It didn't occur to me until the other day when a younger co-worker and I where having lunch. She started sharing her aspirations to start her own business and thought that I would be a great partner. She is drop dead cool and we have fun throughout the day, but there is no interest on my end outside in business or pleasure. I offered some advice from my perspective and that was that...
But it brought me back to someone I was completely amp'd on. At the time I was involved in a much higher risk/reward venture and facing a lot of difficulties - the kind I wouldn't wish on anyone. At one point she asked if she could get involved, but I declined because I did not want her to go through the rough ride that I been getting smacked with. I could not live it down if I got her involved and she got crushed as hard as I was. Looking back, she probably thought I was much more successful. Who knows, maybe we could have made a great team... and a part of me does regret not at least taking her up on it to give it a shot vs. judging her potential so abruptly. But our relationship and even friendship was not going as well as I would have liked and I did not necessarily want this smokin' goddess as a business partner where we would just be business partners.
Eventually, she caught on that I was looking around for something to transition into and mentioned that I should interview with her firm - I declined. Down the road, she started her own venture on the side with another girl and asked again if I wanted to be a part of it. Of course I wanted to help out and see her succeed, but I didn't want to get into it and take over their deal by being this dominant element in the mix. I said no, but did offer as much positive $00.02 as possible when we talked about it.
All of these instances where she asked me came up out of the blue in social scenes that were not conducive to serious conversation. Fvck, take some time, look me in eyes and let's get lost in the concept.
Things between us didn't progress and I lost her. I don't think it had much of anything to do with these business propositions. She is seeing someone else and is super stoked about him. I can't imagine what it would be like to be working closely with her in my deal or hers while she is fvcking the sh1t of this other guy.
So.... my point. Is this typical???? Each time I declined very quickly and the setting was not one where we had any conversation of substance about it. But I keep thinking how many chicks are really not that aggressive at all and even the smallest move for them is a big deal. Maybe she was hurt when I passed on sharing what I was doing or being part of her new venture.
I am not really to excited about the prospect of having my #1 as a business partner or co-worker.
Has anyone else had this happen? I've had guys asked me many times to strike out and do something. I just think that it's a little more than a coincidence to have girls ask to do business with you, especially if you are aiming to get in their pants.
But it brought me back to someone I was completely amp'd on. At the time I was involved in a much higher risk/reward venture and facing a lot of difficulties - the kind I wouldn't wish on anyone. At one point she asked if she could get involved, but I declined because I did not want her to go through the rough ride that I been getting smacked with. I could not live it down if I got her involved and she got crushed as hard as I was. Looking back, she probably thought I was much more successful. Who knows, maybe we could have made a great team... and a part of me does regret not at least taking her up on it to give it a shot vs. judging her potential so abruptly. But our relationship and even friendship was not going as well as I would have liked and I did not necessarily want this smokin' goddess as a business partner where we would just be business partners.
Eventually, she caught on that I was looking around for something to transition into and mentioned that I should interview with her firm - I declined. Down the road, she started her own venture on the side with another girl and asked again if I wanted to be a part of it. Of course I wanted to help out and see her succeed, but I didn't want to get into it and take over their deal by being this dominant element in the mix. I said no, but did offer as much positive $00.02 as possible when we talked about it.
All of these instances where she asked me came up out of the blue in social scenes that were not conducive to serious conversation. Fvck, take some time, look me in eyes and let's get lost in the concept.
Things between us didn't progress and I lost her. I don't think it had much of anything to do with these business propositions. She is seeing someone else and is super stoked about him. I can't imagine what it would be like to be working closely with her in my deal or hers while she is fvcking the sh1t of this other guy.
So.... my point. Is this typical???? Each time I declined very quickly and the setting was not one where we had any conversation of substance about it. But I keep thinking how many chicks are really not that aggressive at all and even the smallest move for them is a big deal. Maybe she was hurt when I passed on sharing what I was doing or being part of her new venture.
I am not really to excited about the prospect of having my #1 as a business partner or co-worker.
Has anyone else had this happen? I've had guys asked me many times to strike out and do something. I just think that it's a little more than a coincidence to have girls ask to do business with you, especially if you are aiming to get in their pants.
