Glad to be here

[JackRyanJuan]

What's up guys, glad to finally join the community! I've been a LONG time reader of SoSuave; I remember first reading Pook and AD's posts in 2002. At that time I was a junior in high school; now I will be graduating college, so I've changed a lot since then. Anyways, I've always loved the advice/articles given on this forum, so I decided to join to contribute, as well as get some help myself.

As far as dating goes, you could consider me somewhere between RAFC and DJ. It honestly depends on my mindset. Honestly, I know I'm nowhere near my potential, and I'd love some help from you guys on the way to getting there. In a couple weeks I will graduate from a big university where I regret not taking FULL advantage of the fact that there are hundreds of absolutley gorgeous girls at my school. I'm 22, turning 23 soon, and I don't want to waste any more time concerning this area of my life.

If I'm completely honest with you guys, I've got some inner game issues. Part of the problem is that I'm in a transition period as a person; graduating is one thing, but also in my core beliefs. There are many areas where I don't have a solid foundation anymore belief-wise, and this actually hurts my dating life. Also, I just don't believe in myself like I used to. Freshman year of college I was an approach machine. C&F was actually part of who I was; the next couple years I let this go and got lazy to the point where I rarely cold approach/ sarge anymore.

This post has gotten long enough, any advice is appreciated. Also, if anyone older/ mature for their age would like to discuss things in detail, shoot me a PM, I'd love to get real with this stuff. In the mean time, I'll do my best to contribute to the awesomeness that is SoSuave!

 

[JackRyanJuan]

bumping so this doesn't get fazed out

 

[KarmaSutra]

I meant to jump in here before but I got sidetracked. My apologies.

Now, onto your concerns. What holds you back now from approaching which never affected you before?

Since you're shifting into your next phase of maturity (The Workforce) what are your motivations and short term goals? This is where most guys get confused. You have such an onslaught of opportunity you don't have a clue as to which is your priority.

This, unfortunately, is only a question you can answer. But, think of us Mature Men as lightbearers. As Hermits carrying the lamp of experience who have traversed the void and made it through our youth with vivid memories and a keen eye for noticing bullsh!t.

Whatever you need youngbrother, whenever you need it.

 

[JackRyanJuan]

Karma: As far as career/workforce goes, I would love to write screenplays, or do something in the film industry. I have some connections, I just want/need more experience. Short term I would need to make enough money to move to L.A. and stay for a while to get my feet wet.

As for approaching, I let approach anxiety build too much now. I've only done a few cold approaches this year, which I think is way too low. The last number I got was from a daytime sarge of a girl in our study hall. I had seen her before, so I chatted her up; we vibed fairly well, nothing felt forced, and when I got up to leave I gave her my phone and said something like "here, put your # down in here." She dropped the classic "I usually don't give out my # to guys," which I thought was pretty funny. Anyways, I talked to her on the phone a bit to set up a date, but dropped it because I got way too many red flags. Since this I haven't really made much effort to approach.