lately black peoples game has been really interesting to me. Its completely different than the game that Im used to. Like the girls **** test way more than whites and asians, and the guys are much more direct. I freaking love this. You were just like BAM!!!! gimme your number.

hello
SH!T TEST
hello again
SH!T TEST
gimme your number.

well done.

Yeah, that's why Black Guys are generally good at side-stepping shit tests. (Lol, I'm black and that's just what I generally see.)
 

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lol ya, I feel you Gray.
 

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In spite of what I told the threadstarter earlier, I want to remain in this competition. I just think I'm going off campus in public places for approaches this week. The week after that I'm going to East TN for Spring Break. I'm chilling out on the campus PU work until after spring break. Some unexpected drama can and could occur due to people running their mouths about me that could hinder my future success with women here(Small town drama bs, yes). But, I've worked too hard to stop doing this. :)
 

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BUMP!!! Let's go other gladiators, y'all only TWO days to post results!!



Oh and me and HBLatina went out on a date tonight. It was short, only 2 hours but I kinoed and made a lot of progress. At first, i was worried that she was going to flake on me, but when she asked what time to meet up, I realized that she was interested. (I asked her out)

We went to this place and only got a few wings, neither of us were really that hungry, so we didn't get much. I remember jumping from topic to topic nd there wasn't really any awkwardness from what I remember, I was def confident but hesitated at times. For example when we were going for a walk, the wind was blowing a lot and she said she was getting cold, which of course, was an obvious sign right there. I hesitated and only put my forearm on her shoulder. My AFC remnants were taking control after a about 2 minutes, I had a conflict with myself internally and of course she didn't hear it lol.

Earlier we were also talking about Batman and she said she couldn't remember a lot of stuff, and said she was going to end up rememering after I left. (another sign? lol)

My Inner DJ: Gray's arm needs to be around her waste. (She's pretty small so this is obviously no prolem)

My AFC: No! That'll make her feel uncomfortable and make things really awkward!

My inner DJ: It's a fucking date, obviously she wants Gray to touch her, plus she keeps playing with her hair and when Gray was all close to her sitting down, she liked it when he was close to her.

My inner AFC: We have to play it safe!

My inner DJ: You've been in control for YEARS and nothing you've done has ever gotten you far or laid. We're doing things MY WAY and MY WAY ONLY.

Next thing I know, my arms is wrapped around her waist and her head is on my shoulder. So she went on to spend the night at her friends apartment to go help her out. So, when we split, we didn't kiss, but when we hugged she put her arms around my neck and mine were around her waist, and she asked what my plans for tomorrow were, and I told her "Idk yet, this is rare cause I'm actually free this weekend." So we may doing something again today, either way, I'm gonna kino it up some more and see what happens next.
 

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I'm loving this thread. Don't have much interest in joining as I'm trying to stay loyal to my gf, but I would if I could.

Anyways, to all you guys who have the luxury of doing approaches on campus, you guys should continue what your doing and take it slow. These girls aren't going anywhere. Use this to your advantage.

To the rest of you not approaching in school, all I can say is go direct. That crap works. Something along the lines of, "Hi, I just saw you from over there and thought you were pretty cute so I wanted to come say hi and find out more about you. I don't have much time though." Girls will love it. Your showing that your really bold and confident since you were so direct. You also show that your interested in more than just their looks. And it shows that you go for what you want.

My last bit of advice is for everyone... remember to be SEXUAL. You want a women to be interested in you as more than just a friend or an acquaintance? Then flirt and be sexual. Women wont know your interested otherwise. It also helps filter out the ones who aren't interested.


Hope this helped. Good luck to you all. Keep me posted!
 

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*Flint enters the arena, the crowd goes wild*
"For those of us about to die we salute you"!
*Crowd goes wild*

haha Hey guys so my understanding of the task for this week was we had approach a girl in any setting, and go for her number. If we got the first girl's number then we were covered for the week, if we didn't we had to approach and go for another number and then we're good. If that's what we had to do then I passed because the first girl I approach rejected me but the second girl gave me her number.

Approach 1:

I enter this place that looks like a club although it was a little small for one. There's smoke machines, strobe lights everywhere, etc and I'm there with my friend from high school who is conversational but doesn't know what to do.

I see these three girls in this one area kind of near the bar but barely on the dance floor, and even though I notice there are dudes everywhere I'm like "Okay I'll be the bold one".


*Flint walks by three girls, stops, pats one on the shoulder with a smile and laughs*

Flint: "Guys I'm really concerned right now, like really concerned"

*Girls all look at me quizically*

Flint: "Well my dad told me that he went here for lunch last week around 1 and now I'm afraid he's a f*cking raging alcoholic.

*Girls laugh instantly*

We start talking about how they just graduated from the campus nearby, and how they're still partying like crazy. My friend jumps in kind of suprised that I'm talking with these girls. Later the dancefloor gets going and my buddy starts putting on his aviators which we all started to pass around as a joke.

Now although I had a funny opener and we were all talking I didn't build enough rapport with any one of them individually, so about 30 minutes later I go for a number and she wouldn't give it to me. Oh well.


Approach 2:

Walk into this other place. It looks like a bar in the front and a club in the back. I realize how important body language is and setting the tone once you walk into a place so I'm keeping my shoulders back, walking confidently etc. Luckily by this point as well I've had two mixed drinks so I'm a little more social and everything.

I go up to the bar and see this short girl (she's like only an inch taller than me which makes her like 5 2 or something) and she's ordering a drink.

I order my drink and notice that her drink is really clear, but I decide to tease her about it. So I tap her on the shoulder and go:

Flint: "Hey if there's more than one fruit in your drink that makes it juice"

HB7 laughs: "This is a gin and tonic you're nuts"

Flint: "Oh sh*t what are you Charlie Sheehan or something?"

HB7 laughs: "Noooo!" taps me (starting kino)

Flint: "So did you go to ______ university?"

HB7: "Yeah I did and I'm trying to become a social worker so there's no way I'm trying to be like Charlie Sheehan"

Flint: "Coulda fooled me"

*At this point we go back and forth for maybe 15 minutes and towards the end I mention I need to find my friend cause he's hammered, and she needs to meet up with her girlfriends. Lots of kino.

Flint: "Well hey it was nice meeting you, how can we meet up again?"

HB7: "Oh I'll give you my number."

*Pulls phone out, type in her name in my phone which she made sure I spelled correctly (score she's interested) and then typ her number*.


So I think that covers me for this week.


Announcer- "Flint is the victor!"

*Crowd goes wild*
 
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