Giving Sincere Compliments

[antidonjuan]

After flirting for a while with girls, I decided that I will give them a compliment or two and give it sparingly. But the problem is: I can't think of a compliment. I am used to tease girls and I think I would feel weird if I give a compliment. Are there good ones out there that I may use?

 

[rockman]

compliment something they're wearing, especially any jewelry they have on. I like to compliment on necklaces or bracelets, telling the girl that it looks really good on her.

 

[antidonjuan]

However I get the sense of complimenting a girl is AFC move, not a DJ.

 

[comic_relief]

compliments are very effective if used correctly.

I have used them very good. I usually go with something they are wearing or something that they have done that is compliment worthy.

They eat it up if you say it right.

comic_relief

 

[antidonjuan]

what do you mean by compliment worthy? what do they do that looks like it deserve my compliment?

 

[Groovy]

Guys, from your experience, how does it go to complement a girls looks?

 

[Cry For Love]

complimenting on looks lowers your value, any dumbass can do that. listen to what she is saying, and pay attention to it, learn to develop conversation, the skill to give compliments comes with it. i dont think its a good idea to give compliments before developing rapport, its definitely not a part of regular teasing

 

[Cry For Love]

complimenting on looks lowers your value, any dumbass can do that. listen to what she is saying, and pay attention to it, learn to develop conversation, the skill to give compliments comes with it. i dont think its a good idea to give compliments before developing rapport, its definitely not a part of regular teasing

 

[comic_relief]

Is it just me or is this thread ironic?

You want to compliment someone to make her like you, but yet in reality a sincere compliment has no ulterior motives?

Thats ironic...

comic_relief

 

[LostAndConfused]

What's work for me in the past is when you compliment a girl....and say "...but...." and neg her on the same piece of outfit.

For example this really hot brunette in my class was wearing these stylish boots, and I told her, "Hey...nice boots....they dont match, but they're nice!"

THat way you don't stupidly lower value by paying her something every other guy can give her.

 

[Bryce556]

what i find works really well is complimenting on somthing people wouldent normally compliment on, such as telling her how good looking she is, the clothing she is wearing is nice etc. Ive gotten really good responses when just seeing somtihng i like about her then complimenting her on it.
Such as i truly do really like her eyes, i look right into them and tell her how nice they are. or teeth
"wow you teeth are really straight and amazing, you must have some good genetics there, .......you mom must be pretty good looking think you could hook me up?"

personallity wise compliments are even better. "i like how you ____" or " i like the way you ____"

stuff like that gets pretty good responses, you have to smile and look right at her and laugh or have a serious then jokeing tone for certin things. all goes towards the compliment being sencere and/or her laughing and really enjoying it.

 

[Teh_Wolf]

I met this girl last night. it was her and some other people but i thought she was cute so i went to talk to them and at some point we got to talking about how old everyone was and how old people think they are sometimes. she was 17 but looked a bit younger lol and said that people sometimes think shes 14, and she didnt like it so i was like "awww you dont look 14" and shes like " awww thanks". then i said "you look more like your 13" they look on her face was amazing but she wasnt mad, i teased her all night and she was like "someone i dont even know is insulting me".

I bumped into her again today when i was getting lunch and i just thought she looked really pretty. when i met her last night i thought she was fun so i'd hang out and the whole time i wasnt trying to make her like me or anything just having fun. Some of you say that commenting on looks is like taboo, but i just thought she really did look nice and i wanted to tell her but my whole 'dont be an afc' thing stopped me and i wasnt sure. If you really are being sincere like the topic says would that have been ok, in like a normal situation? (this one wouldnt really have matter since im not really seeing her again)

 

[Bryce556]

to Teh Wolf, all i mean is that many people only comment on looks just becuse they cant see anything elese or it is the only thing they can think of because they feel a need to compliment. even if they do not truly want to compliment on that. If you want to compliment her on looks go right ahead but just make sure you make it sound like you really mean it. as alot of people just compliment girls on looks as a sort of an offhand remarke. I still try when complimenting on looks to bring it down to a more specific level. such as What is it that i like about how nice she looks? but general compliments like that are allways great better that then nothing at all. Just say what you are thinking you want to say trust your gut feeling.

 

[young_gun]

It takes a confident guy to give a woman a sincere compliment.

 

[SinJester]

This is a thread about compliments not negging

Seriously your looking to give a 'sincere' compliment but you was us to give you some to tell her? Doesn't work like that. Use your own judgement and observation, we don't know any of these chicks, and if we tell you what to say it's not sincere is it? If it doesn't come from you, and if you don't mean it, don't say it.

Every normal guy is always going to give compliments like 'you're beatifull' and 'your hot'. C-h-u-m-p. I think that's why negs and sincere complements both work, no other guy does them. I don't subscribe to a misygonist mindset so if it's going to make her day I'll give her a sincere complement, I just never do it the chump way.

Well as far as gaming goes I need to test it. To be honest I actually have rarely done it because I still have a community mindset. I end up negging and using c/f without realizing.

"Your almsot cute enough to get away with that... almost" My favourite neg

 

[Triple T]

I only give compliments, if girls do something different or if they have a characteristic that distinguishes them.
Such as making their hair, or them having a nice voice.

Like this one time there were two girls that had to present a song in front of our class. HB8+HB7
They were nervous and what not, so after the song I told them...that was great! You guys have great voices together.

They just blushed, asked for my name and said thanks.
Now everytime in the halls they smile at me and we've hungout a few times already.

 

[DismantleRepair]

Is it just me or is this thread ironic?

You want to compliment someone to make her like you, but yet in reality a sincere compliment has no ulterior motives?

Thats ironic...

comic_relief

Ah, the games we play.

Just like a gift, a compliment is a reward, not a bribe. Use them only if and when she earns it.

 

[antidonjuan]

how does she earn it? what does she have to do to get my compliment?

 

[The Grey Fox]

Compliments work really well! Just make sure to use them sparingly and that you demonstrate higher value, in that you are clearly happy with yourself and do not require any validation from her.

You can give a compliment when she has been a good girl to you