Give Me One Good Reason to Get Married

[the_govner]

This is my life:

I'm 25, built a semi fortune over the last 3 years and still going strong (knock on wood), I'm confident, keeping fit, chasing my dreams, and very, very happy. Thanks to this site.

Moreover, because of this, I feel like I can get any woman I want. I've been hooking up with all kinds of women. I feel like I can charm Giselle and Heidi if I somehow meet them at a club. Again, ALL THANKS TO THIS SITE.

I've never been in a long term relationship (3 months longest). I want to travel the world and meet all kinds of women (and hopefully not get STD).

Now I've been getting all kinds of pressure from the elders to get married, when I was AFC back in the day, this was obviously the future I sought.

I know marriage is the way to go. But this life is just preventing me from even thinking about it.

Can anyone change my mind? What am I missing? Is there a good marriage/settling down article I've missed out on?

 

[sodbuster]

No reason while you are in your 20's at all. Build your fortune and decide if you want kids. IF you want kids, find a mothering type,do a prenup and do it. But, depending on the state you live in[check divorce laws and maybe move there], it will do you more good in some states than others.

Another possibility is a Cook Islands asset protection trust. Basically, anything you put in there WILL be yours[if done before the wedding][but it won't stop the judge from giving her assets he can get to]. She'll be more willing to stay with the gravy train if she can't get a golden parachute for her jump into divorce court.

 

[thedeparted]

Why are you even asking this question?

 

[Metro3pilot]

Let me think for a minute ...ammmm hummmm ...

Just as I suspected .... I can't think of one ! ! ! !

there I go again sounding bitter and jaded ...

actually you might stumble upon that rare gem of a woman and she may give you a good reason ...

:rock:

 

[J Roc]

there are no good reasons to get married. you can have a long term relationship, be in love and have children without signing that contract.

 

[squirrels]

I wouldn't get married until you've found a girl that you SERIOUSLY think you want to start a family with.

That's the problem with society today. People worry about getting married before they've even found a woman WORTH marrying. Which inevitably leads to marrying the WRONG woman just for the sake of being married. That's why the divorce rates are so high in this country...marriage has become a game of trial and error, an act for its own sake, instead of a "make sure first" endeavor.

 

[Vulpine]

The only good reason for a man to get married is to provide a stable environment for children: to be a family.

Even then, divorce rates suggest that half of people who get married and have a family don't think about the kids. They should.

No kids? Don't get married.

 

[NewMan]

I'm afraid that the facts are against marrage. Even if you get a pre-nup, there is no telling whether this will hold up after the fact.

I really wish I could be more positive. It would be nice to think that you could find a quality woman and settle down to raise a family. Well, first hurdle is to find a quality woman - with no issues or baggage. Second, is whether or not she'll continue to be the same after she get's the ring.

Bottom line, it's to dangerous for men.

 

[guywhoneedshelp]

www.nomarriage.com come on read this

 

[puma183]

Been there, done that. I married my college girlfriend at 22, and was divorced right before turning 28. Life is much sweeter when you are not married. I am not saying don't have LTR's. But even your LTR treats you better and with more respect when she doesn't have you by the bal ...errr ... by the contract.

The only time marriage may make sense is when you are dead sure that you are ready to have children and raise them in a traditional two-parent family. Even then here are the odds that you will be facing:

- 70% of all divorces are initiated by women (the comedy is 99% of marriages are demanded by women)
- 95% of child custody (and resulting child support) is awarded to women
- 96% of alimony is awarded to women

In essence the ones doing the leaving, are doing the receiving. In economics, this is called Moral Hazzard. Read the newly published book "A Promise to Ourselves" by the actor Alec Baldwin. It details how the odds are stacked against Fathers in the western family court system. Glenn Sacks has a great blog about father's rights. It would be good to check it out if you have any future plans/dreams of parenthood.

It wasn't always this way. When people say marriage is a gift sent down by God to humankind, people are not talking about the type of marriage laws on the books today. Marriage/Divorce laws were completely re-written by feminist activists in the late-1960's under the guise of being "reformed". Some people may call it "tampered with". When in Church you say "I do" you may think that you are signing up to a marriage like that of the biblical Sarah&Abraham, but what you are really signing on to is a fraudalent business contract drawn up by certified man-haters and socialist-minded judicial activists in the late-1960s.

The above link by guywhoneedshelp is a great place to educate yourself about what these laws mean in detail. If you are short on time do a search on "no maam blog" and read the <<Marriage = Fraud>> essay. It will be 5 minutes well spent.

 

[Daydream Engineer]

go to mabtw.com

 

[MyBloodyValentine]

I think marriage can be a great thing. the stats are against it yet, but how many of those people got married because the chick got pregnant? or because they felt pressure to get married in the first place? there are many many other factors to take into account, but I think it is possible to find a totally cool chick worth spending the rest of your life with. especially if you want to raise a family. Paul Newman did it!

 

[MacAvoy]

Don't consider marriage until your at least 30 and have known the women for at least 2 years. Theres no reason for you to get married anytime soon, your not ready.

That being said, don't be scared of marriage just because many of the guys on this forum suck at life and can't keep a women happy and are now jaded.

 

[f283000]

if you find yourself a sweet girl with no drama that also has the face of an angel with an ass and boobs that make your mouth water, and she happens to be totally into you, then maybe you could consider it

 

[GaryUranga]

havign a family, thats the only reason Id do it

 

[jafyk]

Don't consider marriage until your at least 30 and have known the women for at least 2 years. Theres no reason for you to get married anytime soon, your not ready.

That being said, don't be scared of marriage just because many of the guys on this forum suck at life and can't keep a women happy and are now jaded.

Lol, your signature is funny and could very well be true. Are you trying to start a fight with Rollo? lol. I won't be surprised oneday if Rollo Tomassi becomes a household name.

 

[Rex Man]

The sole fact that you're looking for pro-marriage arguments says that you are indeed interested in marriage and that deep down you like the idea of getting married. I guarantee you'll be married before you're 32

 

[More Cowbell Please]

This is my life:

I'm 25, built a semi fortune over the last 3 years and still going strong (knock on wood), I'm confident, keeping fit, chasing my dreams, and very, very happy. Thanks to this site.

Moreover, because of this, I feel like I can get any woman I want. I've been hooking up with all kinds of women. I feel like I can charm Giselle and Heidi if I somehow meet them at a club. Again, ALL THANKS TO THIS SITE.

I've never been in a long term relationship (3 months longest). I want to travel the world and meet all kinds of women (and hopefully not get STD).
...

If you want to lose all that and more then get married.