Giving advice on this website

[kidkoala]

I recently had one of my posts answered. And some guys said a girl didn;t like me. But i am writing this not out of spite or denial but because of something i heard. Tony Robbins says to always take every situation in the best light and even if the worst occurs at least others will appreciate your positive attitude and you will be able to cope with failure because you will only see the good. So in that light I want to ask everyone here a question. What is the point of answering negatively to a post or saying something like she doesn'lt like u? That kind of language only disempowers people. This is an idea that i would like everyone to consider. Who knows what effect our advice gives so we might as well empower people. Your thoughts on the matter are truly appreciated.

 

[DJoneday]

Because if from the post it's obvious that the girl doesn't like someone, then why would we lie to them and cause them embarassment by saying she does? Thinking positively is always good, but it won't change reality if she's already avoiding some guy like the plague.

 

[kiz]

in some cases, especially for super AFC's, it's much easier for them and us to tell them NEXT and to just have them move on rather than tell them that a girl likes them when she really could care less about the AFC.

 

[JSH]

Think positively by all means, but do not delude yourself.

 

[Mr. Debonaire]

because if afcs wanted to be positive, they could do it by themselves. people don't come to this site so someone can tell them to keep doing wrong what they are already doing, they come here so someone can tell them how to do it right

 

[Green_Day]

I was told I would get girls by fate. That I would just walk down the street and suddenly would see my soul-mate and some how have the confidence to approach her and everything. As a result of this I eventually became passive and had to find a site to motivate me (which I thank the posters of the DJ forum for motivation to get my life on track).

When people hear what they want to hear they generally become lazy or cling on to the false hope of something. During your lifetime you will walk past 1000s of girls better looking with better personality and more cash than this girl your talking about. I have attatched onto the false hope of girls before and its not fun when your friends say "she obviously likes you" and you end up getting rejected.

If everyone told you you could get any girl you want and stuff like that would you bother to improve yourself?

Maybe this girl does like you BUT don't put your life on hold for her ok? Still approach other girls. You see the reason why some people are pessimestic is because some people(not saying you are one) will just stop doing things they would otherwise be doing waiting for one girl.

Hope I helped and hope you get that girl dont forget though shes one OF a million not one IN a million .

 

[Mr. Debonaire]

Originally posted by Green_Day
shes one OF a million not one IN a million .

mad respect, love that sentence

 

[kidkoala]

Yo thanks guys. You had really good input. And I was basically trying to say that some people are way to damn pessimistic. And I agree with everything you said. Keep up the good work.