i heard the majority of y'all talkin' about NEVER EVER givin' her your number, but just askin' for hers... what about not askin' for her number... i mean, u approach her, talk to her then say "well g2g, i'll give u my number, call me if u want" then u give her a piece of paper with ur # or u dictate it to her or whatever... this is good for you, because you don't put too much emphasis on a single girl by not even askin' for her #... but it's also cool to her eyes, because you show u r used to approachin' girls and u really don't give about her... what are your opinions?
givin' your number first
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Dukester
Master Don Juan
good insight. i agree w/ the general opinion tho. and you get her number!
Maverick001
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Hi Guys,
I'm of the school of thought that says, get her number first and then give her yours later, after she's proven that she's not mental and is worthy of your attention.
This accomplishes a few things:
a) By taking the initiative and getting her number without giving her yours, you've told her that you're going to be moving things along. In other words, you're the one that's going to be leading.
b) If things go well, she'll either ask for your number at some point or realize that you'll give it to her AFTER she's cleared that first validation stage. In other words, she has to prove that she's worth giving your phone no. to, because you're the prize.
c) If she wants to be with you, she has to be flexible in her schedule and be or become available when you call and setup a meeting or a date. Your time is valuable and she has to compete for it against all the other things in your life.
d) You don't give up your power. You let her into your circle slowly, as YOU decide.
If giving out your phone no. first or right away works for you then run with it. However, if you haven't tried it the other way give it a shot and see how it turns out.
Just my 2 cents.
Cheers,
Mav
I'm of the school of thought that says, get her number first and then give her yours later, after she's proven that she's not mental and is worthy of your attention.
This accomplishes a few things:
a) By taking the initiative and getting her number without giving her yours, you've told her that you're going to be moving things along. In other words, you're the one that's going to be leading.
b) If things go well, she'll either ask for your number at some point or realize that you'll give it to her AFTER she's cleared that first validation stage. In other words, she has to prove that she's worth giving your phone no. to, because you're the prize.
c) If she wants to be with you, she has to be flexible in her schedule and be or become available when you call and setup a meeting or a date. Your time is valuable and she has to compete for it against all the other things in your life.
d) You don't give up your power. You let her into your circle slowly, as YOU decide.
If giving out your phone no. first or right away works for you then run with it. However, if you haven't tried it the other way give it a shot and see how it turns out.
Just my 2 cents.
Cheers,
Mav
This is like saying "Well, why don't I just wait for my girlfriend to propose to me?"
Giving her your number without asking for hers basically says "I don't have the balls to risk rejection, so I'll make you take my number and feel like I've accomplished something". You now give her all the power and control in taking the relationship further. Plus, most girls won't call first even if they have significant interest.
This is why getting her number is more important.
Giving her your number without asking for hers basically says "I don't have the balls to risk rejection, so I'll make you take my number and feel like I've accomplished something". You now give her all the power and control in taking the relationship further. Plus, most girls won't call first even if they have significant interest.
This is why getting her number is more important.
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Everyone's got different ways of exchanging contact information.
I personally believe in only giving her my number if she's giving me hers. If things are going well and I'm pretty sure that she's genuinely interested in me, I'll just say 'hey, let's exchange telephone numbers'. This has never failed me. Maybe it's because it's a little more casual and because it seems only fair that both parties would give out their number. Of course, I just ask for her number too at times too without necessarily offering mine.
Some women will call you if you just hand them your number or whatever, but most will not. I think it's because it puts the 'weight' of conversation on them and it almost comes across as her pursuing you instead of vice-versa.
A couple of things I've noticed on the exchanging of numbers and contacting of people once you've met....
1. If she offers you an e-mail address instead of a phone#, you're probably dead in the water. This hasn't happened to me, but a few friends of mine have been brushed off/let down politely that way.
2. If she tries to call you (esp. cell phone) and you _never_ answer, but only return messages later on, a lot of women become suspicious that you're screning her calls because you have a girlfriend or because you don't consider her calls to be very important. I'm not saying that you should be at her beck and call and answer every time on the first ring (!), but would humbly suggest that demonstrating some responsiveness and availability is important for keeping her interested.
Some women will call you if you just hand them your number or whatever, but most will not. I think it's because it puts the 'weight' of conversation on them and it almost comes across as her pursuing you instead of vice-versa.
A couple of things I've noticed on the exchanging of numbers and contacting of people once you've met....
1. If she offers you an e-mail address instead of a phone#, you're probably dead in the water. This hasn't happened to me, but a few friends of mine have been brushed off/let down politely that way.
2. If she tries to call you (esp. cell phone) and you _never_ answer, but only return messages later on, a lot of women become suspicious that you're screning her calls because you have a girlfriend or because you don't consider her calls to be very important. I'm not saying that you should be at her beck and call and answer every time on the first ring (!), but would humbly suggest that demonstrating some responsiveness and availability is important for keeping her interested.
Depends I suppose
I was at a party last Saturday and this girl I had seen around and even dated briefly some acquaintance of mine last year.
Anyway, we talked for a while. Everyone was drinking. ( I know, I know, but I love the booze)
Anyway I mention getting together and got her number.
I wake up the next day and notice a number in my phone. However, its a different name then of the girl I remember.
Turns out its not the girls number I thought it was.
I'm bummed.
Until on Friday night I get a call from this hot girl. I guess it turns out that I gave her mine, or she asked. (Like I said i was boozing, hard, apparantly).
She called and then I called yesterday. We plan to kick it sometime after Thanksgiving.
I guess it goes both ways. But she did call me, but it was weird (and cool at the same time) on a friday night.
I cant complain.
It does go both ways though.
I think I just made this thread more confusing.
I was at a party last Saturday and this girl I had seen around and even dated briefly some acquaintance of mine last year.
Anyway, we talked for a while. Everyone was drinking. ( I know, I know, but I love the booze)
Anyway I mention getting together and got her number.
I wake up the next day and notice a number in my phone. However, its a different name then of the girl I remember.
Turns out its not the girls number I thought it was.
I'm bummed.
Until on Friday night I get a call from this hot girl. I guess it turns out that I gave her mine, or she asked. (Like I said i was boozing, hard, apparantly).
She called and then I called yesterday. We plan to kick it sometime after Thanksgiving.
I guess it goes both ways. But she did call me, but it was weird (and cool at the same time) on a friday night.
I cant complain.
It does go both ways though.
I think I just made this thread more confusing.
