Guys I just need some moral support here...
I just broke off my friendship with a (former ?) one-itis. I guess if I am honest with myself I was partly only friends with her because I was hoping to get a bang at some point (get some of the scraps so to speak). But then again I did also want to be friends and do care about her (as a friend).
We work for the same organisation and our first half a year of training meant that we saw a lot of each other - almost everyday. After my foolish AFC moves at the start we agreed to be friends. We argued a lot like friends do from time to time. Anyway, there have been several times where we were going to end the friendship because it was getting quite heavy but we sorted it (or at least I thought we did). Things were going well until recently when the first part of our training finished. Courses have finished and there is no more coursework or exams. We work at different sites now. After this she started to avoid going out with me and reduced any kind of contact. She even started to give excuses when I didn't even mention going out at all.
Anyways, I figured that this b1tch has been staying as friends (or pretending to be) so that she could use me to help her with the courses and also make things easier for herself since we had to see each everyday. I just feel that my friendship has been betrayed. I would have been happy to help her even if she didn't pretend to be friends - just like I helped others on the courses. I know that I shouldn't let it get to me but it's easier said than done!
Anyway I told her that I have had enough of her sh1te and lies. I think I ended relatively nicely. Her reply was just 'OK then'. It was all done by e-mail because I just couldn't face speaking to her.
I am determined to stick to my decision but it is very tough to drop a friendship just like that - I have never had to do it before! It's hard to admitt to myself that I have been fvcked over by somebody I considered my friend! I will have to see her every now and again at work get togethers. I could avoid these as much as possible but i think it would do me harm in terms of social interactions with people from work.
I am still a wussy AFC even after the number of posts that I have read from this board. I am afraid that I will eventually give in and submit to this B1tch again. Any ideas of how to stay strong at times like these?
I just broke off my friendship with a (former ?) one-itis. I guess if I am honest with myself I was partly only friends with her because I was hoping to get a bang at some point (get some of the scraps so to speak). But then again I did also want to be friends and do care about her (as a friend).
We work for the same organisation and our first half a year of training meant that we saw a lot of each other - almost everyday. After my foolish AFC moves at the start we agreed to be friends. We argued a lot like friends do from time to time. Anyway, there have been several times where we were going to end the friendship because it was getting quite heavy but we sorted it (or at least I thought we did). Things were going well until recently when the first part of our training finished. Courses have finished and there is no more coursework or exams. We work at different sites now. After this she started to avoid going out with me and reduced any kind of contact. She even started to give excuses when I didn't even mention going out at all.
Anyways, I figured that this b1tch has been staying as friends (or pretending to be) so that she could use me to help her with the courses and also make things easier for herself since we had to see each everyday. I just feel that my friendship has been betrayed. I would have been happy to help her even if she didn't pretend to be friends - just like I helped others on the courses. I know that I shouldn't let it get to me but it's easier said than done!
Anyway I told her that I have had enough of her sh1te and lies. I think I ended relatively nicely. Her reply was just 'OK then'. It was all done by e-mail because I just couldn't face speaking to her.
I am determined to stick to my decision but it is very tough to drop a friendship just like that - I have never had to do it before! It's hard to admitt to myself that I have been fvcked over by somebody I considered my friend! I will have to see her every now and again at work get togethers. I could avoid these as much as possible but i think it would do me harm in terms of social interactions with people from work.
I am still a wussy AFC even after the number of posts that I have read from this board. I am afraid that I will eventually give in and submit to this B1tch again. Any ideas of how to stay strong at times like these?
